| Jan 27, 2008 @ 2:38 PM |
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Pete73052
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Yes, of course... As I said, that would not be cheating at all... 
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| Jan 27, 2008 @ 2:39 PM |
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Angel178
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All kidding aside, exchanging phone numbers for business purposes is different than personal numbers....
I agree....if numbers are given out for anything other than work oriented discussions...that is wrong...
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| Jan 27, 2008 @ 4:36 PM |
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jamminjerry
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i guess cheating would be when you lie.
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| Jan 28, 2008 @ 7:30 PM |
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SunBabe
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Suppose you are one of those super insecure types who doesn't even want your SO to talk to another person without you present, or to be in a room alone with a member of the opposite sex. If she talks to another guy, has she cheated on you? If she has to work in the same room as a guy and no one else, is she cheating on you? Etc...
That's not "cheating"...that's just plain stupid, senseless, ridiculous "in the mind" jealousy and the insecure person deserves everything they put upon themself! If they can't trust their SO (assuming there's no valid reason for the mistrust), they owe it to the other person to withdraw from the relationship ASAP.
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 8:52 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Agree with Sun....I'd also say couples should define the relationship first.
Serious: "Both" agree to be serious and want "mutual" exclusivity. You trust each other until behavior dictates otherwise. If you feel you have to monitor each other's behavior to such a degree that it becomes stifling, controlling, and obsessive, you need to rethink the nature of the relationship and re-categorize if need be.
Casual but still committed: Relationships that fall short of being the serious, will-you-marry-me type, but still monogamous and committed. Most dating relationships are usually this.
Open: You both understand you're just FWB, open to other relationships. I don't think many would fall into this category, at least on here (but what do I know?….lol).
Obviously, the key words are "both" and "mutual". If one has deeper feelings than the other or has a totally different interpretation of the relationship, trouble almost invariably follows. One of the biggest reasons breakups occur is simply because of miscommunication regarding just what the relationship is?
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 1:21 PM |
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JenRNinOhio
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miscommunication
yes
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 2:06 PM |
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Pete73052
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Casual but still committed: Relationships that fall short of being the serious, will-you-marry-me type, but still monogamous and committed. Most dating relationships are usually this.
I think I would expand the definition a little to include:
This is where you do your background checks, google searches, monitor aerial satellite photos periodically for neighborhood activity, check other dating sites to see if your partner is active there (and if so, try to break their password), and if you're a little on the wacky side you might get all the hiring of private investigator stuff out of the way here as well. When you visit each other's house, you have the need to check the bathroom waste basket for stuff that doesn't belong.
Additionally - this type/stage of relationship is the button-pushing paradise. It's where you test each other by exploiting weaknesses... you find where the stretching point ends and the snapping point begins. You're deciding who's going to use the safety word 90% of the time. It really is the most exciting phase of relationships.
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 2:30 PM |
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MotownManiax
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I'd group that behavior with the serious relationships...lol...but understand it can cross boundaries.
Bottom line is if you feel the need to be on the next program of "Cheaters", you need to sit down and really re-think the nature of your relationship, no matter "how" you characterize it.
 Mo
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 2:38 PM |
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Pete73052
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 Yeah, I hate those programs...
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 3:57 PM |
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sweetsongs17
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Heck, what the heck is wrong with flirting (as in goofin' around) as long as all parties understand where the heart is? It IS a matter of trust between the two parties who are in a relationship. If there isn't unconditional trust and understanding -- coupled with mutual respect -- it's not a great relationship. Plain and simple.
Sunbabe
Flirting and goofin around, probably not that big of a deal, Key point is "as all parties undersand where the heart is" Is that really possible? On more than one occassion I have seen some "harmless" flirting at work. And then one party changes their "heart" or misreads the others intentions.
In terms of relationships, if it hurts the others feelings or is disrespectful then its just a no-no.
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 4:08 PM |
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sweetsongs17
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This is where you do your background checks, google searches, monitor aerial satellite photos periodically for neighborhood activity, check other dating sites to see if your partner is active there (and if so, try to break their password), and if you're a little on the wacky side you might get all the hiring of private investigator stuff out of the way here as well. When you visit each other's house, you have the need to check the bathroom waste basket for stuff that doesn't belong.
This could start a whole other thread. Is it smart dating or stalking? Sounds kinda stalking to me.
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 6:14 PM |
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Angel178
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Pete,
This is where you do your background checks, google searches, monitor aerial satellite photos periodically for neighborhood activity, check other dating sites to see if your partner is active there (and if so, try to break their password), and if you're a little on the wacky side you might get all the hiring of private investigator stuff out of the way here as well. When you visit each other's house, you have the need to check the bathroom waste basket for stuff that doesn't belong.
Additionally - this type/stage of relationship is the button-pushing paradise. It's where you test each other by exploiting weaknesses... you find where the stretching point ends and the snapping point begins. You're deciding who's going to use the safety word 90% of the time. It really is the most exciting phase of relationships
I think we need to talk 
Oh, that's right, you don't do the phone thing... 
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 7:11 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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 You're deciding who's going to use the safety word 90% of the time.
have you two finally met???
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 7:20 PM |
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Angel178
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Gallows....he's MIA 
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 7:21 PM |
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Pete73052
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 7:22 PM |
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Angel178
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Ok, no more posting for you during the day!!! 
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 7:42 PM |
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MrAman
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You know..sometimes cheating is so obvious a dog could see it then like said a million times, the grey areas.. But you all know that feeling.. You have all been in that box where it seems like the only image that crosses your minds eye is that of your SO sleeping with someone else.. Your gut feels like it turned into gravy, adrenaline is running through your every fiber and violent thoughts won't go away...Yeah, you can pretty much bet your bottom dollar that someone is cheating and if you have that feeling it's time to hit the road.
They might whine ad cry and insist they weren't cheating, blah, blah, blah, but you will almost always know deep down inside when you're right or not.
I convinced myself my first ex wasn't cheating, but when i witnessed it with my own eyes I finally realized that my suspicions were right and I should always follow my gut.. You should too. You KNOW when you see him or her with arms around them and body language often speaks volumes.. Pick up, pack it away and don't think you'll never get over them.. You will eventually. Look at me.. I'm over her...just not the last one quite yet. After all, that one lasted 22 years. But that first one... I am sooooo over it..
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| Jan 29, 2008 @ 10:18 PM |
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waterfire
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Cheating is anything you do with a person of the opposite sex, that you would'nt do, if your SO was present.
Yes, sheesh people come up with all kind of excuses butt hte bottom line is, do you love this person, do you care, can you be loyal to hwat YOU feel inside.
To me that is it, being loyal to what you feel for another, not go chasing off because of a hard on or wettness. God for anyone to ask this is .....
YOu know what is real and to make chit up on the fly asking...hey is this cheating 
BY being loyal i mean who cares what others do it is WHAT i do that matters. I could care lees if others cheat, it is what I feel about my life that natters and what I do. GOd to give ANY excues is such a..... 
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| Jan 30, 2008 @ 1:14 AM |
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Palomino
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I decided to look up some blogs on cheating. This one was interesting from a man's point of view and I liked J's reply. :)
http://www.matchdoctor.com/blog_73228/Cheaters_Sex_And_The_Single_Guy.html
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| Jan 30, 2008 @ 1:34 AM |
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Palomino
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Another excellent blog...sad, but a reality that is well written.
http://www.matchdoctor.com/blog_68131/Your_cheating_heart_will_tell_on_you.html
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