| Jul 19, 2006 @ 10:59 AM |
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willsmalto
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oh yeah they are more than therapeutic. LOL I stopped therapy once I became a forum addict. you get some negative and positive comments/advice. at this point, it's all left to you to choose
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| Jul 22, 2006 @ 9:45 PM |
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mostlynormal
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Hopefully I will feel better soon too.
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| Jul 23, 2006 @ 2:48 PM |
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Always_Striving
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Can the blind lead the blind? Hmmmmm be wary of the advice that you get from loonies 
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| Jul 25, 2006 @ 1:40 AM |
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Ron9
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Besides the remote possibility of making a match on these sites - the only real benefit is two fold ....
1. Knowing you are not the only one out there without someone “special” in their life (in this sense)
2. More or less feeling others are around. - I try talking to my dog but she just looks at me like I am nuts - I don’t even bother anymore asking my fish “hey how is it going today?”
When it comes to relationship ***ADVICE*** the best bet is trying to talk to the other party that is causing you to ask advice about. I don’t think asking WHY on these sites really has much benefit to it - other than see #1
I tried the “professional” route and it really was kind hoke - the “EXPERT” was more worried about an extra 5 bucks an hour than she was about me and my wife (now ex). When I called they said $90 an hour - and the ........... um “EXPERT” was pissed off at her helper for not telling me $95 an hour ............ oh boy ....... I could see how important we were to her.
THEN - it was just like you would expect .......
Ron ... what do you dislike about T..... - and the “how do you feel about that”
YUCKO
Any decent friend could have done all those kinds of questions ..........
If the two people can not work it out - no one on singles sites can - and no “expert” books or “relationship” people can either.
This sites are more just entertainment to me ........... it is actually kind of fun watching the females tell guys how to be guys lol.
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| Sep 6, 2006 @ 11:20 PM |
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hopeforthetruth
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I agree with Ron, I was in the same boat, friends and families are there for you to support even parish priest and a professional counselling for $70.00 dollars an hour, the counselling never it helped, but totally at the end it broke my marriage. I believe individual has it's own instinct to follow own responsibilities. How, what is the reaction, towards your action is what you are accountable for. All you can hope for is to alliviate the emotion that takes it's toll over your self steem, accept in peace to move on forward and be happy of what you deserve for. Be strong, be well, have faith and hope that things will be better in the next life for here on forward and learn from that mistake you put behind you. Remember you deserve better........A lot of other relationship work and be with each other again, but today's present situation it is unlikely to happen, as mostly are not content, through selfishness, arrogance and disloyalty are more favoured than being HONEST!!!!!! 
Sorry to rant, but I give my best shot to help others, make you feel better, think you have the potential in life go for it, don't drag yourself to be sorry while the other laugh and enjoy itself. Show instead, that you can do better woman/man you are.
And oh the best theraphy is to be healthy, listen to music, laugh and smile everyday, involve on anything that occupy your mind off sad feelings.  Think that every individual is not the same personality or character. Enjoy LIFE to the fullest.
A motto: If he/she can do it you can.........
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| Jul 23, 2007 @ 12:15 PM |
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mostlynormal
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This has been helpful....thank you all.
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| Oct 31, 2007 @ 9:02 PM |
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sexyeyes755
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Lol.It all depends who he got advice from! I'm the typical armchair psycologist,and,all my friends always have came to me for advice.Trouble,IS,who do i speak too?((Grins))
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| Nov 1, 2007 @ 2:00 AM |
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GiggleAddiction
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Sexyeyes, you typed it for me!!  I will give an opinion, but I NEVER render advice about breaking-up, continuing, changing, etc. As SE said, armchair psychology is not the best idea.
If both parties in the relationship were posting, I'd feel differently ~ one sided stories ~ NOPE ~ not the whole story and definitely NOT something that should be taken to a public forum unless both parties are aware. But that's just me! 
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| Dec 13, 2007 @ 7:45 PM |
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Moonwalk
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In my opinion it is good to hear opinions from people with different background and different experience.
But at the end it is your decisions what to do.
The in-depth details of the situation only you know.
Personally I regard people from here like friends, and I think you can choose your friends.
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| Dec 13, 2007 @ 9:23 PM |
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madamegeek
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I believe that the majority of people KNOW the answer to their dilemna or at least the only answer they want to hear. Why else would people continue to ask the same question over and over? They seek the persons who tell them what they already knew and what they wanted to hear in the first place.
It is very rare that a friend has sufficient interpersonal skill to compell a questor to recognize the truth that he is denying.
We spend so much time NOT listening to the inner voice that tells us the truth.
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| Dec 13, 2007 @ 9:27 PM |
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signme
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I asked advice on a break up. I just wasn't sure what was going on. I got a lot of different advice and I appreciated it all. In the end though, it was my decision to make. I just needed to see all sides and that's what my friends on MD helped me with.
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| Dec 16, 2007 @ 8:10 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Sometimes the best part of the advice, is merely you writing out what the problem is and seeing it laid out before you. I think everyone knows what they need to do, they are just looking for support and validation.
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| Dec 19, 2007 @ 6:30 PM |
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mystery2u888
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well said touch.........  I make a list and then I run it by friends.........I think it is good to give input..........so to be fair......from someone looking on the outside and not being judgemental giving both parties a fair take on it. I have list from the very beginning........of things I want in my life and look at them daily......and what I want in my partner.......as far as compatibility ect.........I look at it and I run down the list......you must way out the good and the bads in any relationship.......the biggest thing is miscommunication............and people need to hear what your saying I always ask to reiiterate so there is no misunderstandings as most people get all wrapped up and they hear 2 different things so it is best to open up even if you don't want to say certain things.............you have to or the other person feels left out and there are hidden agendas ..............as one might think but.....in reality it is just they are not ready to tell the other person......maybe it being too private .....but......to save a relationship I certainly believe in opening up and discussing what needs to be addressed and also.....communication........without you have nothing and then you lose the relationship..........and you can't bail out by emails or by text messages ect........that is no way to communicate .......had that one too......   that is not communication and if the person really cares enough they will go the extra mile to work it out with you.........plain and simple. Just my opinion    xoxo
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| Jan 10 @ 3:55 PM |
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st93
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are dating sites a good place to get advise?
errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrm - no
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| May 10 @ 8:51 AM |
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tatiana329
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.............are dating sites a good place to get advise?
Overall, I'd say NO.... too many people with their own agendas, who are weak and unable to fix their own problems.
If you want advise you can get it anywhere, people are always eager to give it but the problem with that is most people don't like the good advise, they just want to do whats easy or have others agree with them.
If you have a problem that you really want to fix, a professional would be better because with all growth comes some pain and frustration and its not always about what you feel like doing, but what you have to do. The people on datings sites would be the worst possible choice for help in any serious matter.
Thats my take on it.
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| May 10 @ 10:16 AM |
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vance728
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You hit the nail on the head. I bet you could be a counselor. That was some good insight right there. V 
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