| Jan 4, 2006 @ 8:46 PM |
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exiled131
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I saved a few items and was wondering if this is normal and healthy to get over a past relationship. I looked at the pictures a few days ago and not only did I not have any lingering feelings for my ex, I looked at myself in those same pictures with her and don't even recognize myself. Either I am completely changed or the happiness I once had is now a distant memory.
Anyone else go through this? Or am I still nuts?
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 8:57 PM |
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sciurusniger
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Yes.
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 9:02 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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I keep everything. Doesn't mean I still have feelings. I like the memories they evoke--good or bad.
There's nothing wrong with it at all.
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 9:06 PM |
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exiled131
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that's good. for a minute I thought that I might not be nuts.
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 9:08 PM |
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Technologic
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I have plenty of pictures... Waiting saw some of them.
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 9:25 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 9:35 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I keep pictures...well I kept the ones of my ex for my kids...even though he wasn`t much a part of their lives...we were still friends till his death 
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 9:37 PM |
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Angel54214
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'Exile'....you will always have the memories and they do fade in time. The photos just make the visual of those memories. If you keep them, and as time moves on; as so it will and any photos that you are in, then you will have the photos of your youth for geneology. If you decide one day to destroy them by choice, at least cut your photo out first. Thats what I did.
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 9:43 PM |
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exiled131
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The main thing that sort of bothers me is that I don't even recognize the "me" that is in those pictures. I would swear that the person there isn't me.
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| Jan 4, 2006 @ 10:38 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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I keep em as a reminder  of what NOT to do the next go round  and I have had a couple bad break ups and the cops got involved for stalking and abuse charges so the pictures I keep for ID purposes I should've hooked my ex up with some of Single_stl_dads psycho's
[Edited on 1/4/2006 10:39 PM]
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 12:56 AM |
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walkingman
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I got rid of all of mine. If they just are put up and you have no one (like kid's) who would want them , then why keep them.
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 1:00 AM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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I got rid of most of that kind of stuff last time I moved, they were not gonna move in with me again
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 2:22 AM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Ex,
You mentioned it is as though the photos are not you. I have referred to my life stages as deaths and rebirths, so what you are saying does make sense to me.
I recall past experiences and see them as someone else at times. I don't think it is abnormal.
My niece asked me just a couple of hours ago if I ever see my ex. I told her I had lunch with he and his mom, about three years ago, and we had a really nice time. It took twenty years for me to be friends with no feelings of love or anger. It felt good.
Hang on to the pics. If you get rid of them, you might wish you hadn't. Just my opinion.
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 7:13 AM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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 I agree Classy somewhere down the road you may regret getting rid of them...I admit going thru a lot of bad times with my ex..but what about the good times..don`t you want to remember those and look on them with no regret?
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 9:18 AM |
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exiled131
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ok, i'll keep them for now. but it is too late for those letters and notes(fire good!)
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 7:12 PM |
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CynCity
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Depends on whether or not I want to remember the person.
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 7:20 PM |
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chinabull2000
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I have nothing at all that reminds me of my ex-wife, if I'd wanted to remember her I wouldn't have divorced her!!
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 8:25 PM |
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mangolover60
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Never been married, which is the prime reason for getting divorced. 
But I keep everything, pictures, earrings, whatever, as long as it's convienient. It's your history and someday you might like to visit those memories. Hell, a bad relationship may be interesting, funny, or a learning experience to reflect upon later. Anyway, that's just my opinion.
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 8:44 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Even when you rid yourself of all of those possessions, you still remember. At least I do. I certainly don't dwell on such things though.
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| Jan 5, 2006 @ 9:54 PM |
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sureyacan125
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Y'all seen the commercial where the girl is deleting the guy from her cell phone???? That's me. However, sometimes they call later and I don't recognize the number and answer when I really don't care to talk with them. 
Suggestion: Cute commercial, bad idea, at least early on. 
Otherwise I get rid of everything including e-mail addresses.
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