| Nov 2, 2006 @ 8:22 AM |
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simplylindylu
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Kind of curious here, for men there seems to be no set amount of yrs considered *proper* when dating/marrying a younger woman. What about the women dating/marrying a younger man? double standard or is it the same now a days?
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 1:12 PM |
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doc65270
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this younger age thing i believe its just a personal preferance for various reasons of which i will not say my thoughts of at this time. but it really isn't a comon thing to a degree. i have 2 brothers that married older women but there was no big age difference just a couple years. but when a woman in her late 40's or 50's marys someone in the late 20's or early 30's i think that is disgusting and visa versa. i mean its like your damm kid or something. i know a guy here that is married to a woman that is 19 years older than he. she is not a bad looking woman expecially from behind but then again i saw two of his ex's and its about the same effect. i believe this guy has a fetish for hinnies. well i believe he has a keeper now but i'll let him keep her cause she got a real cranky attitatude all the time. i don't even speak to them any more because of her little attitatude. i have a cousin that ever sence he turned 50 you could gaurentee the woman he was with was at least 20 years + younger than he was. i knew a guy a couple years ago that was 37 and he got lucky with a 18 year old gal and he told me you want to feel young get you some young stuff. well i never did get some young stuff but i feel young anyway  i am about to turn 60 and hell i don't know what your to feel like at 60 i never been there before. and no one told me what your to feel like at 60.  now i had a date kinda like last sunday, she was only 27,  but i felt like i always did but then again i didn't get any either so i don't know. and i must say she was only a friend and went on a toys for totts run with me cause she never rode in anything like i got or ever seen anything like i got before. after we went to the mex restruant ate and i took her home. i called her a couple times sence but she wont answer her phone, maybe i should have tried a little harder  hilli give me another one  there now thats better. i just basicly think its a mind thing when there is a big age difference, i want a woman close to my age instead of going out with someone that would be like my granddaughter. hay hilli give me another one.
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 2:37 PM |
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Gwynyvyr
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I have dated all across the age spectrum.
To me, it's the intellectual/mental ability combined with the physical activity level that matters.
I won't go out with a young guy just because he's young and hot. If he can't hold his own in a conversation, I won't waste the time.
Similarly, an older guy that is intellectually astute would be a no-win situation for me if he doesn't enjoy physical activities such as roller blading, hiking, rappelling and the like.
I need a balance.
Yes, have dated guys in their 20s...had a blast recently with a guy that took me dancing, etc for my birthday.But he and I also had some great conversations...and we have read some of the same authors and have similar philosophies vis-a-vis religion, government, etc.
My ex husband was 20 years younger than I. We were together 10 years. Loved every minute of it.We split due to his addiction problems that I was unable to help him with, though I tried for years. It happens.
I also had previously been married twice before. Once to a man 20 years older, whose libido and physical activity levels dropped off into nothing after 6 years (and his drinking increased) and once to a man the same age whose inability to find a job that would keep him home more than 30 days out of the year sounded the death knell for our relationship. You just can't be a *couple* when only one is present and accounted for.
As for people that judge me...screw 'em. I have every right to date whomever I please. Age is just a number.
In Elizabethean times, a woman normally married the first time between the ages of 13 and 16. If she survived the rigors of childbirth, she likely out-lived her husband, who would most probably be her senior by 30 to 45 years! next, she would likely marry again...someone in their *middle years*... 30s to 40s. If she out-lived that husband, it was not unusual for a twice-widowed woman in her 40s or 50s to be courted by young men 18 to 30. Why?
Well, she would have the wealth of her late spouses estates and possibly estates/assets of her own, also, if she was of noble birth, the advantages of her political clout could further a young mans career. Her sexual experience/expertise would also make her desirable.
A young man married to such a woman would...if he out-lived her...no doubt inherit a few estates and possibly a title.
Just a little historical background....
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 9:10 PM |
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doc65270
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gwyny you forgot to state no short men
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| Nov 2, 2006 @ 11:15 PM |
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ol_hillbilly
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Gwyny, where do I find one of these>> Well, she would have the wealth of her late spouses estates and possibly estates/assets of her own, also, if she was of noble birth, the advantages of her political clout could further a young mans career. Her sexual experience/expertise would also make her desirable.
