| May 2, 2007 @ 1:54 AM |
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moangel2love
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yeah what is wrong with men nowaday.it has come to my opinion that the men on this or any dating site are only interested in dating a certain type of woman.and that is the smaller skinner type..what is wrong with dating a disabled person or a bbw or both.just because they are a bbw and disabled doesnt mean that they dont have the capacity to give or receive love,it just means that they have more to give...ive been on this site for quite awhile now and just because im not skinny or that men arent interested...and its not fair.....i have feelings too.
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| May 2, 2007 @ 6:44 PM |
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stilsearchn
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maybe it's just the dating sites you're listed on..not sure but I have seen smaller guys with bigger women and vice versa; they seem happy enough..I say keep looking or stop looking and maybe one of these great guys will contact you :)
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| May 3, 2007 @ 2:30 AM |
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doc65270
Posts: 831
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well i am a big guy too and i am disabled to a degree. i am a great person, funny and so much more. some gal will get lucky one day. 
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| May 3, 2007 @ 8:46 AM |
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simplylindylu
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I'm a big lady too, and been single for quite a while, and take my word for it, would rather stay single than be w/some of the jerks out there.
I heard the other day that 51% of women are single. What does that tell ya?
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| May 6, 2007 @ 2:08 AM |
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tomccc
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I'm sure it has nothing to do with you. It's all the guys fault. Ask yourself this question. If I could choose between someone that takes care of themselves and looks good, over someone that doesn't, who would I choose?
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| May 6, 2007 @ 8:13 AM |
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doc65270
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well that isn't right at all. just because someone takes care of their self don't mean they are going to look just fantastic. besides 98% of the people have a body structure change sometime in their 40's or early 50's. and by your coment your saying that if they don't look good then you don't want them. its kinda like this if your out for looks your in trouble big time. cause that is all your going to get. my mother was a big gal, she was only 5 foot and weighed over 200 pounds. but my father was the only man she was ever with. and for well over 60 years they never left each others side. that was true love. my mothers job was to take care of her husband and raise up us 5 boys. and she did a pretty good job of it too. and thats one thing that is wrong with this world today eveyone forgot about love its all about looks. and when you have problems you just get a divorce and move on to the next victum carrying old baggage with ya. and it just keeps going. yes i will admit its nice to be with a good looking person but its better to be with someone that truly loves you. think about it.
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| May 6, 2007 @ 9:46 PM |
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tomccc
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That's not what I'm saying at all. Read it again Doc. I'm saying, given a choice, guys will take good looking over not. I'm sure there is a small percentage of guys that like big gals, but not many. My other point is that it's not the guys fault. That is the way it is. So, best advice is to do the best you can to take care of yourself, instead of blaming guys.
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| May 7, 2007 @ 1:11 AM |
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doc65270
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i have a friend that is about 6 feet tall. and weighs about 140 pounds just as he did many years ago in high school. i guess you'd say he is taking care of his self. well he is a alachoalic. thats not taking care of your self. now then when a woman gets in a family way her hips get wider from child birth and they are not going to get any smaller no matter what she does. and she will probably weigh a little more too and never get back to what she weighed before conception. and what your saying is if a person is over weight they don't take care of theirself. and that is a bunch of hawg wash. i went with a gal one time that was very weight concious and she said she would never get big and fat. well as years went by she started becoming more tired from work etc and started sittting in front of the tv a lot more. laying in bed watching tv and all that stuff well she started putting the weight on and more and some more now she wasn't fat but she was a lot bigger than she ever wanted to be. and take me for another example i was 6foot 1 inch tall and weighed 240 pounds. not fat but just a bigger than average guy. i exercised, lifted weights and did a little martial arts. well in 1998 i had a bad accident that put me in a wheel chair more than out for the next 4 years. have you ever been inside a house where you couldn't just get outside. do you have any idea what cabin feaver is or what its like. well i put on some weight and some more and more. i am heavier than i ever was but its not because i don't take care of my self. its from a accident that i have no controll over. if you don't like big women thats fine but i find it ill mannered to get on here and put them down as you have been doing. and i also belive that you owe a few poeple on here an appologly. but the thing i like the most is what goes around comes around. i am 60 years old and i have seen it many times over. i dont' wish anything bad on anyone but if you had more compassion for people you your self might be a little better of a person.
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| May 7, 2007 @ 9:48 AM |
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simplylindylu
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This whole subject gets old real fast... it comes down to chemistry, I've seen some real dogs w/beautiful women and some real good lookin studs w/dogs, so whats the deal there? You think they went on looks? Then theres the ones that want the picture perfect mate... well hello?? they usually end up divorced a few yrs later, NO personality and don't get me wrong that does NOT apply to everyone. You have skinny men w/fat women, and vise versa, no one qualifies in every catagory, people are people, fat, skinny, loving, not loving, personality, boring ect ect ect. To each his/her own!
