| Dec 30, 2005 @ 11:34 PM |
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JesterDrawers
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It does get lonely sometimes
Does it really? I'm serious.... Just from my own experience, when I was married, I was incredibly lonely. I've been single for over 3 years now, and I'm alone - but NEVER lonely! Could it be I was with a woman that I was extremely incompatible with and we turned into mere "roommates"? I think that's a part of it. I also think that if you're in a relationship, you have a reasonable expectation for someone to be there for you on an emotional level, and when they are not, then you feel lonely. When you're NOT in a relationship, you don't have that expectation of someone being there for you, so while you're alone, you can't be lonely - because there's no one home to withhold themselves from you emotionally.
Does this make any sense at all...or am I just rambling again????
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| Jan 2, 2006 @ 3:16 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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^^^^ Makes a lot of sense to me.
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| Jan 2, 2006 @ 5:11 PM |
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Pssst
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It would be nice to have someone around to get rid of
the bees' nests, spiders, etc. To connect the dishwasher,
washer and dryer when I move(d). To close the front door
when its swollen. To take care of the window when the
a/c unit fell out and I was due at work at 6:30 a.m.
On the plus side I call Handyman connection or an
exterminator and don't have to wait, they come right
out and fix whatever. And I have a dog to bark if there
are strange noises etc. I don't have to nag anyone. If
the first exterminator doesn't show, I can call a new one.
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| Jan 2, 2006 @ 5:33 PM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Pssst.......I've found that some of those Handymen are quite good looking and some are even single!!!!!!  
Hmmmmm, should this comment go in the "Where to Meet" thread?!?!?!
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 6:07 PM |
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ladyraindove74
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Aaah...this upcoming Sunday will be 10 yrs. that I have been on my own. It hasn't always been easy, but I have learned that I can find things to enjoy. I have my daughters also that when I can I visit and spend time with. And, in essence I'm never really alone...Admittedly, it would be more enjoyable to have someone to go along with me on my adventures, but...I can do that on my own too. So...I do enjoy being single...most of the time. 
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 7:40 PM |
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Pssst
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It sure would be nice to divide that heating bill in half!
Sharing bills! Yeah, thats why I'm looking for someone. 
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| Jan 19, 2006 @ 10:15 AM |
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Enolihi
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I was married once and it didn't last. My ex had mental problems and was cheating on me. The second man in my life didn't stay because he had problems too of a different kind. I've been single for a long time. I've been in and out of a couple relationships and found that if that person has problems, it is better to live a happy single life which can be fulfilled with many other things in life. I like to write, paint and travel. If I get lonely, I visit family and grandchildren. There is a lot to help one get over the loneliness. Yes there are times I wished I could find someone, but not to the expense of my sanity. I do date occasionally, but I don't let myself become emotionally involved anymore. It isn't worth it. If I found a man of integrity, perhaps I would venture it.
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| Jan 19, 2006 @ 7:31 PM |
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7eternity
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Been single for over a year, and I'm truly very happy.
Pro(s): Everything.
Con(s): If you can't deal with loneliness, then it sucks.
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| Jan 20, 2006 @ 2:57 AM |
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MoonBeamTag45
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I've been single for 6 years, and to be honest..the first year was awful. I was afraid, plain and simple. I had been the other half of a partnership for 23 yrs, and I wasn't sure I could do life alone. After the first year, and all of the first holidays...things improved dramatically.
Now, having said that, being single has been great for my self esteem. I'm no longer afraid, and my confidence in myself is strong. I also don't feel lonely when I'm alone ( usually ), I have hobbies that are mine alone, and I've learned to appreciate solitude.
I still miss the cuddling, and the coffee in the morning...but I don't miss it enough to jump into anything with the wrong person. I think that is something for us all to be careful about.
Being single...look at it as part of the journey your on, try new things that you never had a chance to do !!
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| Jan 20, 2006 @ 3:08 PM |
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danae74
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Now, having said that, being single has been great for my self esteem. I'm no longer afraid, and my confidence in myself is strong. I also don't feel lonely when I'm alone ( usually ), I have hobbies that are mine alone, and I've learned to appreciate solitude.
