| Jul 1, 2008 @ 10:46 PM |
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jaybird777
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Answer if you wanna.
Fer me, it had been four years. Neither of us was feeling it. No kids. It wasn't workin. Time to cash it in and try fishing elsewhere.
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 11:01 PM |
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painter007
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because.......he was mean.....and my sons didnt need to be around the violence...just a bad time...
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| Jul 1, 2008 @ 11:04 PM |
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hotdognchilli
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She got a breast enhancement!!! 
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| Jul 2, 2008 @ 12:35 AM |
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Silver1961
Posts: 4,326
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Because of her infidelity 
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| Jul 2, 2008 @ 5:21 PM |
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LaughTillYaPuke
Posts: 1,821
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Planting his garden all over the state among other things. In the end, I think he has taken the skills that he has learned as a father and has recently begun to apply them to his romantic life to great results. Good on him!
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| Jul 2, 2008 @ 7:23 PM |
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teddybearagain
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First hubby was and is alcoholic. After twenty years, I needed to find me again.
Second time, he became controlling, abusive, manipulating, after four months of marriage. I bailed and fast. He thought his money could "keep me". HA
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| Jul 3, 2008 @ 10:10 AM |
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jamminjerry
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i think it was when she realized that i wasn't going to change any more. LOL i figure she had had enuff. anyway, her mom and dad were going downhill and her bro nor sis wanted the job. of course i offered to help but her folks thought she didn't need any more help from me. the divorce was amicable. i caught a major break there. half of the legal fees and 5K to her. i got the bills and the property. she was worried about her credit score! LOL we be jammin 
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| Jul 4, 2008 @ 2:24 PM |
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redhairNfreckles
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He wanted younger after being with me since we were 16 year old kids. He got younger alright, along with, a ruined reputation in our small town, bad credit (if any), no substantial relationship with kids or grandkids, an aging body (he looks 70+), a nagging, jealous wife who is aging fast herself (heavy smoker and multiple prescription drug user a/k/a "legal" drug addict), a perpetual look of sadness on his face.....so honey, was she worth it? 
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| Jul 7, 2008 @ 5:20 PM |
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georgiapeach42
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The first was because he was an abusive druggie. The second want me to be Mary Poppins. You know, practically perfect in every way.
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| Jul 7, 2008 @ 8:03 PM |
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custis
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We married for all the wrong reasons and after a fairly short time, we simply could not stand one another anymore. She was 17 when we married, and very spoiled. She wanted to dominate every aspect of my life in every way. If I walked around the block after supper in the evening she would get pissy about it. If I had a beer while reading a magazine or watching tv she would bitch about it until I would finally tell her to go screw herself, and then she would say "There! See how that stuff makes you act?" I had to go to bed when she wanted to go to bed, I had to get up when she wanted to get up. I had to go where she went and could not go anywhere she did not want to go. As soon as we were married sex became almost non-existent. When she did grant me the use of her body for a few grudging moments, she would lay there like a log and impatiently urge me to hurry up and finish. There was no tenderness, no making out, no time spent just holding one another and kissing.
We moved to Eureka, Ca, in 1980, and every time we came up to Oregon to visit friends and relatives, she insisted that we spend 99% of our time with her parents. I was not allowed to be with my friends without her because some of them smoked pot and I might (gasp) drink a beer or two. One night when we were in town a bunch of my nephews and nieces were gathered at my best bud's house (he is married to one of my nieces) and I informed her that I was going to spend the night there, with or without her. Right in front of everyone she snaked out her hand and gave a vicious double yank on my hair, nearly separating my scalp from my skull. That was the beginning of the end. My nephews and nieces and I are all about the same age so we all grew up more like brothers and sisters.
