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Closure, Just How Important Is That For You?
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burnslikethesun
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Yes its important. Sometimes I cant close that f***ing trunk fast enough. With out it, clothes go flying everywhere.
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| Apr 1 @ 5:59 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Sometimes the best closure is just a big fat, OH WELL. < notice the period. .
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| Apr 2 @ 7:34 PM |
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Brass_Wolf
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Yes, closure indeed, quite. Speaking as a guy, without closure, the bits just hangs out there. *Zzzzzip!* NEXT!
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| Apr 4 @ 9:41 AM |
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CPUfan
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When we celebrate a birthday, is there 'closure' on your earlier life?
When we celebrate New Year, is there 'closure' on the old year?
When we celebrated the new millenium, was there nothing left from the old millenium that we could take with us? Was there 'closure' on the old millenium?
You can leave any place or any person you choose behind for ever, but everyone we ever met actually happened - and we take them all with us somewhere in memory. And sometimes in our offspring.
"And all you touch and all you see is all your life will ever be...." ("Breathe";
Waters, Gilmour, Wright)
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| Apr 5 @ 11:39 PM |
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signme
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To me closure is important. But how can you get closure when the ex keeps calling or emailing even after you've asked him not to?
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| Apr 6 @ 9:19 AM |
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ladros
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like i said i would rather go thru the most heinous public blow off then be left wondering 'where did she go'?
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| Apr 6 @ 10:11 AM |
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ladros
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i remember in college i was feeling particularly mean towards an ex that just wouldnt go away she came up and asked 'have you started dating anyone'?
no i say
she gets this smile on her face and says 'really'
i answered 'well ive brought a few girls home and porked them but no dating' she slaps me and that was enough closure for her
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| Jun 6 @ 3:44 PM |
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InDaGenes
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I have been involved in an online relationship for about 18 months....communicating daily and really believed this sharing/connection could lead to a fullfilling longterm relationship offline as well. 9 months into the relationship ,plans were made to go on holiday together...meeting each other halfway(we live on different continents!!!)When a great job offer came my way it was mutually agreed that I had to take it....even thou it meant the end of my holiday plans.....he still went.If possible ,the next 9 months was even more amazing...never running out of things to talk/laugh/debate about and then...8 weeks ago he came online as usual....asked if everything was ok( I didn't reply immediately to his hi...) and I explained that I was a bit down...not really good conversation as one of my girls lost a friend and through some weird twist of fate it was my other girl who actually arrived at the accident scene first...They where both really shaken by this...I'll send a long e-mail later 2 explain in detail..but kinda came online quickly to respond to some mails re: funeral arrangements etc.....No response!!!!! I have sent a lengthy e-mail the following day as promised....and got a 1 line IM saying "holler when you feel up to it again"  .I have since sent 2 IM.....still awaiting response.....
I guess I believe that closure is important.... 
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| Jul 8 @ 5:08 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Closure. 
Thought everything was perfect, but now I'm left deserted.
red handed, caught cheating, my hearts beating. Do I deserve this?
I used to love her, but now I wanna watch her suffer.
It makes me sick to my stomache thinking she sees two lovers.
I wanna break her pictures. I wanna burn her pictures.
Everything we had was wrong and now I'm glad it's gone with her.
She was a liar, denying that things were alright.
but meanwhile, she was up f***ing him all night.
And all the things that she said, are now stuck in my head.
I'm such an idiot, to let you crawl back in my bed.
Those phone numbers in your back pocket weren't mine,
so f*** you both don't act like it's the first time.
[Female]
While you were sleeping, I was out creeping.
I'd say I went out with friends, but i was cheating.
When you were at home, I was at his home.
Slept in his bed, he slept alone.
We used to be together, thought it would be forever.
Until she turned around and ripped my heart right through my sweater.
How come you're so ungrateful. How come this feels so painful.
You're not so perfect, but it's perfect to be so unfaithful
How could i be so naive? Sometimes I'm too trusting.
She sleeps with me and then she sleeps with him it's so disgusting.
Touching other people's property, obviously you're down with O.P.P.
That makes your nature naughty.
Everything she ever told me was a f***ing lie.
Everything she ever did was with some other guy.
We should have never hooked up, thought you were one of a kind.
You wanna act like a slut? Then do it on your own time.
[Female]
While you were sleeping, I was out creeping.
I'd say I went out with friends, but i was cheating.
When you were at home, I was at his home.
Slept in his home, you slept alone.
I never knew it could hurt like this.
I dedicate this to you, you bitch.
I never knew it could hurt like this.
I dedicate this to you, you bitch.
Oh my God I never knew love was so fatal.
She makes Paris Hilton looks like a f***ing angel
That backstabbing bitch, what happened made me sick.
It's the same story, different author, man, the same old shit.
I want a perfect girl, it's not a perfect world,
'cuz she's a superstar gold-digging type of girl.
my dear, my dear, my dear, you do not know me but I know you very well.
