| Oct 29, 2006 @ 8:35 AM |
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ripley1965
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Hello and gm everyone 
How many of you would date outside your area and if you would,,what would be the limit? How about outside our state?
For myself personally,,,,ive done the long distance thingy and well for me,,,it SUCKS! lol Im one of those ppl who want to be able to go out on a date in the spur of the moment to a movie or a dinner or just do whatever, yanno? If the person lives 6 hours away, fat chance in doing that. As far as outside our state,,ive done that. Not only is it costly to fly back and forth (unless you win the Power Ball Lotto for cryin out loud! lol) but also who has the time?
Some ppl have done it successfully and thats pretty awesome. My aunt who lives in SE Mich met her now hubby who lived in the UP and 4 years later,,they are still happily married. Me,,,i have noooo patience! lol
So what do you all think?
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| Oct 29, 2006 @ 12:24 PM |
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mollysowner0429
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I have dated guys 40 - 50 miles away and I gotta say ~ it's a hard thing to do ~ all the driving back and forth. I think I'm gonna try to stick to my own area!
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| Oct 29, 2006 @ 12:50 PM |
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Danger
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well i can honestly say that i have had experience in the long distance relationships...it is hard, but if you have trust and patients...and LOVE...it should work out.
i would MUCH prefer dating someone that was closer thou, so you could see each other more often...but i wouldn't limit my outlook to being close to me.
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| Oct 30, 2006 @ 10:11 AM |
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lokkinforlove
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i have dated long distance, very difficult, you don't get a real picture of what the other person is really like, you let your imagination fill in the gaps and the time you are together, you are really with a stranger, because the phone calls, and other communication just aren't enough...just my one experience, not saying soulmates can't be found halfway across the world. i still would date long distance, but be much more cautious! live and learn.... 
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| Nov 1, 2006 @ 2:17 PM |
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sonyaem13
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I have dated outside my area and I have even dated outside of my state. Those relationships are very hard to handle. It takes a lot of trust and patience. I am not limited to staying in my area nor my state. But it is alot easier to date and get to know someone when you are able to see them often. My thought is that you should never close the door completely leave it open enough to get a foot in...and go with the moment and follow your heart.
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| Nov 1, 2006 @ 2:40 PM |
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ripley1965
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I agree that it can work and has for some people. The people i bought my house from met online. She was from here in Mich,,he was from i think Tennesee. 7 years and 2 kids later,,they are still married.
My out of state experience lasted 8 months (he was in Hawaii). He flew here twice (first time was for 4 days,,second was 2 weeks) and i flew there once for 2 weeks. Needless to say,,,it didnt work out. When you really want to be with someone and you cant, it really puts a strain on the relationship, at least it did in my case. Hearing a voice on the other end of the phone was just not enuff and not being able to be 'there' when problems arose and you needed to be face to face.
Unfortunately,,,,in my particualar area,,there really isnt a whole lot that i can see on this site. I belong to another free site (Plentyoffish.com) thats Canadian based but is becoming quite widespread here in the states. There is a bit more, but still outside of my comfort zone for dating. *ho hum*
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| Nov 1, 2006 @ 4:37 PM |
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sonyaem13
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There also is not much in my particular area...that is why I have broadened my search area :)
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| Nov 1, 2006 @ 6:25 PM |
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Danger
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ripley said: The people i bought my house from met online. She was from here in Mich,,he was from i think Tennesee.
well shoot if he is from tennessee, maybe they were cousins!
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 12:05 PM |
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kattsmeow
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I lived in Michigan for 7 years, then moved back to Ohio for a couple. Then moved back to Michigan and lived there for 22 years.
I know am happily married and moved to California.
You can read about this story over in the Success story's. My husbands name is Haban.
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| Nov 3, 2006 @ 10:00 PM |
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callmemax
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if one is only going to date someone within, say, 30 miles, and they prefer to live in a small town, their only chance at success is to move to another small town, every three or four years-- cause they'll have met everybody """close.""" the other alternative might be going online, with the realization that if it continues, one will be moving to be near, with the other. i retired to a small town, pop. of 3,300,,, and don't see myself hooking up with anybody locally. kinda think the internet offers a better chance of meeting one's """dream-mate""" just because of the numbers.
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| Nov 11, 2006 @ 12:27 PM |
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grumpybear2006
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I was dating a guy who lived in texas (army boi) and i lived in louisianna and then i moved back to this god awful state when he went to iraq its hard. It puts a big strain on the realationship and for us we decided to still be friends and we would try again when he got home from iraq if we were both still single. I guess sometimes you have to know whats best for each other even if it really sucks.
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 6:53 PM |
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mcopado
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I did it...I was in Missouri, she was in FLorida...Then I proposed, and moved to FLorida...tyhen reality set in...and 6 months later I was on a plane back to Missouri.
There is a certain excitememt/romance about it...Long deep phone conversations late into the night...figuring out what games can be played on the phone or online (Battleship works great as a phone game.) Cards and letters when you least expect it. watchihg the same tear jerker..Red eye plane flights for incredible romantic times together...but then reality sets in when you're in the same area...what you had each time one of you stepped off the plane was a honeymoon..No arguments, fun and great sex...
But the reality is you sleep alone more than you sleep together...and there's no spontanaiety...neither of you is going to show up at the other person's work with a dozen roses and a picnic lunch...no meeting for drinks after work...no curling up on the couch watching tv...
Nah, never again for me.
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| Nov 26, 2006 @ 8:31 PM |
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Seriouslyfunnylady
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Been there, done that and won't do it again. He was from Alaska and I obviously am in MIchigan.
Locally only.
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| Nov 27, 2006 @ 6:06 AM |
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Danger
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dang, and i thought 4 hours drive was bad! lol between the FL / MO and the MI / Alaska...hokey pete!
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| Nov 27, 2006 @ 9:45 AM |
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steveemac
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I would prefer not to, although my dating activity here in SE Wisconsin has been nonexistant as of late-so I'd be willing to give it a try again...
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| Nov 27, 2006 @ 11:08 AM |
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mcopado
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dang, and i thought 4 hours drive was bad! lol between the FL / MO and the MI / Alaska...hokey pete!
Like I said, it can be romantic and exciting...but eventually reality has to set in...If it is to work one person must then be willing to move, and be away from friends, family, the familiar...
And nothing beats having someone cuddled up on a couch with you after a long work day...
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| Nov 27, 2006 @ 12:51 PM |
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introspective1
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I am one of those folks who like to do little nice spontaneous things for a special someone, and that would be pretty hard in a long distance relationship. There is a certain amount of romance involved in those relationships, but then, as has already been said, reality sets in when you really are together for any length of time. And someone has to move out of their comfort zone. It's hard to take a long drive after a long and stressful day just to cuddle with someone. My limit is about an hour away, but the closer the better for me.........then you can see someone in pretty much a moments notice, and that's the best kind of relationship.....spontaneous!
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| Nov 29, 2006 @ 12:14 AM |
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sstiles1022
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hi
i totally agree
i met a guy on here from indy
seen him about 4 times then he said i need to move there
 nope not me
end of relationship 
sally
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| Nov 29, 2006 @ 12:42 AM |
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JJKITTY674
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Never again.
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