| Aug 27 @ 11:30 PM |
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signme
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I broke up with the ex last spring. He got very ugly with me and sent me ugly emails. Then a few weeks ago he apologized (I had emailed him to tell him I'd put a cat he liked down.) He did something really sweet last week end (he tried to come by and help me cut out a ton of stuff for school) but of course, it didn't work out the way it should.He didn't have my phone number so he couldn't have called me to tell me he was trying to knock on my door! I was in the back and the air was running--I couldn't hear anything. So later he emailed me that he had been here. So after thinking about it, I decided to send my number but also spell out what is going on with me right now: OK my number is XXX-XXX-XXX. However, this doesn't mean we are back together or you should call me every night, ok? I'm really bogged down right now. I stay late (at school), get home, eat, shower, do some school work, check email and fall into bed.I would like to talk to you once in a while but just don't have time for more right now. And could you please call me by my name once in a while? LOL Babe is the name of a pig in a movie.
Drive safe.
That's what I wrote him. Now here are the three answers he sent me!
]go to hell you are not worth calling you are not worth calling babe and: thats way you can't find anybody your sick in the head
and:o by the way i wouldn't be with anything as ugly as you are.
Now is what I wrote to him so bad that he had to get so ugly with me? I really didn't think I was being mean. I was spelling out exactly what was going on right now. So why would he respond the way he did?
Any explanations???  I'm seriously starting to think bi-polar!
[Edited on 8/27/2008 11:47 PM]
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| Aug 27 @ 11:33 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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It doesn't sound like bipolar as much as it sounds like borderline 
Just cut off contact. He's not worth it.
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| Aug 27 @ 11:36 PM |
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signme
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But LGQ is there anything in what I wrote that should trigger those responses?
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| Aug 27 @ 11:43 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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No, it doesn't seem like it, honestly. Unless he freaked at the last line about the "babe" thing, but that's not your fault...it was a simple request.
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| Aug 27 @ 11:45 PM |
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signme
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Well I thought of it as a joke really. I think he's just got some issues he needs to work out and I don't think I want to be around until all's well.
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| Aug 27 @ 11:47 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Yeah, sounds like a good idea. 
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| Aug 27 @ 11:52 PM |
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signme
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He really seemed to be trying hard to be supportive of me at the beginning of the school year and I wanted to try again but after this I guess not. ((sigh)) 
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| Aug 28 @ 1:10 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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Sign hes a JERK cut off ALL contact hon.. you dont NEED that kind of BS  you deserve much muchmore 
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| Aug 28 @ 1:24 AM |
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redhairNfreckles
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sign, I agree with LGQ and Becks! Stay away from that guy who acts like someone is always pissing on his morning cornflakes! Just not worth the grief. 
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| Aug 28 @ 1:38 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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Sign, some people act funny at times. No matter what, your plate is TOO full to deal with someone that is not emotionally balanced. Few of us are always emotionally balanced but he is spun off the wheel. You know what he is capable of. So, better for you to not let him back.
We are only as good as the people we are around. I can't be around people that are reactive. I reflect them and then I hate myself for acting like them. So, to keep from being hateful, I stay away from mean or cruel people. It is a survival thing.
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| Aug 28 @ 1:41 AM |
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willowy1
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not me I poke them 
Not everybody deserves a second change but no need to burn bridges either. We learn from each person that we allow into our heart.
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| Aug 28 @ 1:47 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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If people are in the habit of attacking you, they tend to get worse over time instead of better. I act like the people I am around so it is not a good thing for me. Not everyone does that so I am sure it is fine for some but it IS a self esteem killer to have someone like that close to you. Like a ticking bomb ready to go off. How much emotional damage will that person do next time? And are you going to get all twisted off too? If so, then it is a sick relationship.
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| Aug 28 @ 2:00 AM |
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redhairNfreckles
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Like a ticking bomb ready to go off.
I am presently reading a true story that happened less than 120 miles from me down near Atlanta, in 2004. The name of the book is, "Too Late To Say Goodbye" by Ann Rule (a former police officer). Who would have thought this respectful dentist would kill his wife, and 14 years before, his girlfriend?
I agree with SE, this guy has an issue with anger and needs to be stayed away from.
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| Aug 28 @ 2:04 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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If they start screaming at you over nothing, there is something wrong. Stay away. It only gets worse. I had a four year relationship that he did stuff like that. He would never be honest. He would start fights instead of tell the truth. He still thinks we might get back together. Even if I consider it, I remember all the times he said he was going to change and did not.
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| Aug 28 @ 6:30 PM |
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Loreli
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He sounds a little controlling....but the mean things?
Not true, you don't deserve that, and a nice man WILL come your way 
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| Aug 28 @ 8:37 PM |
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signme
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Thanks everyone. This was his second chance. It seems any time I say anything he doesn't like, he goes nuts! He was being really nice and it seemed he wanted to get back together and that he had started to put me first. But then I got those 3 emails from him. Nope,y'all are right. I don't need that.
I just wanted to see if anyone felt I'd written anything to warrant the responses I got. And no, I did not write him back, nor will I. In this case, it's 2 strikes and you're OUT!!!
Edited to add: And I really have to laugh because all this is from a guy who swears he hates confrontations and arguments~! 
[Edited on 8/28/2008 9:00 PM]
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| Aug 29 @ 1:01 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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So ya done stick your fingers in that socket?
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| Aug 29 @ 1:09 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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Lol, Burns!
Sign, what comes to me is perhaps since you emailed him to tell him about the cat he was just trying to help you emotionally but he was just not able to stick. Perhaps no matter what, you just do not reinitiate contact. He may have not meant for it to be a get back together but just some sympathy. If that was the case, then perhaps he was offended you may have taken it wrong.
Since I am not in his head and he seems to have a problem being communicative, it may really make him feel pressured that you are being communicative. My ex was that way. He hated talking. Just a thought.
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| Aug 31 @ 4:02 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Just hire a hit man to take care of the dude and keep smiling.
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| Aug 31 @ 4:12 AM |
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KatiefromStafford
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Lol, Touch!
I am with everyone else on this, Sign, let the man go. He is definitely not worthy of you. I have had several teacher friends over the years, and this time of year is extremely stressful already, you don't need him to add more to it.
Katie
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