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How do you forget about someone that hurt you when they won't stay away??
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wawasweetie
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I'm trying to forget someone that has tugged on my heartstrings for the past 2 years.He feels he can come and go as he pleases without offering a relationship.He doesn't go out of his way to call or stop by,but stops in my job and acts interested.He knows he's hurt me before,but why does he keep doing it if it's obvious he don't want me.I'm interested in someone else now,but want to COMPLETELY forget I ever met or knew him.He seems jealous when another guy shows interest in me,but why should he care if he doesn't want me?Isn't that just plain sick behavior???
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 2:54 PM |
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FunPlayful
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yes he's sick
the best way to forget him is to start dating other guys get as many dates as you can and he will be like nothing to you in no time
book your calendar for the next month with dates from other men...they will be on your mind instead of him
you will forget about him because you will be thinking about them instead
this guy is messing with your head and you really do need to date other guys asap to get him out of your system
next time he comes in to work have the people at work escort him out. that should give him the message to stay away
one reason why guys do this kind of behavior...coming and going...is to make you crazy...its kind of like training a dog or a rat to....what he is doing is unethical
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 4:38 PM |
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st93
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get a prohibition order slapped on him..!
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 4:45 PM |
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Strandedboarder
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Protection orders aren't work the paper they're printed on.
Get a gun. If he bothers you, then shoot him.
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 6:07 PM |
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definitelydi
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That gun could be dangerous! It could accidentally get turned around. 
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 6:39 PM |
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Strandedboarder
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That gun could be dangerous! It could accidentally get turned around.
Di, we all know you're wonderful, and I'm not saying this in a disparaging way...but that is a statement borne of ignorance of the history of self-defense.
The statistical fact is this...the number of times a weapon gets turned against its owner is so small that there isn’t even a statistic for it. The success rate of armed self-defense is extraordinarily high. It is so high that even the federal government’s own statistics show that the best way to survive a violent attack is to fight back with a gun.
So please...before making statements like that make sure you have your information clear.
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 6:51 PM |
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wawasweetie
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But stranded,she will claim she has all the correct info.She has labeled me as the psycho and she is very rude and ignorant.Don't listen to her.I don't need a gun.He's not stalking me,he don't even call me.I just wish he would go somewhere else to get his coffee,as my store is seriously out of his way.He just needs to show his face to keep me hanging.And to fun-I would date other guys if guys were interested in dating me.They prefer to play mind games instead.
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 8:36 PM |
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definitelydi
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It was actaully a statement born of sarcasm. Must have flown over your head. 
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 9:16 PM |
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Strandedboarder
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Probably 'cause your cruising altitude was way too high.
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 10:03 PM |
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loisday
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Di.........I soooooooooo understood your comment.
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| Nov 11, 2006 @ 7:41 AM |
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wawasweetie
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Thanks for being on my side,stranded!Di does nothing but follow me around and try to insult my inelligence!
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| Nov 11, 2006 @ 7:56 AM |
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luvmycats
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Di I also understood your comment.  I was thinking the same thing.
I like playing follow the leader, lets have some fun K? 
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| Nov 11, 2006 @ 11:19 AM |
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dweamgoil
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Wawa,
How about turning the tables on him for once? Tell him straight out you don't have time for his mind games and have moved on. You have wasted enough time on him already...if he has a problem with this...oh well!
From what I have read in the past (your posts), this person has learned to expect you will put up with whatever he dishes out, but it is because not only have you allowed the situation to continue but have instigate some incidents as well. Just ignore him when he goes into the store and if he goes on your line, just tell him straight out you are happy with the new person and would appreciate it if he did not expect anything from you (no friendship, favors, sounding board moments, etc.) and if he can please get his coffee or whatever else from another store. If that is not doable, then to go to another line because you would not like to have any further contact with him.
This also means YOU have to be prepared to uphold this. If you say this and 2 seconds later he NEEDS something from you and you cave, you are just reinforcing he can treat you like crap and it's OK. At that juncture, you have no right to complain!
Hope this helps and good luck moving on!
DweamGoiL
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| Nov 11, 2006 @ 12:04 PM |
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definitelydi
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| Nov 11, 2006 @ 12:17 PM |
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Loreli
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Di-
I got ya too!
You can cruise at any altitude you want....
wawa
sounds to me he is only a customer at work. have him go through another line.
Did you DATE him? Live with him, have sex with him? Exactly what relationship did you even HAVE to need to forget him?
I am beginning to think these men are in your head.
People aren't following you around-you are clogging the forums with repetitive crap all about YOU.
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| Nov 12, 2006 @ 2:33 PM |
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loisday
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Dorothy: Scarecrow, how do you talk without a brain?
Scarecrow: Lot's of people do it.
Just saying....................
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| Nov 12, 2006 @ 2:52 PM |
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Ron9
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I did not read the other post or even the OP’s post but .......
This topic hits home.
“How do you forget about someone that hurt you when they won't stay away??”
Three and a half years ago - I got crushed beyond all belief when my ex wife of 17 years said “I need to go find out who I am”.
It came right out of the blue.
She moved but kept in contact. She would come over and we would end up in bed. This went on for three years.
I’ve tried but been unable to make a two way match. So there has been no other females (that mattered to me - or that actually made it to a relationship) since. Mostly (well partly anyway) due to the fact that she STILL fits “my type” of female - and the fact that I am alone in the world and seem to have failed at finding another “special” female friend - had all came together to make it more and more difficult.
Keeping her in my life (although we still like/respect and yes even love each other) was actually very confusing. I could not tell (still can’t tell) if staying in touch with her was a good idea or a bad idea.
I’ve worked from a home office for 18 years. My mom died last year - there is NO ONE in my life. It was a difficult decision but ... I stopped picking up the phone when my ex wife calls/called. That was a few months back - she has finally stopped calling.
“How do you forget about someone that hurt you when they won't stay away??” - when they want to remain friends (plus).
I don’t know if it was right or wrong but ........... I not only cut off ties to my only contact with a female - I cut off a twenty year friendship and pretty much the only person in my life.
THAT is how I am going to ***TRY*** to forget about someone that hurt me.
I have totally given up on - what some would have called a "rebound relationship". That could be good if thought about from certain angles.
We have to remember something - something I read on some single’s site ...........
“Don’t let someone be a priority to you when you are just an option to them”
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| Nov 12, 2006 @ 5:12 PM |
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wawasweetie
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I wish I could say what I want to say to him at work,but can't. tried to ignore him,but he won't let me.I can't call him and he knows my number and don't call me.I don't know what else to do,but contact him at work.I don't have a right to do that and than it would look like stalking.So,I guess I have to deal with it.Its more than obvious that he just don't care about me.
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| Nov 12, 2006 @ 10:45 PM |
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julia143
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Di does nothing but follow me around and try to insult my inelligence!
I'm still waiting for the intelligent part
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| Nov 16, 2006 @ 10:22 AM |
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zulamaze
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Its more than obvious that he just don't care about me.
Thats right! So why dwell on it? Get over it.
Di does nothing but follow me around and try to insult my inelligence!
You have intelligence? 
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