| Feb 8, 2006 @ 1:06 PM |
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bispriteraina
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  Why is it that I let someone into my heart once and then lost communication with them(he quit talking to me).Then just a cpl of days ago he sent a hello and acted as if he had missed me so bad and we chatted all day.Now he won't talk to me again.Why do we women not get a clue?
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| Feb 8, 2006 @ 1:25 PM |
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smokncobra
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that is a really shallow person. sounds like a real player to me. i would never think about doing that to anybody at all. i have had it done to me myself. chin up girl you are a very beautiful woman and from the sound of it a very intelligent one as welll. too bad u didnt live closer. lol 
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| Feb 8, 2006 @ 2:02 PM |
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bispriteraina
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Thanks darling,appreciate it.I think he got his jollies by amusing himself with me fawning over him like an idiot.From his past it would appear he is rather fickle anyway.
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| Feb 8, 2006 @ 4:40 PM |
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walkingman
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No one need's to go through that. I read your profile and you are one nice lady who deserve's better. I would meet you to if we lived closer. It is sad to say but some people just want someone when it is convienient for them. Hang in there and someone nice will come into your life. I know how you feel. I have been in your shoe's so many time's. You just get stronger and wiser from each experience.
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| Feb 8, 2006 @ 7:11 PM |
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GraciePa
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He sounds very shallow and learning from my own experience and other's as well he was keeping you at arms length when no one or someone was available! My Motto *scratch your dupa and move on* he isn't worth your time! Good luck in your search! 
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 7:28 AM |
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sciurusniger
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I call it mental masturbation. They just use you as a mirror to reflect their own narcissistic ego. Much more fun, you see, than a blow-up doll, but when all is said and done you don't mean any more to them than would a doll and are as easily tossed out with the trash.
I think it's very sad, to be honest.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 7:39 AM |
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father_heart
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very sad
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 8:48 AM |
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bispriteraina
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And the ironic thing is that one of his most recent blogs was begging for a relationship or friendship or something.I guess he must think I'm not good enough for him.Thats were he is wrong.I'm better than him,because I always try to be decent enough to let someone know how I honestly feel.I don't blow hot and cold,sometimes lukewarm(pms you know),I'm always the same.Thanks to all of you for helping me through this,the words of advice and encouragement have been most helpful.Take care y'all and have a great day.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 8:58 AM |
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2Biatchy4U
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Hey fella Tennesseean! 
Sounds to me like this guy may be all about the game/chase. You are a beautiful woman and by all means can do better than him. I would forget about him and not even bother speakin with him anymore. Just move on!
I have a friend who had been talkin to a guy for quiet awhile. As soon as things seemed to be goin good she wouldnt hear from him for awhile. Then one day he would just pop up kinda like your guy, actin like everythin was ok and sayin how he missed her. This went on for awhile until his wife contacted my friend and let her in on his little game. He had been doin the same to many women.
Not sayin this is at all the same as your situation.. Just a thought.
Good luck! 
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 9:47 AM |
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MarysPlace
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Ummm... Can I be blunt?
Gee, you chatted all day and that was supposed to be proof of his undying love?
You really should get a clue. Or two. :)
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 10:19 AM |
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Angel54214
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Hey "Mary", nice to see ya again.. 
Chatting all day! can I ask why? I never would chat all day with some one, but I would initiate 'lets arrange a meet' some where along the way within the first hour at least. Well thats me anyways.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 1:55 PM |
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bispriteraina
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I'm not concerned about love.common courtesy would have been nice.And this was not the first time we had chatted.We had a previous history.I'm not at all under any kind of delusion that he loves me,neither do I love him.I just don't like his methods.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 2:24 PM |
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beachnutRU
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Maybe the man from your past read your profile and noticed that the "married" line was filled in and is protecting himself from getting hurt by an unresolved marriage.
Not judging just saying.........
I agree with you whatever his reasoning a note would have been better.
[Edited on 2/9/2006 2:30 PM]
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 2:55 PM |
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giftylight
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you chatted with this guy all day and he disappears again? Hon,,he is a player,run for the hills!
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 3:34 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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You seem to be sending some very mixed messages. In your profile, you mention you like women, and you are married. Now, you are discussing a man who has toyed with your emotions.
In your thread, you say you have let this man into your heart before, but you also say you aren't in love with him. Are you really being honest with yourself? And--if you can't be honest with numero uno, others will see that, and they will find it difficult to trust you.
I would imagine this man has seen that you are confused, and he IS playing you. I tend to wonder if you are talking intimately during your IMs, and this is what gets him off. He's getting what he wants.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 4:36 PM |
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bispriteraina
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Yes I am married,yes I am bisexual.But I am in no way confused.Mine is not your traditional marriage.Besides that I'm over it.It would seem that others are more upset over it than I am.I'm over it already.I would rather post that yes indeed I am married and yes I have a passing fancy for my own gender than be dishonest.Thus the reason for not checking any of the boxes that would lead anyone to believe that I can offer them anything other than friendship.There is nothing on my profile that is dishonest.I will be 40 next month so will be changing that soon.The pic was taken just over a year ago and other than my hair being longer I look the same.I'm not clueless ,just blowing off steam and now I have vented.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 4:45 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Who's upset? I'm trying to look at things from the man's perspective.
If you are going to update your profile, you might wish to explain your marital situation. You say you just want to make friends, but your post says otherwise.
Vent away, but you did ask a question.
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| Feb 9, 2006 @ 5:04 PM |
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beachnutRU
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Thanks for the clarification of that tradional marriage and attraction for males and females and it was all very confusing to the occasional passerby who might have read your post and your profile, and were trying to get everything to make sense........NOW it makes sense. 
Mary good to see you again.
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| Feb 11, 2006 @ 6:18 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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Fool me once, shame on you
Fool me twice, shame on me....
Live and learn....life is full of "whys" and "what ifs" ... some things are not supposed to be understood
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| Feb 11, 2006 @ 11:39 PM |
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ruready4me2luvu
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Fool me once, shame on you
Fool me twice, shame on me....
My sentiments exactly Snappy. If it happens one time then use it as an experience. If it happens with the same one twice then if the person is stupid enough to fall for it and fall back into the same situation they they deserve what they get. Common sense hellloooooo 
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