| Mar 24, 2006 @ 7:06 PM |
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snookums
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Before my ex-boyfriend decided if we should break up or not, he got on MD, to talk to people and get there opinion on the situation.............are dating sites a good place to get advise? 
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 7:15 PM |
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lakelady51
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Interesting question. As I understand it, almost everyone on this site is no longer in a relationship. Which means, we have all had at least one relationship fail. So, do you want advice from people who couldn't keep it together? Or, does the experience of going through the ending of a relationship make you better able to analyze? I guess it could go both ways. Bobbie
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 7:22 PM |
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Loreli
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I wouldn't say that getting advice on here is any different-better or worse-than getting advise from work buddies, the local tavern, etc. .Sometimes it's just talking it out, and here many are friends, or have met, but some are indeed strangers. So you could talk, complain, get advice, and disappear without having to see those people again if you choose.
People in a relationship should talk their problems out between themselves. Sometimes people just need a shoulder.
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 7:49 PM |
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poniepower
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I've gotten advice from my close friends on a site before.
We can either take the advice or leave it, but we've all been in a situation where having an ear to listen is a good thing I think. Sometimes strangers even can give you better advice than your best friends, as they are neutral and don't know the person and won't judge.
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 7:54 PM |
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mailorderannie
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I've learned a lot here BUT I would never base a major decision on what people here tell me. If I wanted to get validation that my decision is right, I'm sure I could get enough people to here to agree with me, but do I want to base my life on what a bunch of crazies...uh....I mean strangers on the internet say? Nope.
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 9:49 PM |
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walkingman
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I would never open up my personal life to people that I don't know. I think advice on a common general matter is fine . For example I might ask how to get a juice stain out of a shirt but not anything really personal. I just don't think this is the place for that. I do agree with Loreli that people need a shoulder at time's. I would just keep it to close friend's or family.
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| Mar 24, 2006 @ 10:04 PM |
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altogirl67
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I think what usually happens on here and elsewhere is the person already knows the answer to their own question but they're not necessarily strong enough for the follow through yet. So, they ask for advice, not to make things better, but rather to get validation of the feelings they already have. If others agree with them, it gives them strength.
I do think that one thing about asking for advice on here that's better as opposed to the advice of those close to you is that you get a good, objective, and honest answer. Those close to you won't want to say "dump him/her" or much of anything else that's negative because they don't want to be responsible for your break-up or making you feel worse. On here, you lay out the situation and you get the honest truth whether you're prepared for it or not and there's no real fear of the "shoot the messenger" syndrome.
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| Mar 25, 2006 @ 12:58 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Also, you get a number of different perspectives. You, or he, are still making your own decision; it's not as if you're going to act based on a poll here, but I don't think it's ever a bad idea getting other points of view.
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| Mar 27, 2006 @ 4:16 PM |
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torees121
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I seek opinions from others whether it be in the forums, messenger or in person. Sometimes other people see things more clearly than I do since they are not "in" the situation. I also want opinions/advice from people that don't know me in real life (can be less confusing that way).
I will make the final decision but it is nice to hear what others have to say sometimes.
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| Mar 28, 2006 @ 6:55 PM |
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swingpup
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Use a lifeline..... and poll the audience 
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| Mar 28, 2006 @ 7:01 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Use a lifeline..... and poll the audience
And if you've already called a friend, try for 50-50...
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| Apr 3, 2006 @ 10:22 PM |
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the_real_me_ok
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In a serious personal matter, such as relationship, dating, etc. I wouldn't ask for advice from total strangers in any situation. That's like walking up to someone on the street or picking out a name in the phone book and asking them what you should do with something really important in your life. Save those kind of decisions/advice for the friends in your life who you know face to face. Just because you talk to someone every day online doesn't mean you know them or vice versa. Sadly enough too many of us have learned that the hard way.
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 11:18 AM |
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sophie313
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Until last week I would have said no, it's not a place for advice. We all cross each other's path for a reason and luckily I was given some wonderful, yet unsolicited advice by another member. (thanks Claude...I watched the show)
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| Apr 8, 2006 @ 3:34 PM |
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WickedWench
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You can ask, take in all the answers and mull them over in your mind but at the end of the day........
it's still your choice to make 
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| May 14, 2006 @ 9:42 PM |
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jim9562
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hun,,,there's nothing wrong with getting advice from a duck if you so chose,,,,the point is ,,,as with any decision that involves two people,,,it really is up to the two people to decide,,,,,,,,what other's think is irrelevant,,,they can't live YOUR life,,only you can 
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| May 17, 2006 @ 10:48 AM |
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painter007
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I think alot of people onsite have valuable experiences that can help some people.when seeking advice
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| May 17, 2006 @ 1:55 PM |
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Goodness_Gracie
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Sometimes it is easier a person who don't know you like a best friend cause some still would be on your side or after to say something to hurt you. So it sometimes is nice someone looking from the outside onto the inside....no favorites.....just other's opinions you can weigh out and give you other perspective things to look out for that you might of not thought about. Ok I am getting all tongue tide here!!!!!
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| May 17, 2006 @ 1:57 PM |
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MotownManiax
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 Advice is always welcome, but, remember, it's just that -- advice. Once sifted it's up to all of us to use the ol' Noggin' to reach our own conclusions.
Common sense is a huge factor, too. 
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| Jul 15, 2006 @ 8:03 PM |
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jamminjerry
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as was mentioned earlier, when it comes to "what not to do" the match games are the place to go! its like i tell my brothers! "when it comes to advice on how to raise kids, you know exactly what not to do!" 
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| Jul 19, 2006 @ 10:13 AM |
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mostlynormal
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I think it has helped me just to get out those bad feelings and receive input form others. Besides, your friends can get annoyed if you keep whining to them everyday.....lol
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