| Jul 15 @ 7:48 PM |
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Soprano24
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Why men and women cheat on their partners is beyond me...In my opinion, you shouldn't be in a relationship, if you know deep down your going to cheat on them..And yes EVERYONE who cheats know their "cheaters".
One of my good friends is engaged to a beautiful woman, but he continues to "mess around" with other women...I constantly ask him, why he popped the question, when he clearly isn't ready for full-time commitment....He responds "because I love her"...  ...huh? You can't possibly love a person you cheat on...If your not ready for commitment, don't get into a serious relationship, just casually date the person..Simple as that....Nothing good comes out of cheating....I'm not trying to sound like the innocent man here..thankfully, I've never been cheated on and I definately have never cheated on a woman...Women should be treated special...Cheating is just something I don't get and probably never will...
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| Jul 15 @ 10:23 PM |
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gabrielle
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Maybe you should ask your friend how he would feel if you tapped that ass one night while he was busy on "a date". After all...what's good for the goose! Bet he wouldn't be as open to that idea! He's a dog and I hope after they get married....she takes him to the cleaners! Hopefully, before she has to get treatment for a disease that'll be with her for life!
If she's smart she'll figure it out beforehand!
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| Jul 18 @ 6:16 PM |
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chubs
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the best gf I ever had used to go back home to her husband every nite! 
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| Jul 26 @ 9:24 PM |
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scorpiogirl36
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I never understood why people cheat either...but their sure is a heck of a lot of it going on 
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| Jul 26 @ 9:25 PM |
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BeachGuy
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Just be grateful it isn't going on concerning you or your man!  
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| Jul 27 @ 1:20 PM |
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chubs
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I'd kinda likes to getz me a little bit o'dat cheatingz 
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| Aug 12 @ 1:53 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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Very odd I was reading this thread and it vanished
err um well I guess PARTS of it vanished  oh no I hear the twilight zone music
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| Aug 12 @ 1:59 PM |
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ForumMod
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it didn't need to be played out in public despite the people sounding sincere. 
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| Aug 12 @ 2:07 PM |
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black_no_1
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The people were sincere, but sorry anyway. It was stupid to tell everyone what I'm going through.
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| Aug 12 @ 2:15 PM |
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Merchitown
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Thinking of y'all...
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| Aug 12 @ 2:28 PM |
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ForumMod
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no, it wasn't stupid. we realize that people need to vent. however when it's a personal issue between two of our members, we'd prefer that they try to work things out privately, for both their sakes.
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| Aug 12 @ 2:38 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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And some of ours.
In the future instead of using your names or his name try Jack and Jill went up this hill where Jill came tumbling down alone.
90% of all those that cheat , cheat down, not up.
It is an insecurity issue, most likely they know they are not worthy or that they are not your equal. They just don't know how to tell you or themselves this.
You have two choices since you can not redo the past.
You can
A) wallow in self pity. This is ok to do, we are human after all. We tend to make mistakes. But reel it in as you heal. Other wises the only person that makes us a victim here, is ourselves.
B) Empower your selves. Head up, chest out, step, step, step, booty bump. Realize its their lost and your blessing. Take back the heart you thought you gave away. Ya didn't you were only allowing them to share it. You take away the toys that are missed used and put them up on a shelve out of reach. Why not your heart?
That other 10% never knew what they wanted in the first place.
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| Aug 12 @ 5:39 PM |
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black_no_1
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There is nothing to understand about cheating/being cheated on. Some people do it because their partner has ignored them for too long and never took the issues brought up too seriously.
Those are the people who end up falling in love with someone else, most of the times complete strangers ( happened in my family) and they will,most of the time, get hurt again.
On the other side,there's the people who don't need/have any reason to cheat on their partner,they will claim they love their partner,but they need diversity...so they say. Those people can't be understood unfortunately,they can't be helped because there's nothing for them to be helped with....
I don't get it either....never did,never will.
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| Aug 12 @ 7:38 PM |
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indecipherable
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it seems like very few people want a monogamous relationship these days. 
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| Aug 13 @ 10:43 AM |
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Loreli
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I would like to think if 2 people care enough to be in a relationship. they don't think about cheating.
But definitely as we get older, the temptation to do so should disappear.
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| Aug 13 @ 11:31 AM |
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Gallows_Humor
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would like to think if 2 people care enough to be in a relationship. they don't think about cheating.
bingo.....
it goes back to ..
commiting by words..and not by the heart....
too many times people commit because they are selfish and think that keeping their fingers crossed....means it is ok to cheat..
She paints her nails and she don't know, He's got her best friend on the phone. She'll wash her hair, his dirty clothes, Or all he gives to her. And he's got posters on the wall Of all the girls he wished she was. And he means everything to her. Her boyfriend, He don't know Anything About her. He's too stoned, Nintendo. I wish that I could make her see, She's just the flavor of the week. It's Friday night and she's all alone, He's a million miles away. She's dressed to kill, but the TV's on, He's connected to the sound. And he's got pictures on the wall Of all the girls he's loved before, And she knows all his favorite songs. .... Her boyfriend, He don't know Anything About her. He's too stoned, Nintendo. I wish that I could make her see, She's just the flavor of the weak. Yeah she's the flavor of the weak. She makes me weak. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u514QzM7KPw |
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| Aug 16 @ 8:03 AM |
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Merchitown
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Obviously, there are quite a few people here who do believe in a monogamous relationship.
In a relationship it's about knowing oneself, having respect for oneself and then being true to that while in a relationship. It's then so much easier to find a partner who honors those same precepts.
It cuts down on BS dramatically.
As far as why? Well, all I can say is some BS got dished somewhere and someone else bought it. People are people all the world over.
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| Aug 16 @ 10:24 AM |
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DiamondRain
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What I don't get about cheating is why some people don't get it.
What's not to get?
Unless you have no sex drive, you get horny sometimes. And unless you have a dull mind you get curious sometimes. And unless you are boring you like variety sometimes.
Some people seem to understand the need for variety in everything EXCEPT sex. What's with that?
And unless you are a masochist, you don't want to give up a sure thing for a fling. If you have a partner who fulfills certain needs (but not all), why would you want to tell them about something that would lead to a big conflagration and maybe make you lose them?
I'm not saying cheating is morally right, but is that really so difficult to understand?
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| Aug 16 @ 10:34 AM |
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Merchitown
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If you have a partner who fulfills certain needs (but not all), why would you want to tell them about something that would make you lose them?
Yep, see? And then some BS gets dished and someone else buys it. (Not you, DR, you're spot on, as usual.)
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| Aug 16 @ 12:46 PM |
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Gallows_Humor
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well DR..two words..
open relationship...
we all have heard it.. but few can live it..equally
I'm not saying cheating is morally right, but is that really so difficult to understand?
who said they didn't understand it... hell ..this was drummed into me way back in parochial school..( that the devil makes/wants us do things and if we are good.we will not succumb to temptation..)
thinking that the point everyone is trying to get across is... if you are mutually in love and.mutually committed .there is no need/desire to cheat... or...have an open relationship....
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