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Prairiesmiles59
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Thank goodness! I thought it was me! I've heard all these... must be just a lack of imagination when they need to run...
The 'I love you' just need space... silence and the space is forever after. It's not you , it;s me is an oldie, but goodie. Thanks for being a pal. You misunderstood.... I love you like a friend! After a couple of years 'I just don't feel there is chemistry for long term'. 
Had a couple of original one's.... 'It's me. I was selfish not to think things out first. I am sorry.' and my favorite...since you can't shoot worth a damn,it is safe to hand you the gun. You deserve to take the first shot' ! 
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| Apr 5 @ 12:16 PM |
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ladros
Posts: 170
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"boy this was a fun couple of months but i now know i want a man with more hair on his head and a shorter dick" the hair comment stung for a day or two but it was one of the easier dumpings ive been thru
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| Apr 5 @ 12:43 PM |
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Snappygoddess
Posts: 3,827
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Too funny ^^^^^ 
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| Apr 6 @ 8:54 AM |
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ladros
Posts: 170
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i would rather go thru the most heinous public blow off then be left wondering 'where in the hell did she go'?
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| Apr 8 @ 2:39 AM |
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RAKS37
Posts: 611
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"I think I'm better at the friend thing"
pretty lame huh?
now what do you do when they mean it
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| Apr 8 @ 9:27 AM |
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ladros
Posts: 170
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demand benefits
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| May 18 @ 10:49 AM |
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newNJgirl
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My last relationship if you could call it that was with someone I have known for about 10 years. About six months ago things took more of a more than friends turn.
Then about a month ago I moved to NJ and would be definitely much closer. We saw each other the week I moved up and it was nice. But after that he became readily more and more unavailable. He first cited he was too tired, then some physical issues and then he just one day stopped answering his phone or responding on IM. He basically did the disappearing act. The ultimate blow off that has left me upset and confused wondering wtf happened.
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| May 21 @ 8:38 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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Any lines or blow off are simply answered.
Well its about time you caught up.  Jenny says hi.
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| Jun 2 @ 2:04 AM |
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EducatedRita
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Hi, dear audience:-), I have been reading your most interesting versions of the dumbest recognizable "break-up" phrases, and it drove me to compose a sort of a summary of this staff in a form of a "farewell" letter (maybe it could even help me resolve a situation I have been breaking my brains over?).. lets see how it looks like in the eye of a man, and whether it portrays me as a "bitch" or...someone with a good alibi (self-justification:-)):
"Dear X,
I had a feeling that I was going to fall in love with you when we saw each other.
But after a few dates with you I am afraid I have been mistaken...........
Maybe there is not enough chemistry ... maybe its not the right time..maybe I am just a coward?..
Lets look at things realistically - its me, NOT you.
I was selfish not to think things out first. I am sorry.
I had too much pain before, X. I cant let that happen again to me.
I have been hurt so much in the past that probably I need time to heal.
I just need to spend time alone to discover who I am - to have more time, space, and freedom, which is probably what we both need.
We can still be friendly, and support each other if needed... but so far, we both could be doing well on our own..
I understand the people who want to make HONEST connections and avoid games.
But noone can force reciprocity.
My love is not strong enough to stay and I know it would be difficult for you to be with me, with you preferring
sitting back and being entertained, instead of being an active participating partner in a "beginners level" communication.
You need to find that special someone who will make YOU happy....untill you start loving someone and thinking of making HER happy:-)
Keep your eyes wide open for the TRUE love of your life .. and when you find HER, it will NOT matter if she can cook or not,
and whether she has time to care about you or not, because love is ACCEPTANCE, when another persons needs and wants are your priority.
And maybe I have found someone that wants to marry, accept and adore "hysterical" me?
"N" just came back into the picture after my mistake phone call...
He is still my good friend, he was suicidal last night, so I had to go to his house and was up all night talking him out of it...:-(
He is asking to give it another try with him, he has changed..I dont want somebodies suicide because of another episode in the heartbreak.
He is not a big fan of sex, but he wants 100 % ME - not "a little crazy" blond with breast seize 3/4 who can cook well.
Dear X, I think of you with respect and admiration. You are an attractive man with A LOT OF charisma.
Maybe, you dont think when you say things sometimes, the ones that seem funny to say to a man, but not to a woman (your strange jokes and forecasts about me dancing on tables in the future or remarks about height, or suggesting going to appartement if not for the 1st, than the next time),
but apart from this you are a very charming personality and handsome man.
I dont want to bring you disappointment but I know You will not have enough patience to accept ME, dear X.
On the other hand, if incompatible people break up, why burn bridges?
I would still want to be on good terms with You and hope you feel that way towards me.
I could talk to you later after I collect my thoughts, if you want. Now I need to stop and think....
But YOUR show must go on!
People are free to change their minds, interest, switch allegiances.
Sometimes we need to do what we need to do for ourselves.
Please forgive me for being so mixed up. I am NOT ready - not under these circumstances.
Maybe, time is my savior in the healing process.
Its a difficult thing to deal with - but honesty is the best policy.
Thank you for understanding.
Wishing you peace and strength and positivity,
............."
