| Jan 18 @ 7:13 AM |
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ModernDante
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Especially if it is to end a marriage. I had to end mine after trying to live with a woman who not only drained me physically, but emotionally and spiritually as well. Most of my family are shocked that I lasted this long. But she refused to do what it takes to make the marriage work, so I got out.
This happened VERY recently, and a part of me will always love her, but I don't deserve the crap I put up with.
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| Jan 18 @ 8:10 AM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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Welcome to MD Dante. I'm sorry to hear about your loss.
But if you stick around, there are allot of wonderful people here.
Good luck in your search for love! 
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| Jan 18 @ 8:29 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Breaking up after a long, intense relationship, especially marriage, is never easy or guilt-free, whether one feels the victim or the antagonist. There is too much emotional and physical investment to believe otherwise.
The only advice people can give is time is your savior in the healing process, so let it work, and please don't let the trauma sour your outlook or make you bitter with future relationships.
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| Jan 18 @ 11:11 AM |
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st93
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This happened VERY recently, and a part of me will always love her, but I don't deserve the crap I put up with.
....some women seem to take pleasure in screwing-up a man's head
I hope you find someone that will make you happy, man........
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| Jan 18 @ 11:29 AM |
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Loreli
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Did you ever try counseling?
Maybe she does not realize she's doing it (denial)
And-there are 2 sides to every story.
And welcome. I hope it works however you want it to.
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| Feb 2 @ 5:16 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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saying "good-bye" is easy..not saying "hello again" afterwards is what's hard.. 
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| Feb 5 @ 5:10 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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See this is where the messed up stuff comes and hurts ya. Good bye? To someone you had a relationship with? What did they die or something? Anything less is where you are geting confused. Confusion is true pain. It is not good bye, it IS something different.
Be happy that you are agreeing on this isnt happy, and isnt working, and youre not fighting about leting "this" end. Now look forward to the exhale, yet that friendship is there. It is hard for me to beleave that it is coman belaf that there isnt care of well being, of gain of happieness for your " ex" as well as yourself. They are at core still that person you have AND still do like, AND you no long have to deal with that person you no longer wish to have to deal with.
The complex part is coming up with ways to continue to be able to be distraught over this. What is right, is simple, nothing hard about it. It is you know right. Enjoy the sun on your face now that your darkest cloud has been lifted. Oh and enjoy the view, the sames happening to your once, very bestest of friends.
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| Feb 19 @ 11:35 AM |
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SweetKalena
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| Feb 21 @ 1:43 AM |
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jendaisybee
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Sometimes you don't have to say goodbye. I broke up with my boyfriend after 2 1/2 years, but we are going to remain friends. We still talk and say hello now and again; it's just that you have to be careful not to let yourself think the relationship is not over, when it clearly is. You have to watch out for that pitfall a lot of people fall into, where they go back again for more of the same thing they just left.
But if you can manage not to do that, then maybe you can keep in touch once in a while with your ex and it wouldn't have to be a permanent "goodbye".
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| Feb 21 @ 10:29 PM |
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JackMac0863
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I had my 16 year marriage end 3 years ago and saying goodbye was the hardest thing that has ever happened to me in my life. As a former professional motorcycle roadracer I have broken a few bones in my lifetime and even spent a few months in the hospital but nothing compares to the sadness and the pain that I endured the first few years after we split. On the bright side I finally(!) have decided to get on with my life and look forward to meeting new people. the war stories I hear about online dating kind of scare me though. Jack
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| Feb 22 @ 3:24 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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war stories Then be the best warrior you can be. Fight with honor brother. Good luck.
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| Feb 22 @ 4:56 PM |
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Angel178
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You guys should really talk to my ex....he could use your advise
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| Feb 22 @ 5:32 PM |
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jamminjerry
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well, i'm gonna agree with the O P. "take it, take another little peice of my heart now baby, come on and take it..." LOL 
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| Feb 22 @ 8:09 PM |
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dallas1995
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and get some really interesting pics just in case
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| Mar 3 @ 4:56 PM |
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hayabusatygr
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the war stories I hear about online dating kind of scare me though. Jack Yeah, there are some real smartass loons on here, Jack ;)
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| Mar 3 @ 6:53 PM |
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Palomino
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Dante!! I was glad to see you back, but not under these circumstances. I'm so sorry, hon. 
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| Mar 3 @ 9:17 PM |
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Solitaire
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Hey Dante! Sorry to hear this happened. I know how excited and hopeful you were at the start. Come on back to MD and just hang with friends again, ok?
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| Mar 4 @ 2:08 AM |
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grumblebear
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its never easy to end a bad relationship, One of my last involvements, I stayed much too long, trying to make it work, when she wasn't trying, but I didn't want to have people say I gave up too soon...
good luck to you, make sure you find a way to heal....
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| Mar 4 @ 5:36 AM |
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katydid438
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Saying good-bye is hard,,,but looking over your shoulder for at least the next year is harder......cross-bows have a  new meaning for us Canuck gals 
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| Mar 5 @ 2:22 PM |
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jamminjerry
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what if! what if saying good bye ain't the hardest part? just what if the hardest part is gittin off your pity me wagon and gittin out there and finding a much better repalcement! HAH!! ok, not likely to find a much better replacement but, how about at least some one that will smile a real smile! no more playas! we all know this game! flags everywhere! green yellow and red of course. just don't quit looking at flags when you happen to find a green flag! nuff said. we be jammin
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