| Nov 30, 2005 @ 7:38 AM |
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spunkykendra
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I FINALLY ended a bad relationship and it is sooo hard! I know it's best for both of us and I know I am doing the right thing but it's sooo difficult to stay strong and not answer the phone calls or listen to the many lies of I'm gonna change, I love you and I know we can't be together if I don't change and I want to be with you... blah blah blah! SO I thought I'd get back on MD and see what else is out there. I'm not wanting to jump into a relationship right away but it would be nice to meet some nice people to remind me that they do exist!
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| Nov 30, 2005 @ 5:21 PM |
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exiled131
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good luck in your quest. just got through a rough relationship in the beginning of the year and it is tough to move on but it must be done. the best way to get over someone is to cut all ties and change all your contact methods so they can't bother you.
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| Nov 30, 2005 @ 8:43 PM |
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jdctx
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Depending on how long and serious the relationship was it going to take a little time to rediscover yourself..
Lots of people are friend but a some will prey on people in difficult times..
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| Dec 1, 2005 @ 7:36 AM |
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surfergee
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Why is it that only a precious few couples have worthwhile partnerships but most are in torment, sharing heaven in bed and hell out of it. Others are great friends but totally lacking in physical passion. Then we have addicts, who truly see each other only on occasion through their haze. Everything seems to reach a dead end. No wonder many are turning to faith and the promise of the world to come. Surely 'you know who' is at work among us. 
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| Dec 1, 2005 @ 12:15 PM |
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suthunsweet
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Why is it that only a precious few couples have worthwhile partnerships but most are in torment, sharing heaven in bed and hell out of it.
Unfortunately I think I am in this type of relationship now. It was Heaven for a long time, but now the obsessive jealous behavior is driving us apart. He is smothering and beyond obsessive (see my thread under Single Parents). I agree it is going to hurt if I end it, though.
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| Dec 1, 2005 @ 5:20 PM |
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hot_aussie_feline
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i trusted a guy into my home and my heart and even to get close to my daughter he just played mind games he was ok one minute them turned like a savage dog on me i gave him everything in the world i was even gonna marry him instead dealing with the issue he ran like a low life scum and left me to pick up the pieces he changed his number etc its like he deleted us out of his life i know he was hurt b4 why the hell do it to someone u so call love and live with no guilt i know i could never do that to a person u so call i guess been honest doesnt really pay off in the long run
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| Dec 1, 2005 @ 7:43 PM |
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lecriveuse
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imho, ur name should b strongashellkendra. congrats 2 u  ur such an example! best of luck 2 u.
btw, when ur ready 2 get back n the swing of things, i'll pay u if u can train motown.  
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| Dec 2, 2005 @ 12:11 PM |
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hubbabubba888
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Girl I understand. I just did the same thing. Its been 16 months of non-stop back and forth. He is a wonderful man but we are oil and water but it was like we are addicted to one another. 16 months of lies and tomrment from his internet obbsessions and women calling me asking me why i am dating there guy and of course it was always lies from him and i would believe him - the women just were stalkers from his past lol.
Anyway, I am dealing with it too. Just this week matter-a-fact. I spend a lot of time thinking and wondering about the what if's but what I realized is that I am a beautiful women and he is the one that last out here. Someone will be happy to have him if the are weak, and submissive but that is not me. lol I am strong willed and I speak my mind.
Be strong, block his emails and messages - as I am to do as well and I will be thinking about ya 
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| Dec 2, 2005 @ 6:13 PM |
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B4Barbie
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Hi. Looks like I'm in the same boat. Are there life preservers here? My man smothers me too. We're trying to work out some issues but lately he's, well I just want to be alone for awhile and maybe see what's out there. Signed - I need a breather.
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| Dec 2, 2005 @ 8:58 PM |
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Wibber
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Stay strong!! It's tough, especially this time of year where togetherness is stressed so much, but in the end you'll be glad you didn't cave. Now don't cave Spunky-- don't cave.
BTW, that was a South Park reference. "Don't be gay Sparky-- don't be gay.
Sorry, I'm sick.
[Edited on 12/2/2005 8:59 PM]
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| Dec 3, 2005 @ 8:12 AM |
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spunkykendra
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Why can't I just cut him off? I broke up with him on November 6 but I just can't STOP talking to him. For one, he has bills that he owes me. Also, I am worried about him and want to see how he is. I never call him but when he calls me it's hard for me not to answer because I am worried. He also keeps saying he wants to change and wants us to be together and I did give him an ultimatum of a month to see some difference in him and right now I don't see one. SO maybe he won't even try, then I will know it will NEVER work and can move on. What's even worse is that my boss is trying to set me up with this guy who would be PERFECT for me. He's an education major too, really involved in his church, and extremely smart and has a bright future. The ex on the other hand, quit his job, is a pill popper, and a liar. SO why can't I just let go and move on to something better? That's all he's ever going to be... why can't I realize that and move on. I mean I know it, in my head, but my heart still cares and wants to help him!
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| Dec 3, 2005 @ 1:10 PM |
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exiled131
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spunky, you are not ready for another relationship. you definitely don't need your ex back either. just take a break and give yourself some time to heal.
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| Dec 3, 2005 @ 9:05 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Wonder why it's so easy to get into a bad relationship but so difficult to get out? Probably because if we see it coming we'd never get involved in the first place?
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| Dec 4, 2005 @ 1:49 AM |
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sktgtrcoast
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[B] kendra I know exactly what you feel.tonight I made the mistake of calling her house I dont know why but I felt like I had to because this morning she called crying saying It was so hard because this was when I used to put up christmas lights, tree ,etc. So I call  & she asked if I was still looking to sell some of my music equipment & I asked to who she says to rick at first I was like who but It was pretty obvious so Itried to act tough but felt like  >its taken me 2 yrs to figure out what everyone else already knew.I deserve better just like you do..please write me so we can support each other through these hard times of growth
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 8:43 PM |
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surfergee
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Gee, there's really no end to the trouble with reIationships. I foresee a day when men and women will finally realize they were never meant to be together any longer than it takes to have sex. I'm not trying to say that they should just slut around. They could commit to live nearby and oblige one another when the mood besets them but live separately. They would own nothing in common nor would one be permitted to ask the other for anything other than sex. Raising any children would be a shared effort. Each is responsible for his or her own retirement plan and either is free to curtail the association at any time.
Think of it; no more snoring, muttering, bitching or morning breath. Just get your rocks off and go home. Wasn't that easy?
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 8:47 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Think of it; no more snoring, muttering, bitching or morning breath
Aw c'mon Surfer...an occasional sleepover to cuddle's ok too.
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| Dec 12, 2005 @ 9:36 PM |
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surfergee
Posts: 74
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Ahem, no interfering with my efforts in trying to rearrange society, please.
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| Dec 14, 2005 @ 4:28 AM |
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singleinmn493
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[B]It is so hard to get out of a bad or negative relationship! My ex & I dated for 3 1/2 years on & off. She drank alot twards the end & had insecurity issues, in which made it even more difficult! After telling each other we need to move on, it seems to make sense to me. Now in my qwest for new love, Im meeting dead end type women & ones that like to play games. I dont want to be alone (nor do many others) & I miss the companionship of a companion.
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| Dec 20, 2005 @ 3:18 AM |
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grumblebear
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Amazing... so many people on this thread, registered on a dating site, and they are still involved...
I have to say, it reenforces my vow, to never trust a women enough to allow her to hurt me ever again...
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| Dec 20, 2005 @ 12:58 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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Grumble Grumble Grumble
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