| Mar 22 @ 5:22 PM |
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kjac
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I recently went through a break up, and found myself bothered that I wasn't bothered. By that, I mean I am going about my life as if nothing happened. I don't have this sinking feeling of lonliness or pain of loss. In fact, I find myself laughing and enjoying life. Is this normal?
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| Mar 22 @ 5:32 PM |
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Loreli
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Apparently, for you-it is...
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| Mar 23 @ 11:32 PM |
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luneib
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It sounds to me that you were feeling suffocated in your relationship and when it broke up you felt a freedom that you had been needing all along.
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| Mar 24 @ 10:47 AM |
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pamdemonium
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Perhaps you weren't as emotionally attached to the woman as you might have thought.
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| Mar 25 @ 12:19 PM |
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willowy1
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Maybe she killed the love you felt for her?  Be happy! Plenty more where that one came from.
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| Mar 25 @ 1:15 PM |
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thor22
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well, kjac...even with one permanent black eye, you look like a fine feline speciman...and I think that how your feeling about her so far is a fine and perfect example of your mouser temperment...
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| Mar 29 @ 12:02 AM |
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BandTMom
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Sure it is, K. I went through that last October. It didn't hurt a bit. 
I think after a while we learn that our happiness isn't dependent on another person and when they are gone, we just go about our lives as usual.
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| Mar 29 @ 3:13 PM |
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thor22
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oh wow, love has just been given another black eye on this date-site...when...IF...I ever find another...that woman is going to find out exactly what "to cherish" means in a relationship... 
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| Mar 29 @ 3:49 PM |
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willowy1
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thata boy thor! 
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| Mar 29 @ 7:39 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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one of two thoughts..
it was really over....
or...it never started...
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| Mar 30 @ 3:58 PM |
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lj450
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These days, its hard to find someone who will love you more than they love themselves.
There is a reason the bitch is gone, stick to your guns. Even if your self-pity kicks in.
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| Mar 30 @ 10:04 PM |
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Fender
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What he said...^^^ He's smart sometimes.
Don't worry bout it Katneck...
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| Mar 31 @ 1:43 AM |
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Say_Yes
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Yes, it is normal, when you have moved on emotionally, before the relationship has "officially" ended. My marriage was like that. I never had any feelings of loneliness or pain after our break up. I don't think that she did either. We both went through all of that, prior to ending the marriage.
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| Mar 31 @ 2:14 AM |
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thor22
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oh wow...all you guys, then I think I must have went to b.e. for nothing then, I guess 
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| Mar 31 @ 5:00 AM |
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SensualGemini
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...You find it a bit odd, that you are "bothered" for not feeling guilty for not feeling like crap?
...It sounds to me like you weaned yourself from the relationship, while still within it and when that process was finished, you were finished.
...If you did not want it to be finished, then you would feel like crap, so being a little "bothered" is no big deal... you can suffer through this one easy enough. 
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| Apr 2 @ 3:20 AM |
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aomega54
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Sounds like you were madly in love!
Pardon the sarcasm. I once went through a similar experience - after being hurt a few times kinda built up a thick skin and became 'break-up proof'.
Something you can relate to, perhaps? A really bad break-up some time ago?
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| Apr 2 @ 9:49 PM |
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pamdemonium
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...If you did not want it to be finished, then you would feel like crap, so being a little "bothered" is no big deal... you can suffer through this one easy enough.
Exactly, SG.
Perhaps it's something that you just had to go through as part of this life's journey.
If things don't work out the way we'd like, try to find the lesson.
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| Apr 3 @ 1:52 AM |
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thor22
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I hate being "bothered", espically when I'm hot... 
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