I agree wholeheartedly, MoonBeam! Being alone for a period of time, especially if it's by choice, is really good for most people. It teaches self-sufficiency, and lets you learn just how strong and whole and interesting you really are, all on your own. I believe we'll be able to approach the next relationship, if and when it comes, with a much healthier attitude.
Not that it's not difficult sometimes!! But even that is a good thing: getting by the difficult stages really builds character. Sounds old-fashioned, but it's true...
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| Jan 20, 2006 @ 3:23 PM |
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MoonBeamTag45
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Danae...
All of this is on the upside....but there are many men out there that can't deal with an independent woman. I've asked myself this question," Do you really want a man that only feels complete with a needy person ? " .... I keep coming up, with no way !!! There are women out there for him...and I want nothing to do with him.
Life is good !!!
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| Jan 21, 2006 @ 5:52 PM |
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suzieq0808
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I discovered the best thing about being single quite by accident. My car broke down on the way to work. Because there are 10 guys in my office, there were 10 opinions about what was wrong with my car. I get to listen to all or none -- my choice. When the repair shop called with diagnosis and estimate, I was comfortable that they would make appropriate repairs.
Same argument but from the flip side, my ex-boyfriend set up my home network internet connection the last time I moved. When I mentioned how he'd done it to a co-worker, the co-worker said, "Oh he didn't have to do it that way, he should have done it this way instead." I replied, "I know but that's the way my boyfriend knows how to do it." "But it's not the best way!" "But that's the way my boyfriend knows how to do it." I continue to pay extra for the way he set it up. Boyfriend's gone, I think I might have my co-worker redo my home network.
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| Jan 22, 2006 @ 12:32 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I've been single for over 30 years, so obviously I find it at least tolerable. There've been a number of relationships since then, but never a full time live-in one. I have varied interests and different groups of friends that share them; I live with 3 cats, 2 sons and 1 dog with neighbors popping in regularly, so I'm not really lonely. My sons share the wealth and the work, and one of them is fully qualified to fix anything around the house, so that's not even a problem; he's well-trained if he ever finds the right woman.
Hmmm...so what is it that's lacking? Obviously sex; the cuddling and the pats on the ass in passing, the joking and teasing, coffee and crosswords on weekend mornings, and discussions about everything under the sun. That's if it's a good relationship; if it's not, it's hell on earth.
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| Jan 24, 2006 @ 6:18 PM |
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T_i_m
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I saw a recent Will & Grace where Will and Matt Lauer both sat down in the bathroom instead of doing the traditional stand up technique. I like it. Sit down and take a break and make your woman happy all at the same time. Also, the seat always is down. A simple solution and everybody wins!
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| Jan 30, 2006 @ 1:39 PM |
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altogirl67
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PROS:
1) Freedom! If I wanna go somewhere, I just go. It's 100% by my schedule and no one else's.
2) When I leave something in the refrigerator, it's still there when I come back.
3) No falling in the toilet in the middle of the night because he left the seat up
4) I have complete control the remote
CONS:
1) I miss having someone to travel with, to go to movies, to sit here and watch a movie, to hike with, to bike with... an acitivity partner
2) There are days that are just difficult days... we all have them and I miss having someone here to hold me and tell me it's going to be ok
3) I missing having someone to cook for. I tend to cook very little being here alone and I LOVE to cook
4) I miss having someone here to have to have long, meaningful conversations with regarding whatever topic that comes up
5) Sex... I miss sex and the intimacy that goes along with it... Good sex, pillow talk and cuddling are amazing ways to end the day...
6) I miss knowing there is someone at home at the end of every day who loves me
Ok, now I'm bummed... gotta go take a walk and shake this off. 
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| Jan 30, 2006 @ 2:10 PM |
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waiting41
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There are days that are just difficult days... we all have them and I miss having someone here to hold me and tell me it's going to be ok
This is about the only thing that strikes me on this list. Not as being something I miss. Just wondering what that would be like.
Altogirl, this too shall pass. Everything does. Through pain we grow. Walk through it. Everything IS going to be okay girl. It really is.
