| Mar 26, 2008 @ 11:12 AM |
Emotionally independent...is that a bad thing?
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AnnieCatBlue
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I wouldn't think that it's a negative quality in a person. Maybe I'm wrong. Is it more appealing to the opposite sex to be clingy, needy, and helpless? If a woman is secure with herself, doesn't have alot of hangups and baggage, is handy around the house, and has a mind of her own...does that make her less datable? If those are strong and positive characteristics in a man, why are they viewed as bitchy and controlling in a woman?
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| Mar 26, 2008 @ 10:22 PM |
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Jeffky49
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Annie, there's nothing wrong with a secure independent woman, and that certainly doesn't make her less datable. And one who is handy around the house?  . I think the only men who are looking for clingy and helpless are controllers. I would see that as a big red flag.
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| Mar 28, 2008 @ 8:51 PM |
Emotionally independent...is that a bad thing?
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teddybearagain
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I'm not sure with what being handy around the house has to do with being emotionally independent?
I am dependent, yes, .. I can take care of myself, .yes, .. BUT, yes, always a but; .. for me anyway, it would be nice knowing that there were someone there for me to turn to. Someone I could go to and would in his own way take some of that "burden" from me. Don't we all really want to have someone available to lend support to us, someone who can take away some of life's heartache and burden, just by being there?
Also, as a woman, ..and here it goes ladies, ..go head and blast me, ..but, I want my man to be strong, and I want to "take the back seat" at times. For ME, to have him hold me and make me feel that I can "breathe", is a BIG TURN ON.
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| Mar 28, 2008 @ 10:10 PM |
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Jeffky49
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Teddy, I totally agree with what you're saying about being there for each other. Relationships are supporting each other on every level. If you notice in my profile I state that I don't believe in 50/50 relationships.........I bring 100% of my being and I would expect the same from my partner.
The point I was trying to make to Annie's comment is that it is usually a controlling person that wants someone who is needy and helpless.
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| Mar 30, 2008 @ 8:46 AM |
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exvagabond
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Is it more appealing to the opposite sex to be clingy, needy, and helpless? Hell no. An intelligent person who's not wealthy will take all the help he can get, and a clinger is no help at all—to put it mildly. If you're an emotional-dependent, and your mate turns out to be a cheat, then what? Or what if he dies? Well, if you're of the pet mentality, you'll just have to find another owner.
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