| Mar 30 @ 8:53 AM |
Inspired by another thread, what is an honest man?
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odysseusMi
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Commentary in another thread begs this question....
What in the world is an honest man?
Everyone has their own opinion I suppose, but from what I can tell, there is no way a man can actually be "honest" and still be the kind of man that a woman would want to get to know. Furthermore, from what I can tell, there is no way a man is honest if he's looking for something other than what the woman in question has to offer.
Which brings us to the idea of initial interactions and dates from those one might meet, regardless of gender. What man or woman is going to bring all of himself or herself to the fore in the first few emails or first few dates? Isn't not presenting the true you the same as not being honest? Ladies, is a woman wearing make-up completely honest with a man when she first meets him? ( I'm not trying to troll or pick a fight ladies, but make-up is not being honest about what you look like... think about it for a minute.)
So what defines being honest? And please, I'm actually hoping for a discussion here about what characteristics actually embody honesty in the dating world as opposed to what eliminates honesty. In my opinion it is much easier to eliminate things then to actually define them. I am hoping to find the good here and keep this thread positive
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| Mar 30 @ 9:32 AM |
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RightWingRepublican
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I think that when i woman says she wants an honest man there is the underlying want for them to lie.
The old question "Honey, do i look fat in this?" honesty would be telling her that she does indeed look fat (if she does) and as men know that would be the start of a War if he was honest and told her yes.
Exactly HOW honest do we want someone else to be? I think that is a personal want that differs from person to person.
I personally want someone that will tell me i look awful if i do. I don't want to go out in public looking terrible and not have my man tell me.
I believe in either being completely honest or completely dishonest.
I don't like people who tell the truth about some things and lie about others. Pick one and stick with it.
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| Mar 30 @ 1:16 PM |
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patricia57
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The words "honest Man " it means someone who is:
Is still married and on a dating site or a man that only wants a women to take care of him...." sugar mama ". Men lie a lot... as do women... but ~ I mean when they tell you they have a great job, lots of money, are good looking ...... JUST BE HONEST !!
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| Mar 30 @ 2:53 PM |
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BIGRICK
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well i am not here to answer for all men but will try to answer for myself. here it goes!  first off if i had a women and she ask me does this make me look fat. if the answer is yes im going to tell her it does.i do care about other peoples feelings however i wont lie to make them feel good leaving myself to feel bad or unsure i done the right thing.threw the ages it has been said men cant figure out women so why try.but in my years in lifes travels i never heard a women say you cant figure out men  .so the question is what is an honest man? answer:
a man that done somthing wrong and will admit it and say i am SORRY!and a man that will say he will be wrong again someday. 
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| Mar 31 @ 3:07 PM |
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patricia57
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| Apr 1 @ 12:01 AM |
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countryfried721
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Let's see a honest man, When he say's he is a one woman man he don't cheat.
When he says he is going somewhere that is where he is. If he says looks aren't everything he doesn't ask for a picture in the next line.When he say's he is going to be there in times of need he is. In other words if he says it he means it.
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| Apr 1 @ 8:26 AM |
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not12bs
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Everyone lies....be it by commision or omission.....the trick is.....determining the level of "aversion" one has to doing so.....some are more than willing to be deceptive at the ready....others take painstaking effort to be truthful.....(by the way....us men do not corner the market here, women are every bit as deceitful....see above statement in regards to makeup) One thing about dishonesty...we all come by it honestly!
Funny thing I have noticed on here....some will engage you with conversation and when you reveal certain truths, truths that are in your profile to begin with, you are met with incredulous indignance almost! What? I know it says that in your profile but....I didn't think you meant it! (one person actually told me, after a few conversations, pleasant ones I might add, when I had determined maybe we weren't so compatible...."Good! I didn't want to have to be messin' with anyone elses kids anyways!)
One last thing....sorry for the rambling....but lets remember always, truth and perception are quite often two different things...
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| Apr 2 @ 7:15 PM |
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TroutFishing
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Sorry - I never lie - but i don't offer information that is not pertinent.
I gave up lying 20 years ago.
I see no need to lie yet.
I DO joke around and that involves less than the truth -
but otherwise - there is no need to lie.
Your results may vary.
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| Apr 3 @ 1:40 PM |
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not12bs
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anybody else see the irony in that statement....coming from a fisherman? (that fish was HOW BIG?) Just kidding Trout
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| Apr 3 @ 3:24 PM |
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funguy007
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Inspired by another thread, what is an honest man?
Ladies, when looking for a honest man, think Funguy007. 
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| Apr 6 @ 1:36 PM |
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wyldflwr34
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Tell you the truth....
I cant even remember...lol.
But, I think a lot of people on these postings are correct, each one in his/her own right. But, specifically, I do strongly agree that truth is only as true as its perception.
I dont know. I do like to believe there is black and white - right and wrong in this world. I suppose a lot of people also agree with that, or else we would not have a strong consensus on ethics, standards etc...in society. (thus laws etc...)
To me, a truthful, honest man, will do just that. When he's asked a question, he will answer it truthfully and to the fullest. Ommissions are just excuses to rationalize lying. Sometimes for the greater good maybe, but it still is rationalizing to lie - it is what it is.
Voluntarilly offering up info is another issue. If it is definately something the woman should know about (or boss etc) than they should fess up and handle the consequences like a man - the man that it took to be honest.... But if the person has information that really has no bearing on someone's life , than, I suppose a person is allowed to have their own "secrets".
Of course, these opinions of mine are good for both men and women. Truth is truth, lying is lying - gender doesnt matter.
Ya'll have some interesting threads! (smiles)
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| Apr 18 @ 10:12 PM |
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blueyes101
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I think the underlying issue here is, the women tend to believe a dishonest man will read their request and leave them alone. 
Reminds me of the great number of women who wear a ring on the left finger " to keep the bad guys away ". 
Assholes see that as a challenge, and any " nice honest decent " man will perceive you as already taken and leave you alone.
Dating means getting to know someone, look before you leap, and all that jazz.
I really don't see how a woman can't tell if a man is married or seeing someone else ? I'm sure this is reason for the question/statement.
I would think there are some obvious clues, but alas, that might be an idea for a different thread as well.
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