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| Jan 30, 2006 @ 3:05 PM |
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altogirl67
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Thanks Waiting... I'm back from my walk and I feel better... though I kept thinking I even have to go for walks alone! ha! I really am the kind of person that does ok being alone. I even enjoy it a lot of the time... there are just days... But on those days, friends like you make it all better. Thank you for being who you are... the world is a better place with you in it. 
Man, I'm sappy today... sorry!
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| Feb 16, 2006 @ 5:27 AM |
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Sabrina806
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Hi everyone
Just wanna say thanks for everyone who has posted an opinion on here, I take great strength from all comments. Cheers
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| Feb 17, 2006 @ 12:15 PM |
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long_legged_girl2002
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Hi there everyone This is the first time i have written anything here i think but the 'single woman' bit caught my eye. I have been married for TWENTY FOUR YEARS and moved from Ireland my home to live in Fl in the US where my husband's work iis EVERYTHING SET UP - NICE HOUSE - NOOL - BOAT - TWO CARS ETC and what happens? In Oct last year he annouced very causal that HE WAS HAVING AN AFFAIR and then asked me if i would give him to Christmas to WIND IT DOWN What a Christmas gift i would have got, and this winding donw is crap - he knew the woman about three months SO ON IMPULSIVE I BOOKED AN AIRLINE TICKET HOME TWO DAYS LATER TAKING ONLY A SUITCASE I CANNOT DESCRIBE THE HURT - I CAN ONLY TRUTHFULLY COMPARE IT TO PHYSICALLY HAVING AN KNIFE STABBED IN YOUR HEART SO BACK HOME TO LIVE WITH MY DIVORCED BROTHER AND BACK ON THE SINGLE MARKET AGAIN AND I JUST CANNONT BE BOTHERED LOOKING I AM STILL RAW AND HURING AND ITO HAVE TO START GETTING TO KNOW SOMOEOONE AGAIN ETC WHEW NO I AM GOING TO TRY THE SINGLE LIFE BUT SO FAR ITS BEEN LONELY LONELY AND MORE LONELY - SOUNDS LIKE I AM ON A PITY PARTY BUT IF ANYONE AND I AM SURE SOME OF U HAVE BEEN THROUGH THIS THEY WILL KNOW WHAT I MEAN
DOES TIME HEAL? DO THE MEMORIES BECOME LESS VIVID AND HEARTBREAKING AS THE MONTHS PASS? COULD SOMEONE TELL ME PLEASE MAUREEN
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| Feb 18, 2006 @ 12:24 AM |
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Meadowlark8
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Here's another one to add to the list....
14. You can allow your dog to sleep in your bed.
15. Blast "Enya" on the stereo instead of his "Van Halen" cd's.
16. Leave the house cleaning undone until your damn ready to
do it.
17. Never argue about finances and who's spending too much.
18. You don't have a husband who's pissing all the bank account
money down the bar room toilet.
19. No worries about your husband stubbling in late at night of
worrying if he'll drive home and make it in one piece.
20. Never having to spend holiday family dinners with his
crazy relatives.
21. Never having to worry that your husband is out late cheating,
because now he's cheating on his new wife! Ha! Ha!
22. Being able to go full force on your career and finish up
graduate degrees without hassle that another half
complains that he's not getting enough attention.
23. You can eliminate his junk foods from your cabinets
and start that vegetarian diet you always wanted to follow.
24. Shop or visit friends and never having to call "home" to let the
other half know where you are.
25. Return to your maiden name and deciding to keep it!
Now no one will think you're Irish, German or Chinese
by stupidly referring to your "marriage surname".
Besides if you have a professional career like me,
word to the wise, it's best to keep your maiden name
for all your State Licenses, passports, etc.
Life is much easier that way.
I've been single about 4/5 years now. I gained two graduate degrees in process, and completely changed careers.
Life can be better after divorce.
The right way about life (at least for me) is to take some personal time after divorce, re-establish yourself in your career THEN re-emerge into a new relationship. If you feel good about yourself and your accomplishments, only good things will follow....
Regards all online....Marilyn
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