- in this letter I used all these "suck" phrases that the folks have been on about - when "ensemble" - they dont really sound THAT bad...or am I wrong?)...so in this good-bye I used the most of the things you claimed you "loved hating"...somehow it still does not sound that bad? Maybe I even get to be forgiven by "X" if I send it to him? Feedback appreciated:-)
Rita:-)
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| Jun 2 @ 8:40 PM |
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EducatedRita
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I think he has just made it so much easier for me to say the final "adieu"...would you believe...I never sent this "farewell example" letter so far...but I have just got a letter from him, saying (I am translating from czech language) : "Hello, today in the morning I have recalled my real name and age..uufffffff...I am Alexander and I am 36, I will be 37 in September. kiss."
And THIS I get after our 3 REAL meetings (we got acquainted in the supermarket where I was shopping products)..what was the need to LIE in the first place? He told me he was 34, his name was Tomas, and he was "also" Cancer by Horoscope.
Now..I had all that guilt thinking of HOW to tell him "bye" so it would be not degrading for him (after such a short time together, but still - I dont like hurting other peoples feelings), as from the very beginning my intuition was telling me something was wrong there about him, and us together as a couple, smth did not feel right, his desire to visit my place first thing, and after a politely explained "no", getting back to this subject on the 2nd meeting, this time inviting over to himself (when the weather was just brilliant! - and..whats the hurry anyway), never listening to what I was talking about and getting distracted...and now - here you go - it turns out he lied me in the first place from the beginnning when there was NO need to do it whatsoever....hmmmmm....after this, he quitely sends me one more e-mail : "Hi, what about meeting tomorow 8 oclock in front of your house?"....oh, God, I better send him my farewell "model" letter the one I wanted to have your opinion of...and I better do it quick! Ya think?
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| Jun 3 @ 12:01 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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Personally a plain no would do for me and I changed my mind. We are not compatible would do. But then, I am not afraid to play by other people's rules and don't fear hurting liars.
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| Jun 3 @ 1:02 AM |
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EducatedRita
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Thank you, Spirit!:-) Its true, why do I attach so much importance to HOW I put it? Some stupid guilt complex. The "brats" dont seem to have any burdens of such respect:-) maybe sometimes it really is not worthy to cast pearls before....
Thing is, some people (lets not point finger in my direction, lol) tend to have this need to overexplain themselves, even to bastards...when sometimes a few lines are enough...even if these are the lines they "love to hate"..let them blow off...why put their feelings in the first place, when saying "bye"...in case they never did put your feelings on THEIR priority list:-) Its really simple. Thank you
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| Jun 3 @ 2:39 AM |
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mystery2u888
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My little Rita..........yes I agree with spirit.........no explanation needed....especially if the chemistry is not there.....however communication must be there...........absolutely.......it does not need to be long and drawn out.......  If you try and it does not work......you move on......one can NOT.....expect.......to fall in love with them that second.....it takes time to get that certain something something........  ...........you can't be on rebounds either.........you need to have your eyes wide open..............so a simple ..........this isn't going to work is just fine.....  If it was a longterm committed relationship that is another story........how you handle things.... 
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| Jun 3 @ 9:11 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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The thing is, it is AFTER the I am sorry we are not compatible that you need to watch out for. You can generally tell the true asses by how they respond to your letting them go. The asses almost always go ballistic on you. They rant and rave and go on and on about stuff. Attacking YOU, badmouthing you or belittling you or guilt tripping you. Those are the abusers.
DO try to be polite but keep it short. I would think that may be why many people try to be extremely polite when they say no and to break it off. All those afterwards that are so painful to deal with. I have learned from Matchdoctor how people can be. Not just my own experiences but thru others in the forums. The truly kind never say things that are hurtful. They are kind and generally emotionally balanced even when either of you break it off.
Please don't feel bad when you experience red flags. Try to communicate and if it isn't going anywhere, then bail out, fast. It often gets worse. The less pain you put in a relationship in the beginning, the more likely it IS a good relationship.
Sorry for the big discussion.  
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| Jun 8 @ 11:00 PM |
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doncasto
Posts: 265
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For the second time in less than a year . . ."I thought I was over my boyfriend but I was wrong . . .sorry." Sheesh, have I been walking around with a "Use to me to figure out if you are really over your last relationship" sign on my back?
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| Jun 9 @ 12:30 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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aww Don  damn Im so sorry
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| Jun 9 @ 12:40 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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Good to see you back, Don, even under those circumstances. 
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| Jun 9 @ 11:17 AM |
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doncasto
Posts: 265
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SE and Beckser . .
No worries, I am actually getting used to the abuse it seems. I am considering a whole new profile approach based on an "over your boyfriend yet? . . .let me offer my expertise!" concept.
Thanks for the welcome back!
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| Jun 9 @ 3:25 PM |
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SallyF
Posts: 298
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and....Welcome to Oregon!
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| Jun 9 @ 5:06 PM |
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SunBabe
Posts: 12,251
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Oregon? 
I wonder if it's time for me to take a road trip to visit my daughter 
...and I haven't had a "boyfriend" for almost 4 years now. 
Seriously, welcome "home", MrCasto...although I'm truly sorry things didn't work out for you  
(Hawaii AND Costa Rica in 2008? Dang!  )
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