| Jan 4, 2006 @ 11:23 AM |
is it wrong to really hate your ex?
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Triple_H
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ok i was going out with this wonderful person about 2 years ago .. we really hit it off at first and then 6 months in the relationship she started playing games with me then did a real mind job with my head and left it in shambles ... i still stayed with her for the other 6 months ... when i cought her in bed with another guy .. well the other guy was her other half and she failed to tell me she was married and had sepperated from her hubby .. that day i left everything behind and hit the road and hitch hiked across canada now that i have come back home to my family and friends she has been stalking me like crazy and i hate her with every bone and blood thats in my body..
i never hated anyone like this.. but i don't know if it's alright for me to hate her that much..  
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 11:25 AM |
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Graystar
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Sure, it’s fine to hate someone. We’re only human. Just don’t let the hate consume you and you’ll be fine.
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 11:40 AM |
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Triple_H
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i do know that we are human and all and i'm not perfect.. but everytime she pulls one of her stupid childish games to get me back it so gets under my skin. to the point where i'm just going to say screw toronto i was better off on the side of a highway or working on a farm ... i try not letting it consume me...
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 11:42 AM |
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Graystar
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By far and away the best fix for bad thoughts of a woman is, ironically, another woman!
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 11:52 AM |
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Triple_H
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thanks for the tip.. i'll try it every time the ex pulls one of stupid childish like games...
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 1:06 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Have you sat her down and told her exactly how you feel? Tell her to get the hell out of your life. She needs to know that what she did is unforgiveable. Your morals and ethics ban you from associating with people of that caliber.
Maybe you have told her, but I get the impression she thinks you will give in. Tell her in a manner that will leave no question in her mind. She's one sick puppy.
Do you have restraining orders in Canada? If so, threaten her with one.
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 1:10 PM |
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exiled131
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I would rather have my ex dead than be around to possibly come bother me. Yes, I do hate her. She is the only ex that I do hate though. The others are ok to live(and no they are not hobos)
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 1:15 PM |
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Graystar
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Have you sat her down and told her exactly how you feel?
That won't work...she's insane!
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 1:19 PM |
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exiled131
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sure she isn't bipolar...wait, that is still insane.
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 1:32 PM |
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chinabull2000
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It matters not who she is, what matters is her treatment and abuse of you, your trust, your love etc. yes it's ok to hate her, but as has already been said, do not let your hatred consume you and affect the way you deal with other people.. I've made that mistake, and even today my "experiences" with my ex-wife negatively affect the way I view women in my life. It is something I am trying really hard to get past, so do not make the same mistake as me!
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 2:46 PM |
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Triple_H
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i've told her to go to hell every time she comes up and puts her arms around me ... i think that speaks for itself
Have you sat her down and told her exactly how you feel? Tell her to get the hell out of your life. She needs to know that what she did is unforgiveable. Your morals and ethics ban you from associating with people of that caliber.
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and thanks for the advice mate it's really helping out i'm thinking of someone that has cought my intrests as of late ..
By far and away the best fix for bad thoughts of a woman is, ironically, another woman!
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thanks i kinda learned that when i was on the road .. and started interacting with other wemen in different towns and citys .. the whole trip was about getting back what i lost inside because of the ex... and thankfuly i did get back to the way i am and plus gained alittle more out of it...
It matters not who she is, what matters is her treatment and abuse of you, your trust, your love etc. yes it's ok to hate her, but as has already been said, do not let your hatred consume you and affect the way you deal with other people.. I've made that mistake, and even today my "experiences" with my ex-wife negatively affect the way I view women in my life. It is something I am trying really hard to get past, so do not make the same mistake as me!
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 3:07 PM |
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danae74
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Hi H! It's understandable, and not wrong, but it is a waste of your time and your emotions. Do whatever you have to do to get rid of her! If that means taking out a protective order, so be it. If you really don't want her in the picture anymore, give her absolutely nothing...don't cuss at her if she calls, don't answer any correspondence, and completely ignore her if you see her on the street. She'll feed on your hate, too, you know...starve her.
Good luck!
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 6:35 PM |
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sciurusniger
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Why do you even remain in the same room with her? Tell her firmly one last time to her face, looking her straight in the eye, that you don't want anything to do with her ever again.
Then walk out.
Walk away from any situation any time you see her.
You do not owe her anything. From the time of day to an explanation of how you feel. Put her on complete IGNORE.
The kind of pain she inflicted on you takes a very long time to get over. So be gentle with your Self. Forgive your Self for being loving enough to have believed her lies, forgive your Self for whatever caused you to need to believe her lies. Understand, you are no longer that person.
The opposite of love is not hate. It is nothing. Get your Self involved in something larger than your Self, something into which pouring your heart and energies will make a positive difference. By using your energies creatively and positively you'll realize one day sooner than later that you have started to really forget about her.
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 7:14 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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She plays games with you cause you react to them.... give up the hate and take back control of your life. Actions cause REactions... don't feed it and it will quit coming around.
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 1:00 AM |
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walkingman
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I would just ignore her in ever way. In time she will get the message and leave you alone.
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 2:23 AM |
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summersquall
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Half the people you hate, don't know you hate them and the other half do not care.
Hatred only hurts yourself...
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 2:43 AM |
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Classy_Blonde
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I would agree with most all of you, except there is that one word-- 'stalking'. From what I am reading, he IS trying to avoid her, but she is the one who won't leave him alone. Even if you try to ignore people like that, they still show up when you least expect it.
Is this what is going on, Triple?
You did say you have told her to stay away.
You didn't say whether or not you have restraining orders available in Canada. I'm assuming you do. If this doesn't stop, go get one and have her served. If you see her and she tries to approach you, turn and walk away as quickly as possible.
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 2:53 AM |
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ExacerbatedTaboo
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[QUOTE]is it wrong to really hate your ex?[QUOTE]
I'm not losing any sleep over it so far.
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 2:54 AM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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Me either Taboo, my time is too precious and too short already. 
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 10:44 AM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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Hate is an emotion as strong as Love. The secret may be to become indifferent to her......hate what she did to you, but stop hating her.
She may have read into your leaving the area that you were so consumed with her you couldn't bear being near her without having her. In her twisted and devious mind, she may believe that you came back to be with her. She may have some narcissistic tendancies. It's possible that she is able to feel your emotion (hatred) for her.....she just can't distinguish between love and hate - only the intensity of them.
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