| Mar 31, 2006 @ 3:34 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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It's over...
after three years of giving him all my energy, all my love, all my everything, doing things that probably weren't the best for me just so i could be with him, making normal out of what could never be normal, and never getting anything back from him.......it's over.
and the sad part is i can't take what he's saying to me at face value and deal with it. i can't take the fact that he's saying he just can't have a girlfriend right now, and that it's not me at all, i did not do anything wrong. I keep thinking that he's lying to me. i can't believe all the things he says about that he still wants me and still loves me as much as he did and still thinks about me all the time because his actions don't match his words and he makes no sense.
i can't believe that the beautiful, sensitive, kind, gentle, caring, faithful young man that i was so in love with is now such an inconsiderate, insensitive, callous, brash, selfish asshole who admits to being this.
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| Mar 31, 2006 @ 3:41 PM |
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jim9562
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it's called letting you down easy,,,,would you have prefered " sorry you bore me" or something to that effect?
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| Mar 31, 2006 @ 3:42 PM |
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jim9562
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whoops missed the last part,,,,,,,,,,,i take it back,,,,f him and move on lots of fish in the sea,,,,,,i don't know anyone who is still with the girl they were with when they were 19,,,,,
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| Mar 31, 2006 @ 7:03 PM |
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mailorderannie
Posts: 6,021
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Sweetie...At your age 3 years IS a long time to have a relationship with someone, so I understand where you are coming from. But...neither one of you are whole people yet...you grow into that. Love the guy you fell in love with, and let him go without bitterness. I know he seems totally opposite now, but he probably doesn't know how to express what he feels. Release him in love and you will be a better person for it.
Hugs.
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| Mar 31, 2006 @ 7:41 PM |
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someone_me
Posts: 506
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his actions don't match his words
A very good lesson to learn and apply to all guys. 
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| Mar 31, 2006 @ 7:47 PM |
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Loreli
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Yes you are so young to get too intense. You will figure that out someday, but right now the pain will not understand that.
You were on a break...this was a possibility...
You recently had an interest in another you were hurt by also. Soooo..
I think you do not want to settle down with one either. But that's just an opinion based on what I've read. And what I have lived myself, being younger.
It does go away.
You WILL meet the better man.
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| Mar 31, 2006 @ 8:48 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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You WILL meet the better man.
That she will Loreli...
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| Mar 31, 2006 @ 9:21 PM |
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nightrider3281
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you are still young, move on. I used to tell my girls, get to where you want to be before you think of settleing down with one person, Get your own life in order, I also told them to get where they can take care of themselves dont ever get to where you have to depend on a man, they can be assholes, SO you will be just fine, you have your whole life ahead of you, ENJOY IT, and have fun
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| Mar 31, 2006 @ 10:30 PM |
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DawolfLover
Posts: 568
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Another piece of advice is to not go running out right away looking for something to fill the void you are feeling. I made that exact mistake after I was let down by my ex and it only hurt soooo much more when you heard "no" or "im not interested" from someone you were interested in. The pain seems to add up and can lead to some very dark dark places.
Take a break from dating and look for some valuable friends that can support you in times like this in the future.
One day you'll get past the things that seemed to come to a head this week and you'll realize you are much better off. Just remember to keep an open heart and don't close yourself off later just because of what happened here. Trust me, I made that mistake too.
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| Mar 31, 2006 @ 11:08 PM |
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walkingman
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It is never easy to get over a breakup.. I remember being so young and having that happen. It is best to just take a break and allow yourself to get over it. You are so young. . This happen's . Just allow time to heal your wound's and enjoy your life.
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| Apr 1, 2006 @ 7:24 AM |
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mailorderannie
Posts: 6,021
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Just allow time to heal your wound's and enjoy your life.
Good advice at ANY age!
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| Apr 1, 2006 @ 10:10 AM |
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sciurusniger
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I'm sorry, LGQ. Frankly, no matter what your age, it sucks.
You can't take what he's saying, you wonder if he's lying, because it IS personal. He's saying it to you, so of course you are going to doubt your own self-worth, but honestly, just because he doesn't think you are good enough for him, the fact is that you are plenty good enough for your friends and more than good enough for someone else. You just haven't met him yet.
This is truly the hard part about putting your Self out there and honestly loving others but though it is no consolation you aren't the first, and certainly you won't be the last. Maybe as we grow older we learn better ways to get through the time it takes to relevel? I know that at least some do. And I am certain you are one of them who will figure it out sooner than later.
Three years of your youth is truly a long time, my friend. One day you will understand this clearly. For now, look at this as a bit of a wake-up call to focus on your Self for a while. Use the quiet moments to think and plan and put your mind towards what can be a glowing future...for it's beginning really isn't very far off for you.
{{{Hugs}}}
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 2:37 PM |
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donewithit
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"A very good lesson to learn and apply to all guys."
I hate to say it but women do it to. It is horrible.
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| Apr 6, 2006 @ 3:44 PM |
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sjpinatl
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after three years of giving him all my energy, all my love, all my everything, doing things that probably weren't the best for me just so i could be with him, making normal out of what could never be normal, and never getting anything back from him.......
Growing up means realizing that you chose to do this. You choose what you concentrate on in life. Try to concentrate on working on yourself. Don't fall into the trap of finding another lover and starting the whole thing over again. It is not hard to do.
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| Apr 8, 2006 @ 9:07 AM |
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WickedWench
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can't believe that the beautiful, sensitive, kind, gentle, caring, faithful young man that i was so in love with is now such an inconsiderate, insensitive, callous, brash, selfish asshole who admits to being this
He probably always was but for whatever reason, you "chose" not to see it. People don't change but our "perception" of them can, and does.
Please don't beat yourself up over this. Learn and move on. Take the information to use it wisely to protect your kind soft heart.
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| Apr 8, 2006 @ 11:54 PM |
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RedTekkel
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Let's face it, women are generally emotional than men. More often that not, we believe what you guys tell us not because we are gullible but we tend to believe in the GOODNESS of man.
Relationships are more than homeworks or exams! Way, way higher than that. Its a test of character and of faith in the other person. Sis, you're young and beautiful..you deserve a better one ..in time... .
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| Apr 20, 2006 @ 1:18 PM |
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Thelostone995
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"Love knows not it's own depth until the hour of seperation"
Boy... I learned that the hard way...
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| Apr 24, 2006 @ 1:34 PM |
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jodi
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i understand how you feel.. But no matter what you have to get over it.. Pick yourself up and move one.. ONe day you will realize he's half the man you think he is and that all the efforts, time and attention you gave to him, he's not worth it at all.. You will not live to see it now as you are blinded by what you feel but someday you will.. True you will find another man who you will eventually fall in love again, maybe less maybe more but then be cautious and learn from your mistakes.. Sometimes we think we are doing right by giving it all and tolerating them but actually in a subtle way we are freeing them to explore.. When you get too nice, they tend to abuse you so stand your ground and be firm.. I tell you it's your gain, he will realize that he can never find another one exactly your make and he can never get back what he lost.. Keep your head up gurl, you'll get through it..
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| Apr 29, 2006 @ 6:16 AM |
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Bagherra
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Hi,
Methinks, men are far more emotional than women.
Mostly though, they are not very good at handling them & go for a total control kind of option.
After some considerable research I'm fairly confident when I say this.
In fact, one of the reasons that I find women so interesting is that they tend to be so much better at handling what's going on inside of them.
Regards,
- TonyG
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| Apr 30, 2006 @ 4:08 PM |
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DramaQueen1
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My life sucks so much ass, it's pathetic, I loved him then I f***ed up, and now he won't give me another chance. I think I'll kill myself.
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