| Jan 1 @ 4:49 PM |
How do you feel about potential others who only talk about their ex's?
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home_nuff_alrdy
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I started talking with a man on yahoo messenger...and it seemed the only thing he could talk about was how long he was married, how she was the one who cheated on him, how the grown kids didn't like her anymore....on and on and on. Who wants to talk to someone that can only think about what happened in the past. Do you think he was over his ex? I don't. I told him it wasn't a good idea to plague potential dates with his past-marital woes. Guess what? He never IM'd me again. Which, that's okay with me...I couldn't handle it anymore anyway. So, I guess the answer to my topic is I can't stand it! If that's all there is, leave me out of it! 
[Edited on 1/1/2008 5:45 PM]
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| Jan 1 @ 6:17 PM |
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andyorange
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Sometimes the stories they tell are very funny. I don't mind a bit if the stories are interesting and/or funny.
Sounds to me like the story the guy you were talking to was neither.
Andy
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| Jan 1 @ 6:18 PM |
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andyorange
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Oh, Semper Fi
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| Jan 1 @ 7:44 PM |
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TroutFishing
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I live in the present, remembering the lessons of the past.
I don't join in discussions of how awful exes are, as we all
evolve and change over time, and negative thinking only
attracts more negative things.
That ex was at one time the most wonderful person in our
life. It might be best to leave it that way.
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| Jan 1 @ 8:14 PM |
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ColeyRene
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I think that it depends on how long its been since the person has actually split from someone. I am just now going thru a divorce, and catch myself blabbing things about my ex...not like I want him back, but because of the divorce, there are always new things that happen and have to be dealt with. I DO however, always realize that other people may not care, or really want to hear it, so I keep it to a minimum, and talk about those kinds of things with my close friends. But for sure, if its someone who has been separated, or divorced for a really long time, they have issues if all they can find to talk about is their ex, and what went wrong with it, then they need to get a life, and go find a new hobby to discover themselves....just my opinion!
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| Jan 2 @ 9:24 AM |
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home_nuff_alrdy
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Well, for one...he chatted about how long they were married. How she ended up with a close friend of the family that she worked with..I really think that he's not over her...but, I guess after being married for 33 years, it might take me time also. Especially since it wasn't me who wanted out of the relationship. I guess I shouldn't have been so hard on him.  As for me...when I'm out of a relationship, whether it was me or the other person breaking it off...I don't talk to anyone about it. (maybe if I had a counselor i might talk) I guess I just know better.
PS Hey Andyorange...thanks for the Semper Fi !!!  
PSS Happy New Year Trouty!!
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| Jan 2 @ 4:20 PM |
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TroutFishing
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Happy New Year Home_Nuff !!
Hope you had a rolicking celebration.
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| Jan 4 @ 10:57 AM |
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DJ1024
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he's not over her and my guess is he'd go back if she'd have him. he's not ready to date - are ya really missing his IM's?? like you said i'd suggest a professional counselor not potential dates. i wonder what he would have done if you turned the tables & started talking about your x?
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| Jan 4 @ 11:10 AM |
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home_nuff_alrdy
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Thanks DJ 
hm...i only have good feelings about my ex (most times). Even though we went through our rock em sock 'em stage. So, I wouldn't have anything negative to talk about....then he might ask why I wasn't still with that person; he did want to know why we split. I told him for personal reasons and left it at that, and HELL no, I don't miss those IMs!!
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| Jan 4 @ 7:31 PM |
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icq4fun2
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With regard to the thread's question, it's a deal breaker for me. This ESPECIALLY holds true for those that constantly complain about an ex that isn't doing their part with the children. While that is wrong, I'm not here to listen to that. I'm here to get to know her. It's one of the reasons I hesitate to date those that have minor children as I've had far too many bad experiences in my prior efforts.
EDIT: I might just add that I haven't thrown the baby out with the bathwater when it comes to those who have children.
As an aside, I do think fond remembrances of a lost loved one to sickness or tragedy are acceptable to a degree. However, non-stop discussion regarding that could mean they're not over that and that they might need to seek professional assistance over a kind ear.
Just my $.02.
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| Jan 4 @ 10:20 PM |
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home_nuff_alrdy
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Hey, everyone is entitled to their $.02!!
Love the part about the baby and the bath water!! 
Thanks for the input IC 
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| Jan 4 @ 11:58 PM |
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icq4fun2
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Love the part about the baby and the bath water!!
 
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| Jan 5 @ 12:42 PM |
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IB4U
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Nuff
Maybe the talk from them is because of deep heartfelt guilt on their part
in desolving the marrage or relationship, It normally takes two..
Guilt does rule some peoples lives..
Just sayin
IB4U
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| Jan 6 @ 11:30 AM |
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DJ1024
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maybe, but what she's saying is - who wants to hear about all that when your getting to know someone. not the best dating conversation. and if they're that hung up on the X, where's the room for a new person in your life?
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| Jan 6 @ 12:12 PM |
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icq4fun2
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maybe, but what she's saying is - who wants to hear about all that when your getting to know someone. not the best dating conversation. and if they're that hung up on the X, where's the room for a new person in your life?
Bingo.
Now before we completely get tied up in knots about this, there is something to be said about common cords of life, and how that brings and binds people together. What we're to guard against is the extreme in our own life as well as those we wish to include. At least that's my motto.
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| Jan 6 @ 1:15 PM |
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DJ1024
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that's true
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| Jan 9 @ 11:01 AM |
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ColeyRene
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I agree with the whole "room for someone new in their life" point of view...I just think that if it only happens occasionally, cut the guy some slack! I honestly believe that you cant just drop all memories and experiences that you've had with someone at the drop of a hat. If someone can do that, then they obviously dont have feelings...haha....but as far as going on and on and on about everything that went wrong, what SHE did wrong, and re-living the whole break up goes...yeah, I'd be running in the other direction too! I try to keep in mind that alot of people on here and newly single...it kinda helps ease people back into the whole dating scene and all!
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| Jan 10 @ 1:55 PM |
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jamison
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I MISS MY EX BUT MY AIM KEEPS IMPROVING...SERIOUSLY THE DUMB KUNT GOT TOO DRUNK ONE NIGHT AND PASSED OUT WHILE SHE WAS DRIVING... SOME DUDE PICKED HER UP AND TOOK HER HOME AND HAD HIS WAY WITH A PASSED OUT WOMAN...WHAT A f***ING DUMBASS BITCH
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| Jan 10 @ 3:02 PM |
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ColeyRene
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hahahahaha
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| Jan 11 @ 12:31 AM |
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tlk2little
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Darn shame isn't it. I only tell if I am asked. and then keep it short. I unfortunately have to stay in contact with her until my son turns 18, but for him, and him alone, I interact and am respectful.
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