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mailorderannie
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For me, listening to the sad songs just makes it worse. Its like you are infusing your brain with that hurt more and more and its harder to move on.
I'm still crying over mine and sure wish he would be the man I thought he was and talk to me. I've not only lost my lover but a very close friend, and that's what hurts.
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| Mar 30 @ 9:57 AM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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sure wish he would be the man I thought he was and talk to me. I've not only lost my lover but a very close friend, and that's what hurts.
Yep. I hear ya hun. But you know what? That just it though isn't it? They just aren't who we thought they were.
You have to ask yourself....what exactly are they running from? When they just disappear like that....what ghost is haunting them?
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| Mar 30 @ 10:02 AM |
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parrothead1234
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sure wish he would be the man I thought he was and talk to me. I've not only lost my lover but a very close friend, and that's what hurts.
Yep. I hear ya hun. But you know what? That just it though isn't it? They just aren't who we thought they were.
You have to ask yourself....what exactly are they running from? When they just disappear like that....what ghost is haunting them?
Odd, I have the same thoughts about my last relationship, just from the opposite side of the gender fence.
Perhaps the problem is with ourselves - not them. For myself only, I look at my last relationship & think - "Well - I guess that's my door prize for seeing her as I wanted her to be, not as she is/was"
You have to ask yourself....what exactly are they running from? When they just disappear like that....what ghost is haunting them?
In my personal scenario - I have a very good feel where the "ghost" originates from. Trouble is, she doesn't think there's a ghost - but she's the only one. But if she won't listen to her life long friends - she surely won't listen to me. Kind of like alcoholics - step one admit there's a problem.
All you can do is hope the best for them & move on.
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| Mar 30 @ 10:16 AM |
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Snappygoddess
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Some of my best poetry has been inspired during my "down" times. Those times that I lost my husband...dated, got serious a few times and it didnt work out...that's when my writing shone through the clearest.
Music and writing both have not only gotten me through tough times but keep me on a higher plane during good times and those in between moments 
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| Mar 30 @ 10:24 AM |
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parrothead1234
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Some of my best poetry has been inspired during my "down" times.
That's interesting Snappy - it would seem you have some sort of cosmic connection with - of all people - Eric Clapton.
Clapton has said that he feels/knows his best music came from some of the lowest points in his life.
Ie - "Layla" - failed romance
ie "Tears In Heaven" - the death of his son.
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| Mar 30 @ 11:06 AM |
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mailorderannie
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You have to ask yourself....what exactly are they running from? When they just disappear like that....what ghost is haunting them?
You hit the nail on the head with that comment.
Running is this guy's pattern, so no...he won't be happy with anyone.
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| Mar 30 @ 11:12 AM |
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Snappygoddess
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Parrot... Clapton is one of my all time favs to listen to....anytime Strangly, his music does not depress me..rather as you said.. I feel a connection through his music... as I do through a few others.
My down times are also when I connect with myself on a deeper level. Interesting 
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| Mar 30 @ 11:15 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Snappy - I think you're talking about what I call the Know Zone. It happens to me when I'm physically exhausted or emotionally at rock bottom. I do my best work at times like that, and every ESP experience I've ever had has also been when I was in the Know Zone...it's as if the barrier between our inefficient conscious brain and our much more efficient subconscious brain is torn apart and we can actually use the whole danged thing...amazing feeling, isn't it?
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| Mar 30 @ 11:41 AM |
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ColdinWisconsin
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I think you're talking about what I call the Know Zone. It happens to me when I'm physically exhausted or emotionally at rock bottom. I do my best work at times like that,
Amen Heaven. That's me too. My writing kicks into high gear and my hands can't keep up. It's actually what got me blogging in the first place. So I guess I should be grateful to him for that eh?
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| Mar 30 @ 11:47 AM |
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painter007
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It sucks big time.....your heart has a empty ache....
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| Mar 30 @ 12:01 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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So I guess I should be grateful to him for that eh?
