| Aug 9 @ 9:26 PM |
When your "Ex" finds new love, or remarrys do you feel - happy or hurt?
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Always_Striving
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I am just wondering what kind of emotions people have experienced when they discover that their "EX" significant other or spouse has found new love or has maybe remarried?
Look at the questions below. Do you feel that you have been influenced by some of these questions?
How did you find out the news?
Did they tell you?
Did you read about it somewhere?
Were you told by someone that you both knew?
Were you hoping or praying that they would eventually find new love?
Were you crushed or your feelings hurt when discovering that they found new love?
Did you just not care when you found out because you are trying to forget about them (put those memories behind you and move on)?
If you shared a deep bond with that person how easy was it for you to "let it go"?
Do you still feel attached somehow and needing that person for something emotionally?
Just wondering 
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| Aug 9 @ 10:51 PM |
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missliss78
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In the case of my first "ex" many, many years ago, I was a little disappointed...key word "LITTLE." He had gone in the Army & we had been talking about a possible reconciliation. I was to travel back across country with him from NC to where he was stationed in Kansas. While he was home on leave, however, my father passed away & we did not make that trip together. And the communication came to an end suddenly. Next thing I heard...from a mutual friend, he'd met a gal in Kansas & they were getting married.
In the case of my second "ex," well, there was a tremendous amount of "good riddance" in that relationship & I could have cared less...or felt sorry for the gal! 
I do NOT feel attached in ANY manner to either of these men. It was the mid-80s since any correspondence with #1 (1984 when my father passed) and it was early 1999 when my divorce was final from #2. I'm sure not having children to maintain any sort of communication over helped. Matter of fact, I am thankful!
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| Aug 11 @ 11:43 PM |
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safaristars
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In one case I was hurt ~ that I had to find out in an office meeting instead of him telling me in person since we were still close friends. I was ok other than that because the minute I met her I knew they were perfect for each other.
In a couple cases I found out from mutual friends ~ and felt sorry for the new girl ~ and hoped the men had matured this time.
I guess I'm lucky that I don't think about any man in the past wishing or wondering what if. I'm sure I'd feel differently if I was still in love with one of them.
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| Aug 12 @ 12:22 PM |
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Loreli
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The only feelings I had were that he started dating her very soon after we separated.
I had hoped, with 2 kids, he would try harder. I dislike his wife, my kids have never liked her.
I do wish him happiness....I care about his well-being.
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| Aug 16 @ 7:57 AM |
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Merchitown
Posts: 6,129
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As far as my Ex...
We made no secret of dating other people. His dating just became serious before mine did. They've been together...uhm...2? 3? years now. I have not had the pleasure of meeting her however I am able to see the difference she has made in him and it's all for the better. I do wish him all the happiness that life has to offer, he certainly does deserve it.
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| Aug 16 @ 11:54 AM |
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missliss78
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It was the mid-80s since any correspondence with #1
I thought it quite interesting since I posted this the other day,
I ran across #1 on another social networking site.
I dropped him an email wishing him well & received on in return.
And life goes on! 
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| Aug 16 @ 10:22 PM |
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redhairNfreckles
Posts: 4,688
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I'm very happy that he's remarried......that way he leaves ME alone! 
Seriously, we are very good friends now, no time for grudges or anger anymore, life is way too short.
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| Aug 16 @ 11:10 PM |
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Nightowl001
Posts: 7,492
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I hope my ex finds someone who she is happy with. I hope, for her sake, she can figure out what that is.
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| Aug 16 @ 11:16 PM |
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Heart2Heart453
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My ex remarried a few years ago and I was happy. He stopped acting like he and I might have a shot of getting back together. And, my kids seemed less hopeful that we would reconnect. I just wish it were a more stable marriage....
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| Aug 17 @ 1:07 PM |
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DiamondRain
Posts: 6,351
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Let's put it this way.
If she found someone new, I don't want to know about it.
I suppose it's a mixed thing. I want her to be happy.
Or NOT. 
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| Aug 17 @ 7:17 PM |
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uab_5
Posts: 4,759
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I was glad Jabba found a new meal ticket!
Poor sod.
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| Aug 19 @ 5:26 AM |
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maybe_angel
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For me, it would depends if i am really over him. If i am over him, i wouldn't feel so bad when he has found his happiness in someone else.
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| Aug 29 @ 9:35 AM |
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ColdinWisconsin
Posts: 9,987
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My ex-husband? I was happy for him. I found out when he brought her with him to pick up my daughter. They ended up staying for dinner and we had a great time.
They are no longer together and that's a shame...they were good together. I think he screwed that one up too. 
As for needing him emotionally. No. Can't think of any reason why I would need him. He's a great dad and I certainly need him for that. So does she.
As for the ex-boyfriend, I heard about his philandering while we were still together...liars can never keep their stories straight so in an essence, he told me himself.
Emotionally he was a wreck himself, I don't think he has ever known what he really wants. So...it became very obvious that he was incapable for being there for anyone else emotionally.
Frankly, I fell for his lines and smooth talk, so I was doubly hurt to find out that he not only was a damn good liar, he just couldn't seem to ever stop. That hurt. I felt disrespected. To know that you are the person that they care about the most and they treat you so poorly? Yeah it pretty much lets you know what the future would be like.
The only attachment I seem to have left with him is my inability to trust any penis. Any sweet line and I am automatically rolling my eyes, putting up my hand to stop them and walking away. I just need to re-learn trust again I guess.
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| Aug 29 @ 4:55 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Pretty much what she said, just scratch the in and place a her, remove penis and insert v-jay.
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| Sep 1 @ 3:28 AM |
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hpylady_
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happy then he leaves me alone.
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| Sep 5 @ 3:25 AM |
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dmm00
Posts: 1,121
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As for my ex = good riddance to bad rubbish I always say.
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| Sep 19 @ 2:41 PM |
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Danger
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my ex announced to my kids (my kids were then 5 and 8 years old) that they were going to have a new mommy.
they had gone to their dads for his weekend visitation (4 months after we were divorced) and he had told them 'Jilly' was going to be their new mom. when they came back home..they were devistated. they both thought that i was leaving them! for a LONG time my ex kept asking the kids to come live with him and 'mommy' but the kids never did-thank god.
if i had found out a different way, i probably would have been a little 'nicer' about it. but i was glad he found someone just like him.
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| Sep 19 @ 6:27 PM |
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Always_Striving
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I'll bet that there is a little bit of tension, resentment or animosity between you and your "Ex".
Either that, or he just doesn't care about your feelings and wants to win the hearts and minds of the children you share....... exclusively to himself. 
Maybe he wants to spite you.
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| Sep 20 @ 1:08 AM |
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Solitaire
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For one es, I was relieved. The game playing was over. As for finding out, his mother told me. We were and are good friends. It's been a good marriage for him and they seem to be happy.
With another, both happy for him, because he deserves happiness, but sad at the same time that we never made it work. He figured out he was going to marry her while talking to me. I must have great clarifying skills. 
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| Sep 22 @ 7:12 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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If its a good relationship, violence free, then I'm happy.
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