Could do without the polictical part, tho. I've experinced politics. Dont care much for any more of that. Unless I run for commissioner, someday.
Doc, yer Soused! I'm callin you an Amish taxi.
As far as the age thing goes. I dont think it matters much. Well, as long as they gotta IQ bigger than their shoe size. I'd like for em to be able to spell multi-sylable words, if need be. And carry on a conversation beyond hair color. Most of all, have 'Common Sense". Some younger gals act older and some older gals act younger.
All I got to say is, "If the shoe fits, get two of em".
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| Nov 3, 2006 @ 10:44 AM |
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Gwynyvyr
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Absolutely...no short fellas...either in height or length...so I guess your'e out of the running..... 
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| Nov 3, 2006 @ 3:11 PM |
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doc65270
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gwy to start off with you it seem like its all about sex and looks. i hate to tell you the bad news but what you seek is just what you will get no more but a lot less. all you will attract is guys that want a romp in the hay that is not looking for a meaningful relationship. and the way i see things sex with out a meaningful relationship really isn't that good. i said i was over 6' and if that is too short oh well. and sarry but you will never know what my legnth is what ever you mean by that. so see i never was in the running, well for you at least, so next time you want to try to run someone down find a little bit more information on them first. and you my dear will never know as much as my first name! damm hilli give me another one after that, i'm thursty. oh that taste so good thanks hilli. anything else. 
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| Nov 4, 2006 @ 11:06 AM |
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Gwynyvyr
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No, doc, the first thing that attracts me to a man is his intellect and ability to converse in a civilized manner.
You have neither attribute.
Obviously.
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| Nov 4, 2006 @ 11:14 AM |
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laceywiggles2
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Whoaaaaaa Gwyn, please do not disrespect others that comment. We use the Missouri thread to simply have fun.
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| Nov 4, 2006 @ 11:49 AM |
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doc65270
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oh lacy pay her no mind. like i said before she don't know nothing about me and with a attitatude like that she never will know nothing about me. so what she says really makes no sence and no difference to me at all. i am just having a good time while hilli keeps giving me some suds thanks hilli i didn't even ask for that one.
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| Nov 5, 2006 @ 12:30 PM |
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Gwynyvyr
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Ms Lacey:
Here is the private message Doc sent me and my reply. Take it as you will.
"you know nothing about me at all. nor will you ever know anything about me because i have a little class and a little bit of style i am not out peddling my azz around looking to see who has what like some people are on here! as far as i am concerned you can pack you little attitatude roll it in a ball and sit on it untill it disapares which shouldn't take too long with that ample hindend you have. ty and good ridence."
This site has spell check...lets see where you got lost...
Capitalize the *y* at the beginning of your first sentence...it should be *You*
Comma after *all*, not a period if you intend it to be one sentence and the use of *nor* indicates that was your intention.
*I* is a proper personal pronoun. Capitalize, please.
It is *ass*, not *azz*. Check spelling!
Should be *pack "your" little attitude*, not *pack "you" little attitude*
*Attitude* spelled wrong.
*Until* spelled incorrectly.
*Disappears* spelled wrong, as well.
Do you even OWN a dictionary?
*Hindend* should be hind end or conversely and more familiarly, hind-end.
*ty* comes at beginning of sentence. Should be TY or better yet, Thank you. "Netspeak" is the sign of a lazy and undisciplined mind.
*Riddance* spelled incorrectly.
Doc:
You do not fit the definition of *class* in any dictionary on the planet. If drunken, crass, loud-mouthed fat redneck is a *style*, then yes, you have *a* style.
An unfortunate one.
Please do not private message me again.
Sincerely,
Gwyn
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| Nov 5, 2006 @ 2:24 PM |
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doc65270
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well first off i don't know why your bothering me. second of all i have no idea why your saying i sent you something. i really don't care for you at all and i really have nothing else to say to you cept try again. maybe someone will believe you. any thing i have to say to you i will say right here i have nothing to hide and as far as class goes how would you know what class is. if you have a problem with he then learn to deal with it instead of posting things on here making up your little lies. i don't care for you and really have not had much to say to you. and don't go crying on lacys shoulder go tell the monerator or whom ever. lacy knows me and i try not to get disrespectful with anyone. its like lacy said we are just in here for fun. with that i say good bye.