That ole silver lining thingie...yep, but physical exhaustion can do it too...I was working in Japan, putting in 25-30 hours straight, sleeping for a few hours, then doing it again, for about a week. Top that off with 'comfortable' temps of 85 degrees in the office, and the 9-5 part of the day being closeted with a bunch of chain-smokers. It paid off though - the other 'half' of my day I was changing programs to meet their specifications, doing it on the fly in production, no testing, and never once dropped the ball, had to look up syntax or hesitated for a second on what needed to be done, where and when. It was the programming equivalent of walking on water - the price was high though, about 6 months of being sick once the project was done.
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| Mar 30 @ 12:04 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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I think you're talking about what I call the Know Zone. Interesting. My best writting comes to me when Im not thinking, but doing. Likle at work for example. Im in the middle of something and I feel a click. I have to stop and scribble it down or its gone just as fast as it came. Ill have to look into this know zone. I do practice the art of stillness. Yet you clear your mind with that too. You have no idea how many twitches and jerks your body makes until you make it all still.
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do
Its not the breaking up. its the breaking of habits. We humans are creatures of habit. And breaking a habit, weither its a good habit or a very very bad on is hard. Filling it in with a new one is just as uncomfortable.
Those that do not learn from the past are condemed to repeat and repeat and repeat it. Think he was talking about relationship?
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| Mar 30 @ 2:17 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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amazing feeling, isn't it?
It is amazing..and I have learned some very valuable life lessons in that time also....the Know Zone....I like that Heaven
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| Mar 30 @ 4:12 PM |
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Palomino
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SensualGemini said:
Denial ... or eternal hope?
Oh geez, SG....... I would say that's eternal hope. 
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| Mar 30 @ 4:25 PM |
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mailorderannie
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Its not the breaking up. its the breaking of habits
Okay, talk about being in the Know Zone...
Right before I read that post, I started singing Hard Habit to Break, and for me THAT'S the tough part. There are several habits I got into when I was part of a couple, and those are the reminders that hurt.
I imagine every creative person gets a burst of creativity when they are hurt. Its that place we go to for healing and comfort and the things that are born of from that hurt are usually priceless.
Edited to add:
I've had 2 different blogs going around in my head for a week now, but everytime I sit down to write them, the words won't flow...and I friggin hate that 
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| Mar 30 @ 4:41 PM |
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Palomino
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Yeah. I remember the stages and the songs.
How it started: Crazy in Love
Denial Other Side of the World
Anger Not Ready To Make Nice
Bargaining Waiting for you
Depression And So it Goes
Acceptance Movin' on
Cold...most excellent choices.
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| Mar 30 @ 4:44 PM |
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Palomino
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Annie, I'm not good at writing but the only time I can write a poem is when I'm very sad. So I guess that's when I'm in the "Know Zone"? The same goes for blogs. I have to either be sad or very angry before I feel like writing one. Hence, most of my blogs are pretty depressing. 
Annie.....  
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| Mar 30 @ 4:50 PM |
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mailorderannie
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Thanks Pali!
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| Mar 30 @ 5:13 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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I can get inspired to write, paint, dance or whatever in any type or mood. It usually is a very alive moment tho. Many things make me feel more alive and conscious. It is the consciousness that wakes up my talents. Pain tends to make us sit up and be more conscious. Like being half asleep at the stove, burn your hand and BOOM! Wide awake, right?
So, maybe the different pains are a jab at us to wake us up to consciousness? And while in those conscious moment, like Heaven's Know Zone, we tend to connect more to that SUPERconscious Universal Source Energy.
You know, that source that all those great ideas all hit the planet about the same time all over it? They all seem so very similar but each person puts their own personal 'spin' or personality to it. By the way, Pali, great thread!  
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| Mar 30 @ 5:38 PM |
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Palomino
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Thank you, Spirit, for encouraging me to extend my blog out to the forums. I love the way you think. One of these days I'll be ready to make that phone call. 
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