And let me tell you that you make my life a, living hell.
I'm living well without you, I doubt you, will ever really see
the amount of trash you amount to.
She's a partial lover, undercover, no class.
So take ### these three minutes ### and shove them up your stupid ass.
I hope you're smart enough to learn from your dumb mistakes.
'cuz if not, you'll learn the hard way when the condom breaks.
I never knew it could hurt like this.
I dedicate this to you, you bitch
I never knew it could hurt like this
I dedicate this to you, you bitch.
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| Jul 14 @ 3:32 AM |
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RavenDays
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When he first asked me for the divorce it was over the phone. He is in VA and I live in TX...I told him that he had to come to TX to ask me, as I wanted him to face me. I have not seen him in nearly 2 years and wanted him to look me in the face and tell me that he wanted a divorce.
I got over that, I dont want him here. I am afraid that I would end up doing something that would cause me more heartbreak. So I just filed for the divorce and let him be.
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| Jul 15 @ 9:48 AM |
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custis
Posts: 1,365
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Never Again
(Words & music by Billy Edd Wheeler - Jerry Chesnut)
I hope I never ever love anyone this much again
I can't take it anymore, I’ve been hurt before
Never ever quite like this time
What will become of me when you're no longer here
If I can't stop loving you, what am I to do
You'll be free but where will I be
Now that I’m used to love, how can I stand alone
Now that love has come and gone, like the ending of a song
A song my lonely heart keeps singing
Where do I go from here, will I get over you
If so, next time I’ll be smart, I’ll know before I start
A heart that don't care, don't get broken
I hope I never ever love anyone this much again
Never ever, never again
Never again
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| Jul 15 @ 9:50 AM |
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lj450
Posts: 8,422
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Opening of the legs......brings closure of the heart.
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| Jul 15 @ 10:35 AM |
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willowy1
Posts: 4,984
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was that in your fortune cookie last night? 
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| Jul 15 @ 11:37 AM |
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jaybird777
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Case in point..During my marriage, I caught my wife cheating on me. When I did discover her evil doings, she fled immediately, and never gave me a answer to why...Why she she felt she had to cheat. After out divorce, I tried to ask her why to get some closure, but she failed to reply.. She went on her way, and I have been suffering ever since. Wanting to know just why she turned in another direction.
Has anyone ever been in that sitition, and just how were you able to handle it?
I think closure is important in any relationship. If not, it leaves a lot of unanswered questions. Let me know what you think...
Sorry Dude, yer looking fer answers that don't exist.
When it comes ta sexual things, most a the time, especially inclandestinal, there ain't a lotta thought that goes into it. They just sort of do it, wth-out really thinking about it, cause if they think about it too much, they would start feelin guilty and back out.
The root cause. Could be there were gettin bored. Even the greatest relationals, the spark grows a little dimmer with time and long association.
Sometime they might be feeling hurt or angry, and looking for a release.
Sometime it coiuld be a total animal thing. Something tweak their sexual instinctuals and they shove feelings and emotinals aside fer a time, and just let the beasst take over fer a while.
Anyhow, best thing you can do is stop fretting about it, get out of the house, go have a little fun. Time to shed the old skin and grow somethin new and better. Hang in there brother, better days are coming if ya can just ride out the storm.
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| Jul 15 @ 12:09 PM |
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painter007
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Those who run from closure I have found, do so because they may realize what they did to cause a breakup (cheating, untruthfulness, playah,....) and dont want to look at themselves and take their part in the breakup. Its always easier to blame..and hide. But, it will only cause problems down the road, and I have found by forgiving someone, even myself, then it's much easier to move on. JMO
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| Jul 15 @ 12:27 PM |
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Skydognc
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at risk of being blasted.....
it sems to me ......
closure is for those who cannot accept an ending. A way of escaping the reality that its over.
if its done...its over...... that in itself is total closure.
the why's are insignificant......
pack it in, and move on....
thats how I view things anyway.
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| Jul 15 @ 12:48 PM |
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painter007
Posts: 15,990
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Skydog.........it depends on the situation.....and not all has to be related to romantic encounters
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| Jul 15 @ 1:47 PM |
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Skydognc
Posts: 2,991
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<<<<<< stands corrected!
Closure in death or missing persons is very important!
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| Jul 16 @ 8:56 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Closure is nice, but I never get it.
My relationships always go out with a LONG LONG whimper and not a bang.
When you jump into a cold pool, the pain soon ends. But when you lower yourself in an inch at a time, it seems to last forever.
I don't even know if my last relationship is over or not. I still love her, she still loves me, and she is still waiting for me to ask her to marry me.
So what's different from when the relationship was on other than we are not seeing each other?
That sucks. Closure? Must be nice.
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[Edited on 7/16/2008 9:06 PM]
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| Jul 22 @ 9:55 AM |
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lj450
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Closure is important if you get a huge cut above your eye. The blood will flow into your eye and blind you.
Other than that, its all just fluff.
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