| Mar 11, 2007 @ 5:57 PM |
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wawasweetie
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When will it all end n will I ever meet anyone who is for real???This is hurting me more n more everyday.Why do men pretend to be interested in me if they r not??? Do they enjoy breaking my heart? There was this guy flirting with me since october only to find out all along he is getting married.I'm so hurt by him going out of his way to get my attention n he didn't want me after all.He was really acting like he liked me n even asked for me at work when I wasn't there n that special look he gave me.WHY??? N there is another one that has been playing me for 3 yrs that claims he's my friend but don't call or come around,only to my job.It hurts to see him,cause I fell for him n he led me on.We were intimate a few times n everyone else I meet plays mind games too.What is it about me that makes them do this.Does it give them some kind of satisfaction to hurt a lonely,unattractive,full-figured gal??Why do u think this sick behavior is happening??
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 6:05 PM |
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Dukums
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You are trying too hard and looking too hard and thus sending out "I am needy" vibes. Some people will take advantage of that.
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 6:13 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Could it be that you are the one allowing yourself to be hurt?????
Perhaps the guy you thought was trying to get your attention was just being friendly and you were reading more into it than what was there? The other guy? Hmmmm, if one makes themselves too available, there are ones that will take advantage of it.
Sometimes, "lonely, unattractive, full-figured gals" crave attention and don't allow themselves to tread lightly in matters of the heart. They seem to jump in head first at the slightest act of friendliness. These "gals" (and men that with low self-esteem, too) need to learn to find their self-worth and a better attitude about themselves. Relationships take time and communication. Just because one person quickly develops strong feelings doesn't mean the other person can or will.
From what I've seen in various posts over the months, it appears that the "sick behavior" is happening because it is self-inflicted!
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 6:38 PM |
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definitelydi
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Oh Gawd...now we hafta look at her tits too. 
You say how much you want respect but every word that WaWaWhines out of your mouth shows you have no respect for YOURSELF.
As much of a broken record as this is, you have to take care of yourself first. If that means NO MEN...it means NO MEN until you are in a position of self confidence, respect, and love. THEN and only THEN will you find a real relationship.
For God's sake...cover that sh!t up!
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 6:52 PM |
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Pfffft
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Awwwwww… muffin… and here I thought a married man would be right up your alley…
Why do u think this sick behavior is happening?? Uhmmm... cause you give married men blowjobs in the parking lots...
*thought that was a no brainer* 
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 6:54 PM |
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wawasweetie
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Awwww,r we jealous???I can't help what god gave me.I get more responses showing my best features,than from my other pics.N I've received good compliments.I'm showing my sweet,sexy,fun-lovig side of myself.GET OVER IT!!!Jealousy will get u no where.N I don't present myself to be needy to those guys.I didn't do anything to gain hey're disrespect of my feelings.
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 6:56 PM |
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wawasweetie
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What R blowjobs???
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 6:57 PM |
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Pfffft
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What R blowjobs??? It's what you were allowed to do to that married man while he refused to actually have sex with you...
I'm still assuming it was for hygenic reasons... 
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 6:58 PM |
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wawasweetie
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Hey everyone!!!!Watch out for the dating site stalker!!!She has nothing better to do because her fairy tale man is in texas n she is in canada.Don't listen to her,she's a wackjob!!!!
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 7:06 PM |
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MarysPlace
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Awwww,r we jealous???I can't help what god gave me.I get more responses showing my best features,than from my other pics.N I've received good compliments.I'm showing my sweet,sexy,fun-lovig side of myself.GET OVER IT!!!Jealousy will get u no where.N I don't present myself to be needy to those guys.I didn't do anything to gain hey're disrespect of my feelings.
*sigh*
I'm gonna try to tell you why Di is right, you're not gonna listen and you're gonna come back in a couple of weeks to cry about yet another guy who "played you".
It is not them who are playing you, it is YOU playing yourself. When guys see a pic of a half naked girl in bed, they, rightfully so, think "she wants to get laid". And they go after you for that one thing, cuz hey, you've been advertising it in the first place.
Before you go into protests that it is not the real you, that you're more than that, lemme stop you right there and tell you that sadly, no one can possibly know that cuz that ain't what you're marketing.
If your online profile is any indication of the "real life" you, there you have your reason why you're being treated a certain way.
You can't control anybody's behavior except yours. You are the only one that you can change. And if you think of yourself as "fat and unattractive"... lose weight, get in shape and your attitude will change with that.
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 7:07 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Why do men pretend to be interested in me if they r not???
