| Jan 23, 2006 @ 9:43 PM |
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7eternity
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Hello all,
I'm curious to what you think about and would do if someone told/wrote/emailed you this:
"We shouldn't see each other anymore" or
"We should stop emailing to each other"
Personally, I think this is the reason why friendships and relationships fail. To say those things is the wake-up call to both people to accept that it's the end, and I would just let go at this point.
I think the good times and things that happened between two people should always weigh more than our anger, disappointment or any other feelings that would upset us to the point of calling it off. So, next time you decide to end your connection with a friend or intimate partner, I hope you will consider about those you are leaving who made you the person you are today and the blossom they brought you once.
Make it count.
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| Jan 24, 2006 @ 8:51 AM |
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sureyacan125
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Wonderful thought, but frequently the other side is clueless. You don't return calls as quickly, you are busy at times you would have been available in the past or you just won't commit to seeing the other one at all, is like hitting someone over the head with a hammer  . However, the other side is on a different channel (website as it may be) and won't or can't read the signs. Communication is a wonderful thing, but it takes more than an exchange of ideas - you have to let the others thoughts sink in. When they frequently don't, you are forced to cut all ties.  They still continue to call or e-mail although you offer them nothing in return. Get a life!!!! 
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| Jan 25, 2006 @ 3:06 PM |
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7eternity
Posts: 223
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They still continue to call or e-mail although you offer them nothing in return. Get a life!!!!
If nothing meaningful happened, then tell them to go get screwed... What else? Ha!
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| Feb 6, 2006 @ 8:43 AM |
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edgeinsight
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ways of cutting communication as way out?
I think it is totally reasonable to choose to cut communication if you want ( in terms of contacts u havent met/or had just a few dates) -but I think the decent thing to do is at least have the courtesy to email with your reasons and wish them much success and happiness in their lives!
There can be so many reasons to cut communication -but on sites such as these, people HAVE TO REALISE it is really a numbers game...and we are all out their fishing and hunting, and we have to meet/chat to many many people before we might if lucky, attract a very mutually compatable partner!!!
When emails/IM conversations start, they are an initial doorway to getting a glimpse of the overall personality type of an individual -they give us many clues ( subtle & not subtle) so we can use out instinct and experience to judge if we want to put in the effort of getting to know them further or not!
Unfortunately, it does seem to be the case ( for me anyway!) that either you are attracted to them but not vise-versa OR they are attracted to u but not vise-versa.....it is very RARE for two people to both mutually be ' smitten/in lust -whatever!'
at the same time..
My way:
*I give it a fair few go with conversations
*When it doesnt feel right, I email and say so -I give reasons!
*I take full responsibility for my thoughts/ actions /choice
*dont blame them for having a personality defect/character flaw -or other negative judgements......
*Wish them much success in their search...
we have to be firm but fair dont u think?? ( and that goes for both sexes!)
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| Feb 11, 2006 @ 6:14 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Hi eternity...I understand where you're coming from, and you make an excellent point, but breaking things off with a romantic partner is always dangerous territory for some.
Personally, if an intimate relationship went south I couldn't just be friends. I would still have feelings for her, and any evidence she was with another man would make me too jealous and be hurtful. If, on the other hand, the breakup was sour and bad feelings were involved, I wouldn't care as much. In fact, if I had a chance I'd probably tell her new beau good luck, he'll need it.
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| Feb 12, 2006 @ 7:37 AM |
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walkingman
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I think it is really hard to be friend's with someone you have been intimate with. If I was on the receiving end of that e-mail then I would just never speak to them again. In any break up there is alway's someone who is more hurt and being friend's with someone you still have feeling's for is really hard. The reality is you want more and they don't.It take's a long time for feeling's to heal. Perhap's one day you could be friend's but not for a while. Just let the person go and move on..
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| Feb 26, 2006 @ 5:51 AM |
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Thunderscribe
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Clean breaks are best in such situations.
Keeping things "friendly" only prolong the agony and things end up becoming ugly.
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| Feb 28, 2006 @ 6:45 PM |
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arn_arn
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People tend to do whats easiest for them...
not that it's right, just how it usually goes
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| Mar 5, 2006 @ 11:00 AM |
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painter007
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I think the good times and things that happened between two people should always weigh more than our anger, disappointment or any other feelings that would upset us to the point of calling it off. So, next time you decide to end your connection with a friend or intimate partner, I hope you will consider about those you are leaving who made you the person you are today and the blossom they brought you once.
Very well said, my compliments to you
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| Mar 5, 2006 @ 12:53 PM |
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GraciePa
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I think if there was anger and that is what broke off the friendship or intimate relationship why not communicate?? Why not talk about it see what is going on why the anger was brought on in the first place. Me personally I would rather communiate if I was upset or angry. If it can't be resolved through communicating then so be it!! Time to move on. To many time don't wanna give the time and effort to resolve or understand and talk about it. Seems if they feel it's going sour the easy way to do it is abandon the friendship or relationship. But Im sure other's will disagree, the clean break is best so they say.
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| Mar 7, 2006 @ 11:15 AM |
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Hiwayman54
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" 50 ways to leave your lover" Get off my back Jack.Makin new plans Stan. Don't need to be coy Roy.Just get yourselffff free  "LOLOL There are as many reasons to leave as there are to stay.Generally folks put there best foot foward in a relationship for the 1st 6 months to a year.Then they relax and start to be themselves. Weather we admit it or not we all have some baggage we carry around of some sort. Quick to judge.Quick to jump to conclusions. I remember listening to old Paul Harvey at lunch time ( at work).He always had a couple he was praising that had been married 50,60,70 years or more.I think the record now is a couple married 77 years.Heard of it last Val-Day. The one thing they had going for them that most Americans don't.Is commitment. If I was to ask advice from anyone concerning relationships,it would be these old timers. I've sat and watched the moral decline of America since the 60's.Anything seems to go nowadays as long as no one is getting hit from what I've seen. My dad told me "son if you go looking for trouble you will always find it." And if you are always looking for fault in others you will certainly find that as well. The restless heart is always searching,but never finds.
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