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| Nov 5, 2006 @ 2:46 PM |
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ol_hillbilly
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Dang Doc!
No recesses fer you!
Note: Yanno, this started out as a thread about "age differences in dating". Somehow we got to spell check????
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| Nov 5, 2006 @ 4:01 PM |
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doc65270
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well hilli i didn't know that we was in skool and i didn't know she was the new skool marm. give me one hilli i really didn't want to go out for receese anyhow. i'd rather say in and sneek a or two while everyone is out playin. but come on bak a litl early and i'll give you a too and we can sit there and tell the whole world 
on the serious side of things people get misled off of the subject really easy and then others come in here and try to start some chit. and you know hilli you don't want to start chit with the new skool marm cause she will give you more homework than your azz can take care of in one night. and you know that would cut down on my time. so be nice to her hilli n don't get me into anymore trouble. you kow its your fault
[Edited on 11/5/2006 4:08 PM]
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| Nov 5, 2006 @ 6:07 PM |
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laceywiggles2
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I say, let's get back to basics, huh Hilli? Age difference is a long way from all this crap. I will be back when the smoke settles. I detest anyone slamming anybody in this manner. CLASS is walking away when you would like to choke the crap outta someone, but knowing you are the better person for not doing so.
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| Nov 8, 2006 @ 12:26 PM |
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wordsenchanting
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Double Standard??? Hmmm I guess you have not noticed just how many 40 year old women state on their profile they are looking for guys 19-30 years old or how many 60 year old women are looking for guys 30-55. This is NOT a gender specific situation. To each his own, but I was the oldest of five siblings and it seems perfectly natural for me to date up to ten or twelve years younger and since I look younger than my years would prove it is common for me to attract women from a younger age group who actually have asked me for proof I am really that old. I thank God and genetics (mom and dad) for that. My mom could still pass for my sister.
steven
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| Nov 8, 2006 @ 12:49 PM |
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doc65270
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personally i don't think it makes any difference. somethings might work for one that will not work for another. i feel that when a younger woman is with a older man it is because something is lacking from her child hood with her father. i am not speaking of a 10 - 15 year difference i am speaking of a 20 + year difference. i feel it is bad because when this man is 60 - 65 years old she is going to be in her 40's and ready to go and he is tired and just wants to stay home. when the male passes away she will be possably 53-57 years old and no mate and it is hard to find a mate at that age. believe me i am trying. i believe that a man that is with a woman that is 20 + years younger than himself he is doing a possability of a couple things here. one he is in deynal of his age and finds that a younger woman helps him wiht his deynal of his age. i guess you would have to say he is scared of getting older. and the other main reason i feel that a man is with a younger woman is for ego. cause then he is out with the people her age and its like lookie what i got, i am the best lover she ever had, what to try me. then he loads up with viagra and has a heart attack. if a woman more than 10 years younger then myself approaches me the second thing out of my mouth is why me? thats right. it just causes suspesion on my mind when that happens. but i don't down anyone that does this for you have to do what makes your boat float. i have a cousin in az. he has never dated anyone over the age of 30 for the last 15 - 20 years. back then it wasn't so bad but now he is like 68 and marred to a 28 year old. its a ego thing for him. and its funny too, he always had these really nice lookin women blond, blue nice hinnie big boobs etc. now he is with some indian gal and she is so far different than the other women he has dated/married. it crackes me up when i see this. oh well what ever works.
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| Nov 8, 2006 @ 10:52 PM |
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laceywiggles2
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Lacey best stay out of this conversation! Might get herself into trouble. LOL
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| Nov 9, 2006 @ 2:08 AM |
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doc65270
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and with that comment lacy you are throughing susspession. how old is your boyfriend?
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| Nov 9, 2006 @ 7:02 PM |
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laceywiggles2
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My bf is 51 . . . nuf said! 
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