| Feb 2, 2007 @ 10:46 AM |
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wawasweetie
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I've liked this guy for 3 rs.now n even though he told me he's not desiring a g/f n just wants to get together once in awhile.I just can't get him off my mind.I love him dearly n don't know why.We were just friends although we shared some passionate moments.I just don't understand why he played with my heart.He was involved when we met n got out of the relationship 4 mths.ago.He hasn't attempted to call or stop by, other than stopping by my job.It hurts to see him.I know I shouldn't feel this way,but can't help it.He led me to believe he had feelings for me.He made promises he never kept n now he just acts like I'm just nothing more than a {email address removed} said things in the past that gave me hope that he might want something more later down the road.I feel like I'm being punished.He still looks at me in that special way.If I'm his friend,why don't he atleast call??What is he afraid of???I accepted things the way they were n never pushed.I wrote hm a friendship note over a week ago n have had no response.Now,I'm regretting doing it.I didn't say anything mushy or demanding.I just wanted to hear from him n have his company.I just let him know that I'm here.Was I wrong to do that??Don't I deserve some kind of closure??I did offer my heart n ears to help him with his troubles.Can't he atleast return the favor??Or was I just his temporary clutch n back-up plan???I just want to forget I ever knew him now.It hurts too much remembering what I allowed him to do to me.WHY ME????
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| Feb 2, 2007 @ 10:56 AM |
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Strandedboarder
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oy...stop whining and get someone new! That's by far and away the best and fastest way to forget the others.
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| Feb 2, 2007 @ 11:21 AM |
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wawasweetie
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I'm not whining!!! But that's typical of a guy to say that!!! If men would stop going out of their way to hurt me,I wouldn't whine.I've dated others n they don't tick around either.It must be my weight or my need for dental work.I don't know.The world is too shallow n I'm too damn nice.
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| Feb 2, 2007 @ 11:32 AM |
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Strandedboarder
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...I wouldn't whine.
But you just said you weren't! 
I'm sorry...my previous post was less insult and more a call to get off your ass and make a change. Life isn't going to take care of you...you have to take care of yourself.
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| Feb 2, 2007 @ 10:42 PM |
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tatiana329
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sounds to me like... you are wanting something because you can't have it, namely
his interest in you in that way.
Live and learn.... you will learn to not want someone you can't have because its all very drama filled and amounts to a big waste of time. Then you will be able to be around him with ease and enjoy a friendship as it is... not what you hope and want it to be.
How do you forget him? you face the fact, he is not interested and you go on with your life. Don't make it harder than it has to be.
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| Feb 3, 2007 @ 12:46 PM |
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dsma
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I think when people say they want to be friends it is only their way of being nice, they don't really mean it. The best thing you can do for yourself is to not contact him, if you see him say hi, but that's it. "Act" like you're having a great life, even if you're dying inside..Don't let it show! If he calls, act like you have something to do, even if it's just picking bellybutton lint..  Let hime see that you are a strong person, and that you are doing fine without him..
I hope I'm not giving too many secrets away ladies!
Soon, you will feel better and will be able to move on to something better!
Best wishes.. 
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| Feb 3, 2007 @ 3:49 PM |
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BandTMom
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| Feb 3, 2007 @ 7:09 PM |
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Say_Yes
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In short, you don't forget him, but you do move on. You can no more change his feelings for you (or lack thereof) than you can your feelings towards him. In short, you deal with it and move on. It's not easy, but at times you have to accept things for the way that they are. If he does not want you, it is his loss. Go find someone that does. You will be much happier if you do.
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| Feb 3, 2007 @ 7:48 PM |
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sciurusniger
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What happened to the new boyfriend you posted about at Christmas? Did you dump him because he never did kiss you, or what?
Don't I deserve some kind of closure?? We all do, but often don't get it. That's just life. Get over it.
I did offer my heart n ears to help him with his troubles. Can't he atleast return the favor?? In a perfect world, things would work that way. But this world isn't perfect so you have to just get over it.
