| Jan 11, 2006 @ 8:04 PM |
Beyond the Pain
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ladyraindove74
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Tainq...I also lost a mate to death, 10 yrs. ago. I understand the feelings of grief...the varying stages. Oh, how well do I understand. True, each person copes in a different way. But we all are attempting to head in the same direction, to start anew...to regain in some way what we have lost. It took me 3 yrs. to come out of the fog, and the last 7 yrs. have been a time of change...good change I think. I have strength that I never had before, I have endurance and courage. I don't look upon my loss in the same way, because I believe every thing happens for a reason...sometimes we may never know that reason. For every bad thing that happens, something good also happens. My life has changed in so many ways and I am where I am meant to be now. The past is just that...the past. I cannot and do not want to live in the past, and I don't forsee life in the future. I live now...in the present.
One thing that can help to deal with grief on a small scale is to write to that person that we have lost...not holding any feelings back...you'll be surprised at the freshness that you feel when you complete this task. As long as you have the memories, they won't ever be forgotten. Going on to fulfill your destiny, to enjoy what is here and now, with out looking back with regret...that is the key.
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| Jan 13, 2006 @ 11:06 PM |
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RustyRae48f
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all I have to say, is the date fizzled. oh well//
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| Oct 15, 2007 @ 5:41 AM |
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carpediem48
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Lady....I appreciated your post
Re healthy relationships and recognizing unhealthy ones and dealing with the pain and moving on....I've found that CODA....co-dependants Anonymous to be
extremely helpful.
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