I get more responses showing my best features,than from my other pics.
When one advertises their "best features", then one should expect there will be seekers of ONLY those features. That's part of where I was going with my comment of "it appears that the "sick behavior" is happening because it is self-inflicted!"
I can't imagine anyone being jealous of "best features" if they include low-self esteem, loneliness and desperation. I again suggest you re-read your previous threads and the comments from those that were trying to get you to see from a different perspective.
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 7:11 PM |
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BandTMom
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^^^^
I was getting ready to say the same thing!
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 7:14 PM |
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Dukums
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This one was so obvious that even a guy got it! LOL She is setting herself up as a prime target for those only looking for sexual release, not a relationship.
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 7:37 PM |
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wawasweetie
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Well no one is banging my door down to get laid.I haven't had sex in nearly 2 n a half years.No matter what I do,it doesn't work.Men like to tease me but not please me.They don't want any sexual release from me.If they did,than they would try n get it now wouldn't they.So what is the excuse for them flrting with me at work since I'm not dressed sexy there?They flirt n act interested when they really aren't.What's up with that.They all tell me how sweet n nice I am n how lucky my husband or b/f is to have me.But the only thing is,I have neither.Thay r shocked when I tell them that.So what does that tell u about my personality.I'm also told that I don't need to be on a dating site or expose my breasts to attract myself because I'm pretty the way I am.So,if all that were true,than why don't I have anyone???
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 7:46 PM |
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MarysPlace
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So,if all that were true,than why don't I have anyone???
Ummm... We're on a dating site. Most of us are... single.
Like I said before. Want a change? Start by losing weight and exercising. That's the easiest way to improve your self esteem.
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 7:56 PM |
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TingleyAllOver
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So,if all that were true,than why don't I have anyone???
Mainly because you are a bonehead and don't pay attention to any of the good advice that you get here. Duh 
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 7:57 PM |
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sciurusniger
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wawa said:
if all that were true,than why don't I have anyone??? Because you WHINE as if you truly believe you are some kind of loser. And that is repulsive to most people, and some men see it only as you being easy. Most men will be "friendly" with anyone of the opposite sex and flirt with those who act at all friendly in return. You are mistakenly interpreting this friendliness for real interest. But it's not. IT IS NOT. It's just an ego game and means absolutely nothing unless you really want to let the skankier of them into your pants.
Listen up. You've been posting the same complaints here for MONTHS now and it is obvious that you haven't listened to one single word of advice from anyone.
You need to quit looking for a relationship with anyone except your Self. Get a grip. Get into counseling. Start walking 2 miles every single day. Start eating properly. (And take down that boob shot, too. You're sending entirely the wrong message.)
In other words, fix your Self first. Whatever you've been doing hasn't worked. It's high time you tried something else, don't you think? You cannot get different results if you keep doing the same thing over and over and over...can you?
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 8:00 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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I posted this on your “How Do You Show Someone You are Available and Interested?” thread on November 10th:
O.K., I've just read this entire thread and some others that you've started WaWa...figured out after a few of them that they are all pretty much the same, so I'm going to go out on a limb without having read all of your posts....
Many, many people have given you some very sound and very wise advise and/or suggestions. You might as well be talking to your mirror as you are not appearing to take anything said by anyone other than yourself into consideration. I know that if you were a male, I'd be finding the fastest transportation to put some distance between us.
A person that appears needy/desperate/clingy/insecure/immature is just flat out unattractive and scarier than hell to most people.
Here's a thought (though from the sounds of things, I'm wasting it)...start a journal. Begin with copying and pasting all of your posts--your posts only). The next morning, sit down and read everything that you've written. Then continue journal entries with your thoughts of your postings. Use constructive criticism. Continue that daily for a couple of weeks and then come back to let us know if you've discovered some things about yourself AND how you have decided to accentuate the positive and to eliminate the negative.
I’ve since read all of your threads and still feel the same four months later. In answer to your question of “than why don't I have anyone???” , my answer is still the same:
A person that appears needy/desperate/clingy/insecure/immature is just flat out unattractive and scarier than hell to most people.
You come on here, ask for advise and then ignore it.........and then, you get all high and mighty and accuse others of being jealous or not understanding you. Take a good hard look at yourself, take into consideration what others are trying to tell you and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
[Edited on 3/11/2007 8:03 PM]
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 8:01 PM |
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Dukums
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Agrees with Sci^^^^^^
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| Mar 11, 2007 @ 8:04 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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I think we're all pretty much in agreement!!!
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