Or was I just his temporary clutch n back-up plan??? From everything you've ever posted about him here, you were never anything to him except a very fast-passing interest. He told you what he wanted: "he told me he's not desiring a g/f n just wants to get together once in awhile." It happens sometimes. That's just life. Get over it.
I just want to forget I ever knew him now. So forget about him. Don't bring him up in your thoughts or here in the forums.
It hurts too much remembering what I allowed him to do to me. You're giving the guy FAR too much credit, I'm afraid. Most of this is just your perceptions and need to see things a certain way.
WHY ME???? Why any of us? That's just life. Get over it.
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| Feb 3, 2007 @ 7:57 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Wawa, I missed you.
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| Feb 3, 2007 @ 8:21 PM |
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sciurusniger
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| Feb 3, 2007 @ 8:38 PM |
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Loreli
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WHY ME?
Here is an idea...
go back and look at all of your threads.
They are the same thing over and over again.
So that should give you an idea (maybe) of what you do that makes guys do the same things over and over.
Sheesh.
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| Feb 3, 2007 @ 9:59 PM |
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grumblebear
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OMG... Wawa is back....
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| Feb 10, 2007 @ 3:10 PM |
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Angel178
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Your back! Good luck to you, you're a brave woman. 
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| Feb 12, 2007 @ 8:51 PM |
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Bobbelieu
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Honey, you won't forget him. I haven't forgotten anyone I've ever loved and lost.
I just moved on. I guess that's the trick.
B~
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| Feb 13, 2007 @ 8:57 PM |
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Meadowlark8
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Definitely, you don't ever forget.
At least you hope you won't, because
then you won't ever make that kind of
relationship choice and mistake again
in your lifetim, if you're lucky.
That's what comes with experience,
wisdom to make better relationship choices.
I've always found, stepping forward in your
life with new people, while keeping those
previous mistakes as reminders, always
places you in the right direction.
And upon the forest converged to roads,
and I took the one that was least travelled...
Move on...with life....
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| Feb 22, 2007 @ 9:22 AM |
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emptypages
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Eat a pint of Ben and Jerry's, then go out to a strip club with your buds. that'll make it all better. 
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| Feb 25, 2007 @ 2:57 PM |
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HopelesslyHopeful
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oy...stop whining and get someone new! That's by far and away the best and fastest way to forget the others
That advice does work .. but only if you don't really care about that person so much as just having a person.
If you are stuck on someone particular, it takes a lot of obsessing, crying, questioning, etc. and eventually you get to the point where you are exhausted by the whole thing and rather disgusted by their lack of giving half a damn what you are going through.
At which point you forgive them and are friends or realize they are unforgiveable and forget them instead.
Pray a lot, if you believe in God. If you don't, well, talk to him anyway. Or talk to yourself. Right down the questions that keep cropping up, research the answers, figure out what you really want in a relationship and note the differences between that and what you have .. and do go out and meet other people. Not to get someone new but to occupy your time somewhat more Read all the blogs on here and respond to them.. or try to .. read a good book. Do whatever it takes to give you processing time in between bouts of crying and anxiety or whatever is going on with you. concentrate on your work and use the mindfulness techniques (look them up onine) which basically amounts to taking each thing in it's own time and enjoying what you are doing, or at least experiencing it.
And good luck .. it's hell .. but it's not eternal.
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| Feb 25, 2007 @ 3:12 PM |
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starchild888
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Come out with me and my girlfriends to the Rio on the strip here in Vegas and watch the Chippendale dancers  (bring lots of dollar bills)
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| Feb 25, 2007 @ 9:52 PM |
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1someguy
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oh good fukken Gawd.
I just found this site, and the first thing I notice in the forums, is the same person who's been starting this same fukken thread, on another site's forum for the past 8 months.
Get yourself some help lady.
The way for you to forget him is to quit starting threads about him, in forums all over the damn internet for months. 
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