| Nov 14, 2008 @ 12:43 AM |
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wantlove35
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I dated this guy for almost a year then he tells me he doesn't want a serious commitment but he wasn't breaking up with me. he stops calling and don't see him anymore. He just disappears. He returned my phone calls every once in a while then thats it. My friends said it was his polite way of breaking up with me. What is polite about that just disappearing? What do you guys think?
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| Nov 14, 2008 @ 1:10 AM |
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Gallows_Humor
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need more information.....specifically a time line..
if it has been awhile..it sounds like your friend is right - but sugar coating it.. he just did not have the decency to tell you it was over..while politely taking the cowards way out..
but if it has been only a couple of weeks...he is probably cooling it and waiting to see what your reaction will be...before he attempts to "date" you ......and others....
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| Nov 14, 2008 @ 9:04 AM |
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Fender
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He just wants to keep in touch with you so he can get "some" once in a while...After a year if a guy tells you he doesn't want a serious commitment it means he doesn't want to be with you anymore and that's that.
If he is the same guy that stopped calling...Well I know it hurts but I'd ignore him and try and move on. You don't need that b.s.!
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| Nov 14, 2008 @ 3:10 PM |
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poniepower
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Amen, fender 
Let go, live life, and let it be! 
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| Nov 14, 2008 @ 10:04 PM |
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fromscratch
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Hard telling what his motives were, as you realise by now you are better off without him but that is no way to end a relationship....  .
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| Nov 15, 2008 @ 3:08 PM |
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thor22
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well, he obviously is going thru the change of life stage, male mid-life crisis, etc.,
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| Nov 16, 2008 @ 7:57 AM |
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catman602
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 wonders why it is that he says he wants to grow old with someone and they leave him . lets the woman tell HIM what she likes and don't . does not play mind games .
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| Nov 16, 2008 @ 1:01 PM |
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Say_Yes
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I think that he is probably telling you the truth. He does not want a serious commitment & he was not breaking things off with you. Simply put, he does enjoy your company and he would like to continue seeing you on a casual basis. He is not interested in a serious, long term relationship, with you. He is not interested in marriage, with you, at least not at this time.
Now, he could have lied to you. He could have said, that of course he was interested in the long term with you. He didn't. Instead he told you where he is and gave you the choice. You can either continue to see him on a casual basis, be friends, date and enjoy the time that you have with him, or you can end things.
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| Nov 16, 2008 @ 5:36 PM |
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poniepower
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It hurts like hell when you are with someone for that long and they just, "fall off the face of the earth".
I'd say, Move on Honey, You're too Damned Good For Him Anyways.
Only creeps do that. For me, I want closure, Even if it's me leaving the nasty messaged on his vm, telling him what a selfish pig he really is!! 
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| Nov 18, 2008 @ 4:55 PM |
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Josuha
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dated this guy for almost a year then he tells me he doesn't want a serious commitment but he wasn't breaking up with me. he stops calling and don't see him anymore. He just disappears. He returned my phone calls every once in a while then thats it.
I think he told you.
He does'nt want a commitment.
Why is it when a guy tells the truth, there is some deep, dark mystery to what he is saying..?
Mostly because, the other one does'nt want to hear.
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| Nov 19, 2008 @ 4:28 PM |
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thor22
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good answer, joshua... 
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| Nov 25, 2008 @ 5:02 PM |
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SusieM
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ugh yea...he sounds like every other guy I've been with!
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| Nov 27, 2008 @ 5:04 PM |
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last_time
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It works two ways...you went right for him and he isn't right for you. That's life!
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| Nov 30, 2008 @ 9:18 PM |
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grumblebear
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there are women who do the same...
some folks don't do comittments... I always run into these gals who want a casual once in a while thing... but if I want a long term thing, I'm too clingy... lol
people want what they want... if you meet someone who doesn't want what you want.... move on...
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| Nov 30, 2008 @ 9:28 PM |
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painter007
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I have found when a man or woman finds the right one...they will commit....jmo
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| Dec 17, 2008 @ 8:02 PM |
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scorpiogirl36
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Commitment seems to be working it's way out of our vocabulary...we all want it but no one wants to work towards making it a reality. JMO!
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| Dec 18, 2008 @ 8:49 PM |
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thor22
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well, I was committed the moment I first walked in here and saw your face, hey! 
BTW: that is just a general announcement for ALL the ladies here! 
[Edited on 12/18/2008 9:01 PM]
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| Dec 18, 2008 @ 8:55 PM |
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BeachCrete
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^^^^^Put your teeth back in and maybe you will have a fighting chance  
jus' jokin' thor
[Edited on 12/18/2008 9:15 PM]
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| Dec 18, 2008 @ 9:56 PM |
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thor22
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(these women don't know what their missing, hey!)
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| Dec 18, 2008 @ 9:58 PM |
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painter007
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Ahhhhhhhhhhh Thor...your a sweetie....
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