The year we broke up after we bought our house and moved in, I got up one morning to hear her bitching incessently about the way I combed my hair after I got out of the shower. At length I got tired of hearing it and asked if she would "kindly leave me the fukk alone and go worry about her own hair," which was none too tidy itself. I suddenly felt her fist slam into the side of my head like a sledgehammer. I had been studying martial arts for years and working out so my reaction was instinctive and involuntary. I did not even realize I had done it till it was over. I did a right-hand upper body block and put her on her asss on the floor with a left backhand wedge blow. Or at least that is what I think happened. It was over in about a fifth of a second. It was the first and only time I have ever struck a woman in my entire life. We just looked at each other, both of us in astonishment as she sat there on her ass. Realizing that it was a time for a cool head, I apologized and helped her up. My automatic reaction was defensive, so she was not actually hurt, but that did not make me feel any better about it. Oddly enough, for the rest of that day, our time together was very harmonious and we actually had good sex that night, something that virtually never happened. But that was the point at which I realized that our marriage was doomed beyond repair.
Another one of our problems was that she worshipped several redneck male cousins she had who all grew up in Alabama. She wanted me to look and act just like them and do the things they did. I did not even like these guys, much less want to be like them. She wanted me to hang out with them instead of my own friends. No fukking way! The only subjects of conversation these guys had was hunting, fishing and trucking. They were Jerry Reed wannabees right out of a bad Hollywood movie and none of them had ever driven a big rig, yet they sat around all the time talking in trucker cb lingo.
I held on to the last moment. I did not want to lose my kids and I loved our house which I knew I would lose once we split up. She finally tried to kick me out and I said "I don't think so, this is my house too." So then she went and had a judge kick me out. In Oregon, the woman gets everything 99% of the time, no matter who is at fault in a splitup. At least that is the way it was in 1984. I do not know how it is now, but from what I have heard it does not sound much different these days. After six lousy years, our marriage was over. However, I do not regret the time because it resulted in three great kids who have grown up to be much more educated and cosmopolitan than their mother and her provincial relatives. No matter what her problems, I would not have had them without her.
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| Jul 14, 2008 @ 3:19 AM |
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RavenDays
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Well it started with the fact that my loving husband who always claimed that he would never ever cheat on me, cheated on me with a 19 year old. I forgave him for his one lapse in judgement, but alas he ended up forgetting time and time again that he was married and started telling others that he was not...anyway...After nearly 3 years of lies and heartbreak I gave up and let him go. He is now with the little slut he cheated on me with....and I thought they said that married men, dont leave thier wives for thier whores..They must not have known my husband. 
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| Jul 15, 2008 @ 6:58 PM |
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Skydognc
Posts: 4,017
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even though I prolly should have chosen the other,
it iwas morally easier to divorce her than to kill her !
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| Jul 15, 2008 @ 8:14 PM |
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painter007
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| Jul 24, 2008 @ 9:56 PM |
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grumblebear
Posts: 10,559
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she left...
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| Jul 25, 2008 @ 2:32 PM |
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azgirl701
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| Jul 25, 2008 @ 3:33 PM |
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Kirkland
Posts: 39
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She cheated...end of story.
Somebody once said that one of our greatest inventions was divorce.
I tend to aggree.
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| Jul 25, 2008 @ 3:55 PM |
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john33142
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In 14 yrs I went from Riches to rags....SHE owed over $70,000 in CC card bills
I worked 7 days aweek, and 16 to 18 hrs aday ...Hmmmm when I was home she was drunk,, I don't drink ..
I alway had well over 10,000 $ in my account and went being lucky to have 200$ ?????????????????????????????????????????????????????
The house was a shit hole,, dirty dishes for a month ...Beer cans every where,,, strange tooth brush ..All going over my head ...
After the fact I now know what was going on.. Like why the motion sensor lights always seem to break... why I would see strange objects out the window at night,, why cars were always stopping on the other side the river ...
welp for about 11 of those 14 yrs,, The B/F had been living here when I was working ...
They must have had one hell of a party ..    
Funny how these facts come out once it's over ..
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| Jul 25, 2008 @ 4:15 PM |
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Kirkland
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Sorry to hear about that. Sounds like a nightmare.
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| Aug 5, 2008 @ 5:57 AM |
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InDaGenes
Posts: 38
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I got tired of chasing the dreams of a sick alcoholic.....So I gave him the house and business and guaranteed myself some sleep...lol happily dreaming my own dreams! I know I got the better deal! 
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| Aug 7, 2008 @ 8:18 AM |
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Automotor
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Because she kept ragging on me about drinking and hanging out at Lucky's with my buds.
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