| Nov 18, 2005 @ 7:29 PM |
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tallerthanmost
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When you date, why does it seem you have to go in order of what is socially acceptable?
In other words, it is very very frustrating to date and feel like you cannot ask a question without fear of being thought odd or strange, and find out after dating for awhile, that the woman your seeing, is not that interested in sex.
why is it a turn-off to ask a woman up front if she likes sex as much as myself? I know that if a woman I would date, would ask me that, it would be a welcome relief.
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| Nov 18, 2005 @ 7:36 PM |
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MarysPlace
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If you don't know and have to ask her, then she probably likes sex, but not necessarily with you.
What kinda question is this anyway? Could it be that you don't want to waste the whole date if a woman doesn't wanna go to bed with you? Ummm... how should I put it...? I'd skip you altogether.
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| Nov 18, 2005 @ 7:39 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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why is it a turn-off to ask a woman up front if she likes sex as much as myself? I know that if a woman I would date, would ask me that, it would be a welcome relief.
Can you go at least 5 times a day 7 days a week, upside down and right side up and any other way possible to mankind without wearing yourself out or getting knee rash? 
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| Nov 18, 2005 @ 7:59 PM |
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someone_me
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Dude! If you have to ask, you're not going to get you any anyways. Most women don't want a guy who asks for it, they want a guy who'll spark attraction in her and take the lead. How about next time you post a question asking how you can control your emotions and urges? From the sound of things, might be a better, more important question for you to ask. Heck, most women want sex just as much or more than guys do, they just go about it in a totally different way. 
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| Nov 18, 2005 @ 8:04 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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Dude! If you have to ask, you're not going to get you any anyways. Most women don't want a guy who asks for it, they want a guy who'll spark attraction in her and take the lead. How about next time you post a question asking how you can control your emotions and urges? From the sound of things, might be a better, more important question for you to ask. Heck, most women want sex just as much or more than guys do, they just go about it in a totally different way.
Im an animal, Im in my PRIME. Nuff said!
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 6:25 PM |
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Artemis122
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why is it a turn-off to ask a woman up front if she likes sex as much as myself? Granted -- S3X and Aggression are the Primary Instincts of Man, ASKing is just TACKY!!! 
Dude! If you have to ask, you're not going to get you any anyways. Most women don't want a guy who asks for it, 
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 6:37 PM |
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bevrice
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And what are you going to do if she tells you that she likes sex much more than you do?
Personally I don't mind anyone asking me that, maybe because of having been a counselor and people talking to me about that all the time. I do also know that sexual compatibility is of absolute importance, so before I get very involved with anyone, I want to know that myself.
Now, what are you going to do if I ask YOU that?
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 6:46 PM |
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The_love_Giant
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bevrice if u where to ask me that I would fall over laguhing because I would not know what to say
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 7:01 PM |
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bevrice
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LOL, well, now the shoe is on the other foot, huh?
I bet you ask women.
I thought that might give some of you guys pause, lol.
Maybe it is just because I am so much older than you?
Oh my, I would feel like a child molester, please disregard my post if you are under forty nine. lol 
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 7:06 PM |
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chinabull2000
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As a matter of interest, I was discussing sex with my date last night, she weas very forthcoming and honest about her needs etc, and so was I. Got a 3rd date with her tomorrow, and now we know where we both stand, and what we both want. 
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 7:17 PM |
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bevrice
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Really, china, that is the best way.
Now, will Santa bring me some new naughty toys, too, since I am scoring brownie points?
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 7:44 PM |
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Empath
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Most women don't want a guy who asks for it, they want a guy who'll spark attraction in her and take the lead.
Exactly!!!!
(Atleast, this woman does.)
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 7:47 PM |
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mzlara388
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I agree Empath. I want things to happen because the relationship grows. :) Well.... I could say so many other things about growing 
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 8:00 PM |
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bevrice
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And so you really fall for someone and find out that their sex drive is extremely low, and your is extremely high, that only leads for much dissatisfaction and unhappiness in the long run. It is no different to discuss your sexual needs than it is to discuss your emotional needs. Suppose you fall madly for someone who is into pain, rough sex, nylons and heels in the bed, toes, feet, and on and on?
I used to think the same way you do. I met a man online, talked to him on the phone almost all day everyday for a month, I went all the way to Florida to meet him. I got there, ,he kissed me, said I was going to be his love slave, and he was going to drink my urine and I was going to drink his. I said no thanks, I am going right back to Texas. Lesson learned.
No, it is best to know those things upfront.
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 8:07 PM |
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chinabull2000
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There are two separate issues here: asking for sex is completely different to discussing it!! I would never ever ask a date for sex, but I am happy and willing to discuss it up front, because even though I am flexible, there always has to be compatibility in all areas, including sex, for any successful relationship.
Sex will happen naturally when both parties are ready for it, not when it is asked for or pushed for, but it is great to know a little in advance what some of your dates' preferences and desires are.
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 8:09 PM |
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bevrice
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Yes, China, I agree.
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 8:22 PM |
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Mysterious_URS
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Sex will happen naturally when both parties are ready for it, not when it is asked for or pushed for, but it is great to know a little in advance what some of your dates' preferences and desires are
 China....nicely stated..!!
How about next time you post a question asking how you can control your emotions and urges? From the sound of things, might be a better, more important question for you to ask. Heck, most women want sex just as much or more than guys do, they just go about it in a totally different way.
Someone_me....another great answer..!!
IF you are looking for a RELATIONSHIP......s6x may be important, but NOT the most important, getting to know you/me cums first... 
JMHO
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 8:33 PM |
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painter007
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I dont understand sometimes all the fuss about talking about sex. You dont need to be explicit or describe every detail but for me it can be just a part of a conversation. I mean heck, look at how open most of everyone is on here, and then your gonna be with a date and turn silent?
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 8:37 PM |
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chinabull2000
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but for me it can be just a part of a conversation. I mean heck, look at how open most of everyone is on here, and then your gonna be with a date and turn silent? Well said Painter!
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 8:44 PM |
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