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Palomino
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http://youtube.com/watch?v=kYUCfrgT2QQ
Breaking up, especially when one or the other in the relationship is still in love, really IS hard to do. Love lost is probably one of the most painful experiences in life and yet we all go through it one way or another. Divorce, separation, death, falling out of love or out of interest, cheating, lying, drugs, alcoholism, mental, physical or emotional issues...and so much more play a part in breaking up.
When my heart hurts I need a release. So I turn to music. The song selections change as I go through the stages of grief, not necessarily in order and also repeating the stages in some cases. So my song selections can be very sad where I can purge myself with a good cry. Or they can be angry songs, spitting venom at the "ex".
Denial (You tell yourself that it isn't happening. That you'll get back together)
Anger (Anger comes as you begin to accept reality.)
Bargaining (trying to get them back)
Depression (I don't care anymore and then crying...a lot)
Acceptance (move on to a new life and leave the past behind)
Excellent Site on Grief <----Clicky Here
This thread is for anyone who feels the 'urge to purge' and share their emotions from a breakup by posting links to songs and/or pasting lyrics. Let it out, let it go, forgive and move on.
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| Mar 29 @ 3:04 AM |
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grumblebear
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Acceptance... Thank God...
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| Mar 29 @ 1:39 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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Depression.... Heart Break
Beware, this one is pretty depressing. Who knows tho, it may just snap ya out of it after watching how depressed some people get. 
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| Mar 29 @ 1:45 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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I think this one is a combination of Anger and Acceptance
Heart Break Story
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| Mar 29 @ 1:57 PM |
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Palomino
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LOL....that was a good one, Grumble. I actually love Clay Aiken and wasn't that Roy Clark singing? I love him, too! That's definitely an acceptance song. 
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| Mar 29 @ 2:05 PM |
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Palomino
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Dang, Spirit. That heart break song really got to me. All of those emotions coming out through those graphics and a perfect song to go along with them. 
I agree that the heatbreak story is for both anger and acceptance. 
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| Mar 29 @ 2:23 PM |
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kattsmeow
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uH-wUNnljjw&feature=related
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| Mar 29 @ 2:44 PM |
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Palomino
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Wow Katt. Perfect!
Time For Me To Fly ~ REO
I've been around for you
I've been up and down for you
But I just can't get any relief
I've swallowed my pride for you
I've lived and lied for you
But you still make me feel like a thief
You got me stealin' your love away
cause you never give it
Peeling the years away
And we can't relive it
I make you laugh
And you make me cry
I believe it's time for me to fly
You said we'd work it out
You said that you had no doubt
That deep down we were really in love
Oh, but I'm tired of holding on
To a feeling I know is gone
I do believe that I've had enough
I've had enough of the falseness
Of a worn out relation
Enough of the jealousy
And the intoleration
I make you laugh
And you make me cry
I believe it's time for me to fly
{refrain} time for me to fly
Oh, I've got to set myself free
Time for me to fly
And thats just how it's got to be
I know it hurts to say goodbye
But it's time for me to fly
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| Mar 29 @ 2:50 PM |
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kattsmeow
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That was my song when me and my ex broke up. Actually the whole album.
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| Mar 29 @ 2:59 PM |
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Palomino
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I'm actually stuck in this stage. 
http://youtube.com/watch?v=o6Zd9nF9ywA
In My Life ~ The Beatles
There are places I remember
All my life though some have changed
Some forever not for better
Some have gone and some remain
All these places have their moments
With lovers and friends I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life I've loved them all
But of all these friends and lovers
There is no one compares with you
And these memories lose their meaning
When I think of love as something new
Though I know I'll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I'll often stop and think about them
In my life I love you more
Though I know I'll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I'll often stop and think about them
In my life I love you more
In my life I love you more
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| Mar 29 @ 3:01 PM |
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kattsmeow
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I tended to get angry real quick through the process and found songs that fed that.
[Edited on 3/29/2008 3:19 PM]
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| Mar 29 @ 3:09 PM |
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Palomino
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I'm go through all of them (back and forth) except the last one. I need to get really angry for awhile before I hit acceptance.
