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ptty2005
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I am 43 and single. My wife and the mother of my children cheated on me x2 and after 7 years told me that she no longer loved me. I was devastated. I almost took my own life. If it wasn’t for my kids and family I wouldn’t be here today.
About 6 months after she left I met a woman. She showed me that I was worthy of another, She was sweet and beautiful. She made me feel like a man again. Then one day she started to shut me down. She wouldn’t talk, and I had to ask her to touch me. I found out that she was with someone else while we were together. The whole time she made me feel so good was a lie! Know she is with him and I am alone once again. It been 3 weeks now and I still cant eat, sleep or think. I feel old, ugly and worthless!
Here is the email she sent me 2 days ago
“I have to let you know, why do you think my last relationship didn’t work? I wanted something better. I left my boyfriend and my children behind. I am selfish and always put myself first. I have broken up 7 of my friends marriages because I convinced the all they could get better out there. Empty promises are what I am all about…and now I have screwed with you…Even before you and I had issues I had someone else on the go. I will never be happy in my life because I am always looking for the next best thing”.
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| Apr 15 @ 4:04 PM |
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kissmya55
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Well, she certainly seems to know herself. Wow. I'm sorry. That sounds horrible. And I have no advice for you. I have never lived through something like that. I can only wish you the best. 
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| Apr 15 @ 4:08 PM |
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Loreli
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Please, please go talk to someone.
You can't let people like this get you down so bad.
I know it hurts...but there is hope, and love, out there.
Good luck.
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| Apr 15 @ 4:18 PM |
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ladros
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sounds like the woman who sent you this email is a hell of a lot worse off then you are so there ya go, you have to remember no matter where you are theres always something better and theres always something worse
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| May 3 @ 12:25 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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I am selfish and always put myself first. You knew this long before she told you. At lease you felt it. Turning the blind eye over hope of a not be, is painful shit.
Foward friend. Whats the other choice do you have? Not a choice anymore fellow father.
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| May 10 @ 8:42 AM |
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tatiana329
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You should maybe consider some professional therapy to see why you have no self worth except if your in a relationship. Your happiness should come from within, not the exteriors of life.
Your "other" thread" ( same thing) asks what to do over 40... it would be the same thing you'd be doing under 40... which would be to start to deal with it and make your own happiness which is not dependent on anothers moods or preferences.
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| Jul 14 @ 3:39 AM |
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RavenDays
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God you sound just like me after mine left me. I never knew that men could hurt as much as us girls. I truly feel your pain. I got help after trying to kill myself. And I moved from the state he was in. I knew that if I stayed I would end up actually hurting myself and I really did not want that. Moving helped alot as I did not see him on a day to day basis nor did I look for his truck when I was out driving. We lived in a small town on a military base. It was hell living in the same town and knowing that I could not be with him.
Plus I knew he had someone else and did not want to see them together.
I think you should talk to someone who can help you heal...
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| Jul 15 @ 9:43 AM |
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custis
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You have to stop thinking about yourself as old and worthless. That sick bitch is the one who is worthless. She is not worth feeling bad about. Get yourself together and do the things that make you happy without worrying about getting a woman into your life. The rest will come naturally. This woman must have raised some warning flags somewhere along the way. You will be more cautious and attuned to that now. Don't feel sorry for yourself. Just get up and out and enjoy life. Don't let your self esteem be damaged by someone who is not fit to shine your shoes.
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| Jul 15 @ 12:30 PM |
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BandTMom
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Happiness come from within, not form external forces.
We, as individuals, are the only ones who can make us,as individual, happy.
When we realize this, everything falls into place.
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| Jul 15 @ 12:52 PM |
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willowy1
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She sounds like a psychopath. Superficially charming, psychopaths tend to make a good first impression on others and often strike observers as remarkably normal. Yet they are self-centered, dishonest and undependable, and at times they engage in irresponsible behavior for no apparent reason other than the sheer fun of it. Largely devoid of guilt, empathy and love, they have casual and callous interpersonal and romantic relationships. Psychopaths routinely offer excuses for their reckless and often outrageous actions, placing blame on others instead. They rarely learn from their mistakes or benefit from negative feedback, and they have difficulty inhibiting their impulses .
I can relate to your feelings after your wife left. My husband took his own life. For a while, I thought I might join him. But then my anger kicked in and I was lucky to find a professional that I trusted. I have come a long way, but still not there.
Please find someone to talk with.You need to work on you and learn to love yourself! Don't let others define you. I wish you much peace and healing.
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| Jul 21 @ 3:54 PM |
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ptty2005
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Thanks to all who have suck kind words. I will be fine Im sure. I always am. I got a puppy for me and my boys. LOL. She is far less work and much more fun than most women ive been with!
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| Jul 21 @ 4:08 PM |
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lj450
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Just dont try to have sex with it.
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| Jul 24 @ 7:48 AM |
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Automotor
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Go have a few brews and the world will feel better. That's what works for me.
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| Jul 24 @ 9:52 PM |
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grumblebear
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The best revenge is to live life well...
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| Jul 25 @ 3:36 PM |
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Kirkland
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When someone reveals themselves to you...take heed.
I'd say you're well out of it.
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