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To dump or be dumped, that is the question.
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sjpinatl
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Which do you hate most? I actually find it more excruciating to dump someone than be dumped! Even though I have been completely honest and faithful to them (always am).
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| Jan 3, 2006 @ 10:37 PM |
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sureyacan125
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I am horrible ... I just stop calling. Then if they tell me "be a man" and face the issues (that closure sh*t which is really just an exuse to get up our butts), I'll call and let them yell and put me down until Sports Center comes on and then say "Thank you for confirming my decision" and hang up. Sorry, but love is not being a whipped puppy dog. 
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| Jan 3, 2006 @ 10:48 PM |
To dump or be dumped, that is the question.
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danae74
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Oh, doing the dumping is by far the worst! When you get dumped, all you have to do is feel inadequate and crappy. When you dump someone, then you get to feel inadequate, crappy, and guilty all at the same time!
I often wonder why the human race hasn't dwindled off into extinction by now.... 
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| Jan 3, 2006 @ 10:53 PM |
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CynCity
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I would much rather be the dumpee, than the dumper. I'm really very spineless when it comes to dumping, and always try to avoid hurting anyone. This usually results in the gentleman showing up a month or so later wanting to "try again" and trying to convince me it can work. I really need to work on my assertive dumping techniques. 
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 2:50 AM |
To dump or be dumped, that is the question.
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chinabull2000
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I've always been the dumper, and I don't much like it!
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 5:39 AM |
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sciurusniger
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I'm usually the one to pull the plug on a relationship. Not without having given it a fair shot, and sometimes even more than that. But if things reach the point where there is no more hope left, someone has to end it. Especially if continuing means losing really important things like self-respect, etc.
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 6:51 AM |
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Graystar
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I've been the dumper in my relationships and it make you feel bad, but I’m sure being dumped makes you feel worse.
I wouldn't have dumped any if they hadn't turned out to be insane. Are all women like that or do I have that special something that attracts the loonies?
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 7:21 AM |
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sciurusniger
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Not to be snarky, but the answer to a question like that is usually "yes". It is often a matter of misguided self-esteem or ego, the shopworn "savior" or "martyr" complexes, so to speak.
While it's certainly ok for one person in a relationship to need more than the other at various times, that door should swing the other way as well. Meaning, there needs to be give and take on all levels and it should balance out evenly over time. If you see a pattern in attracting truly loony needy types, you need to go inside your Self very honestly and figure out why you're afraid to be with an equal. Why you are afraid to be "needy and vulnerable" sometimes, too? Why do you feel you have to be in such control (of your Self, the relationship)?
Sure, it's a good feeling to be able to give to someone. But without allowing the other person to give back in positive ways, you risk the real chance of your well running dry. And there is always simmering resentment in one-sided relationships, which can make even a normal person go a bit loony.
Hope this makes sense?
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 7:23 AM |
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Graystar
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Oh shut up and kiss me! 
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 10:34 AM |
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foxygray
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I would rather be dumped. I hate to hurt people or contribute to lowering their self-esteem. I dumped many guys when I was younger and a bit hearless, but as an adult...well, I hate it. I know this sounds horrible, but if I'm in a relationship and I'm not happy I will distance myself and try to do things so that the person will dump me. That way I don't have to do it myself and they go away feeling like they were in control of the situation and don't seem quite so hurt. Honest...no, but I sleep better at night!
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 1:11 PM |
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exiled131
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never been dumped before so I will go with being the dumper
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 1:36 PM |
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sjpinatl
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Graystar, I'm beginning to think that those women are crazy because you make them that way with mixed signals! 
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 2:05 PM |
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Graystar
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You’re a loonie, aren’t you? 
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 3:20 PM |
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Triple_H
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i'm mostly the dumper when it comes down to it.. i don't like doing the dumping but i don't like living a lie so to speak..
but the second reason is that some of the wemen i go out with tend to be the over clingy type ...
ok who here has had a girl or boy friend that has called you every hour on the hour.. knowing you were at work or just watching a football game with the guys... and have them ask you where are you ... who are you with ... and what are you doing...
nuff said
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 4:32 PM |
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sjpinatl
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I had one guy who called like that...Not for long, gave him the boot. Too early in the game to have called it "dumping" because we had gone out just two times. Did not make it to the third date because I was kinda thinking "Yuk" about another date with him. I'm no dating expert, but I think you are not supposed to feel that way about your date...
I have never heard a Canadian say "Nuff Said". Thought that was a Southern thing. I usually ignore anything said before the term "nuff said" because it usually means that a redneck has spoken....But I'll give you this one, because I like Canadians ..I was actually in Toronto in December and loved it. A friend is in Scarborough, it sounds like a nice place to live.
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 4:49 PM |
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Triple_H
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thanks
well some places are nice and the other places in this part of toronto suck ..
and i thought i would just add nuff said to my post just because i wanted to for some odd reason.. it's like if a red neck walking around saying wanna go to the store to find some hockey hosers eh...lol...
anybody can say anything if they just wanted to ...
i would love to see a red neck say hows it going you hoser...
 
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 6:25 PM |
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sciurusniger
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Oh shut up and kiss me!
Spoken like a true guy! LOLOL!
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 7:12 PM |
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Graystar
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 11:03 PM |
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Talonz59
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how quaint....flirting going on in the dumping forum
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 11:11 PM |
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sciurusniger
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Well, some say the best way to get over a relationship is to find somebody new.... 
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