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| Mar 29 @ 3:34 PM |
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Skydognc
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my take....
there are many songs and music that help youto cope and release.
also songs that can cut to the bone!
I am sappy like that I guess...........
to end a love, a deep embedded love...... with a close friendship, a true friendship,
is in my very honest opinion, the best way to cope and to handle the pain, on both sides.
anger, hurt,frustration to me, are often vented verbally or written, and only serve to release the hurt within, but often only fuels more hurt and anger.
maintaining a close friendship with one you love / loved, opens communication between the two of you, to deal with the hurt intimately, without cusing more hurt.
sorry for being so long winded !
great post Pali........
............. Havent been in touch with others lately, caught up n my own world......
I am hoping you and icon man, are still going strong !
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| Mar 29 @ 3:56 PM |
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Palomino
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I had maintained friendships with my ex-husbands and a couple of ex-boyfriends. It doesn't happen immediately after the breakup, though. It takes time for healing first...with both people involved.
Sky.... 
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| Mar 29 @ 10:35 PM |
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DwainP50
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Acceptance (move on to a new life and leave the past behind) 
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| Mar 29 @ 11:17 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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Maintaining a friendship is not always possible after. The ex bf that was the fight starter thinks if I am friendly that means he might get laid then he attacks me when I don't give him some. Some people are way too out of balance to talk to. You just have to stay away from them. Then there are some that live in a fantasy world they make up to suit their world picture. 
Why do I draw people like that? Is there something I am supposed to learn? Only thing I seem to get from it is DON'T TRUST. Now, that is a bad thing tho, isn't it? Why should I want to be in distrust? Caution, sure, I can see that but this is not a caution thing being instilled in me. I am getting flat paranoid about it now. Especially after today. It just comes back and hits me in the face! Anyone have any ideas? It is like some men just can't hear me say no then blame ME for me not wanting them and calling ME controlling of them if they don't fit my parameters! Am I just crazy? Or is that THEIR weirdness? 
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| Mar 30 @ 2:45 AM |
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Palomino
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Oh geez, Spirit. I hope someone has some answers for you, hon. I don't think you're screwed up at all, but I ask myself the same questions. lol And right now I have serious trust issues. I never thought I would be this way and I really miss the naive me. It sucks, eh?
Dwain...it sounds like you have moved on? I'll be glad when I get to that stage. 
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| Mar 30 @ 3:15 AM |
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Palomino
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Leona Lewis ~ Bleeding Love
http://youtube.com/watch?v=sF84pIhP5UM
Closed off from love I didn’t need the pain
Once or twice was enough and it was all in vain
Time starts to pass before you know it you’re frozen
But something happened for the very first time with you
My heart melted to the ground found something true
And everyone’s looking round thinking I’m going crazy
But I don’t care what they say I’m in love with you
They try to pull me away but they don’t know the truth
My heart’s crippled by the vein that I keep on closing
You cut me open and I
Keep bleeding keep keep bleeding love
I keep bleeding I keep keep bleeding love
Keep bleeding keep keep bleeding love
You cut me open
Trying hard not to hear but they talk so loud
Their piercing sounds fill my ears try to fill me with doubt
Yet I know that their goal is to keep me from falling
But nothing’s greater than the risk that comes with your embrace
And in this world of loneliness I see your face
Yet everyone around me thinks that I’m going crazy
Maybe maybe
Chorus
And it’s draining all of me
Though they find it hard to believe
I’ll be wearing these scars for everyone to see
Chorus
And I keep bleeding, keep keep bleeding love
Keep bleeding, keep keep bleeding love
Keep bleeding, keep keep bleeding love
You cut me open and I
Keep bleeding, keep keep bleeding love
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| Mar 30 @ 6:23 AM |
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SensualGemini
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Denial ... or eternal hope?
... and another
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| Mar 30 @ 9:32 AM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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Yeah. I remember the stages and the songs.
How it started: Crazy in Love
Denial Other Side of the World
Anger Not Ready To Make Nice
Bargaining Waiting for you
Depression And So it Goes
Acceptance Movin' on
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