| Dec 5, 2005 @ 9:12 PM |
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chiopiecy
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I just had my first experience dumping someone on line. Maybe, I over reacted, but most likely I did not. See, I have been chatting with someone for about 2 weeks. She is a really sweet and attractive person. However, I noticed that our chat were getting shorter and shorter. Saturday, we started chatting about midnight,and all of a sudden, I sent a nudge by msn chatter thing. Boy, she got mad. She sad she was on the phone wait. So, I waited and she never returned for almost two hours. So, I went to bed.
Next day, she said that she tried at 2:00 after the call. Well, I was up and I went to bed at 2:10. Not once, did she tell me the call was going to last a long time. However, it did not matter. So, we chatted for awhile and noticed she was taking longer to get back to me. Well, I started to wonder about her multitasking with other guys---that's fine ladies---just tell the truth!
Tonight, again, she was online. I dropped an IM. Joking that she did not say hi when she saw me adding LOL. She said that she was emailing and put her status on busy. Hour plus later she was still busy and did not bother to tell me anythingm and she knew that I was floating around. To say, how are you? Fine...I am busy chat later. Easy enough....
Fortunately, I have made a lot of contacts, but they at least have better online manners than she does. Honesty is the best thing. My model is be straight and don't jerk people around.
So, I dumped her. I found her attractive, everything even was thinking about taking a trip to see her, but I have self-respect. It still did not make it easy doing it. I hate doing, because it alawys hurt someone's feeling. It is amazing that I feel so lousy. It is almost as bad as saying to someone's face. Not quite though...
Sometimes we need to do what we need to do for ourselves.
Thanks for providng this forum to let me get it out.
[Edited on 12/5/2005 9:37 PM]
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 4:54 PM |
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Button
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I don't think you need to worry too much about it. You chatted for only a couple of weeks on here. I find people come and go from here very easily...you could be chatting freely for a while then for no apparent reason things just slack off till you don't talk anymore.
Onwards and upwards!! 
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 7:01 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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See, I have been chatting with someone for about 2 weeks [QUOTE]
everything even was thinking about taking a trip to see[QUOTE]
CAN'T DUMP WHAT YOU NEVER HAD....
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 7:10 PM |
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MarysPlace
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CAN'T DUMP WHAT YOU NEVER HAD....
But isn't chatting the same as dating??? 
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 7:34 PM |
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someone_me
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But isn't chatting the same as dating???
MarysPlace, once again your wisdom and fortuitous foresight is astounding! (Okay, I'll throw in the wit too.) 
Dude, why'd you wait so long to do this? Next time, just don't be the one to IM her first. If she wants to talk to you then she'll IM you. If she ignores you or you don't like how long it takes her to answer, let her know she's boring and not exciting enough for you.
Wait around for two hours just so you could IM with her? Sounds, like someone may have given up way too much of his personal power to this girl, no wonder she treated you this way.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 7:37 PM |
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facetrock
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I agree Snappy, You cant dump someone you never had a relationship with. What do you say to a person you have never met except online that is apparently losing interest in you? Send her an email and say your dumped? 
I know some people here think different but I believe until you meet in person you are not much more than penfriends trying to learn more about each other. Falling in love with pictures and letters can be dangerous and deluisonal. You will never know what the person is really like until you meet.I am sure its happened though and has lead to a successful relationship but I bet its extremely rare. Try to keep your emotions in check until you meet.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 8:06 PM |
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someone_me
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I know some people here think different but I believe until you meet in person you are not much more than penfriends trying to learn more about each other. Falling in love with pictures and letters can be dangerous and deluisonal.
Shhhh, facetrock, don't you know that this is a dating site? You aren't supposed to have your act together and actually use logic and reason to look at things realistically. 
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 8:09 PM |
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MarysPlace
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Shhhh, facetrock, don't you know that this is a dating site? You aren't supposed to have your act together and actually use logic and reason to look at things realistically.
Goddamn, did you REALLY have to do this?? 
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 8:25 PM |
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facetrock
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Well it is kind of silly thinking you can dump someone you never met. Sorry Mary If you look at the original post it was very obvious to me she really wasnt interested in communicating anymore. Big deal. Move on. There is nothing to dump. I should say however my 12 year old daughter and her friends dump their boyfriends by instant messages. But at least they have meet them in person
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 8:38 PM |
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chiopiecy
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good points everyone. I will find the balance betweem all comments.   I have to tend to agree with all points. You can't dump who you did not see. I still did not like doing what I had to do. Hey, it is easier to do on line. And, I would rather do it now, then later.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 9:12 PM |
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MarysPlace
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Facetrock, I was joking... You know, ha ha.
And chiopiecy, I'm sorry to break this to you, but to me it looks like she "dumped" you long before you got around to doing it... This whole thread is... hmmm... yeah.
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 10:17 PM |
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chiopiecy
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ummm I know that she dumped me! I have been around the block enough to know...although I am technically a virgin here...However, she was still pretty pissed at me when I decided to stop chatting with her.
Maybe, you can answer this...why did not she just cut me off?
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| Dec 6, 2005 @ 10:29 PM |
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facetrock
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Thats kind of an impossible question for us to answer. We have no idea about what you talked about.
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| Dec 8, 2005 @ 6:03 PM |
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bevrice
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Honey, don't listen to the "If she wants to talk to you, she will im you first" line, lol, am very old fashioned and lots of women are, it is nice that you im'd her first, I appreciate a man like that. I also appreciate a man who is honest and patient. If you didn't im me first, more than likely, I would think, oh well, he doesn't care and find someone else to talk to. I like a man to make the first move, to be the aggressor, guess it is an old way to be, but it is the ladylike way to be. Sorry, women, I love being a lady and being treated like one.
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| Dec 8, 2005 @ 6:49 PM |
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MotownManiax
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But isn't chatting the same as dating???
lol...Mary being sarcastic but presciently honest yet again.
Yep, for some I’m surprised there aren’t more marriage proposals after a few emails and a couple winks???
To be less flippant. I know people want to make honest connections and avoid games. But no one can force reciprocity. I’m sorry some don’t return what we believe to be heartfelt gifts of attention and interest. But that’s the nature of human behavior, and this particular medium. People are free to change their minds, lose interest, switch allegiances. Remember, this is only emailing and messaging. Nothing is serious until people actually Meet and something develops for Real.
Please, remember that the next time you feel slighted, ignored, or marginalized in your cyber romance. Don’t take it (too) personally and move on.
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| Dec 8, 2005 @ 7:32 PM |
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skinnybarncat
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Don’t take it (too) personally and move on.
i've worn out an average of 5pairs of hiking boots per month.... 
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| Dec 11, 2005 @ 12:31 PM |
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balanguena
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because it will hurt her ego... 
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| May 16 @ 7:02 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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not if shes an Md member.  its expected as a sooner or later.
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| May 26 @ 10:13 PM |
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teddybearagain
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You dumped her online?? .. really? Sounds to me like her not responding to you in your IM's, etc, ..she dumped you. Sorry. Just MO. But, honestly I agree with a lot of the others, ..how do you dump what you never had? 
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| May 29 @ 10:10 PM |
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Brass_Wolf
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Via voice mail. lol
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