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| May 7, 2007 @ 6:37 PM |
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Studlysr37
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The ideal mate for you is out there for all of us. I found mine here just last month and we are moving in together and I plan to marry her. She is not little by no means and I seen so much in her that I loved that I well fell right in love with her! And wouldn't you know the feelings were returned and the rest will become history. Give it time and try different sites there is a ton of them...I did 2 other site for 6 months before finding this one and wouldn't you know the one I don't pay for gives me the one I have been looking for! I wish you all the best and your ideal mate is out there, you just may not meet her or him here, they could be right next door...remember a smile and a hello can break the ice and at the very least make you a friend!
Bpebbles2007 I LOVE YOU!
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| May 7, 2007 @ 6:43 PM |
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tomccc
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You know doc, you're an idiot. Did you even get out of the eighth grade? You are making assumptions about me. Of course, I understand that if someone has a physical disability that it is difficult to lose weight and take care of themselves.
And, if someone is with someone, then it is not as critical to watch their weight because they have their mate. This is a singles site, and these women are trying to find a mate. Do you think it is helpful to them to just say, well, it's the guys fault that they aren't finding anyone, or to encourage them to try to do what they can to look and feel better to find a mate? I have had an overweight girlfriend myself. I like all women. But the reality is, that they will have a better chance to find someone if they try to better themselves.
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| May 7, 2007 @ 11:47 PM |
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doc65270
Posts: 831
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oh i see now we revert to name calling. and you show your mantality by your name calling. i read both of your post a couple times and its saying that if your not just so so then you will be passed by because if your not so so it means you dont' take care of your self. but it sounds like your one of these jerks that play games with women that i hear about. and i can explain that comment. you say you have a girlfriend that is over weight yet on your profile you say nothing about her but that your looking for long term or marrage. now can you explain why you couldn't take a couple min to put on your profile about your girlfriend instead of making it look like your single and have no one in your life? and he calls me a idiot   and accuses me of being unedicuated  if your going to lie you should do a better job of it. 
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| May 8, 2007 @ 12:24 PM |
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tomccc
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It's mentality, not mantality. It's uneducated, not unedicuated. I said I had an overweight girlfriend, not have one. Apparently, not only can you not spell, but you can't read either. You jump to conclusions without having any idea of what the intent was.
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| May 8, 2007 @ 4:33 PM |
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doc65270
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well this is the internet and i can spell any way i want to. i don't go over someones post to look for corrections etc. but in the third sentence from the end of your post you said you have a over weight girlfrind. your double talking so do what ever you want to. i am not making any more replies to your lies. because it appears you've been telling a lot of them. end of dicussion!!  
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| May 8, 2007 @ 6:16 PM |
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tomccc
Posts: 27
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Here is what I wrote you simpleton: I have had an overweight girlfriend myself.
That is past tense, which means it is past, not current. Scroll up to my last post and you will see it.
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| May 9, 2007 @ 8:16 AM |
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w8ing4me
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Why bother, Doc??? Ur not the one who will be missing out on a good woman, HE WILL!!! Thanks for being so supportive!!
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| Jun 22, 2007 @ 8:01 AM |
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Microchip
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yeah what is wrong with men nowaday.it has come to my opinion that the men on this or any dating site are only interested in dating a certain type of woman.and that is the smaller skinner type..what is wrong with dating a disabled person or a bbw or both.
Here we go again... a cry for sympathy. Just because a man doesn't want to date a bbw or a disabled person doesn't mean something is wrong with him!
just because they are a bbw and disabled doesnt mean that they dont have the capacity to give or receive love,it just means that they have more to give
Did you ever think that some men want physical attraction as well?
...ive been on this site for quite awhile now and just because im not skinny or that men arent interested...and its not fair.....i have feelings too.
LIFE isn't fair. It isn't "fair" to say that all men want skinny gals. That's just not true. Men have feelings too. Lashing out at them isn't going to help you get a date. If you're going to be on a dating site, you have to be a little less sensitive. You are entitled to happiness, just like everyone else is. But don't expect anyone to knock at your door out of sympathy. I'm sure that isn't what you want. Show your strong points. By complaining, you have a tendency to drive people away, not attract them.
Best wishes to you.
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| Jun 22, 2007 @ 6:22 PM |
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GotQualityTime
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Good luck, honey. My mother always told me that there's somebody for everybody. The right one will come along and he's probably getting himself prepared for you right now! Don't feel bad, a lot of guys won't date me for several reasons and I don't know all of them, but some of them are because I'm not skinny, I have two kids, don't want more kids, or don't want to jump their bones the first second within meeting them. But, you know what, there are some guys that like healthy women, women with children, or a woman who actually wants to get to know them first. So, if this helps any, you are not alone. It's their loss because you seem like a sweet person. Good luck.
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| Jun 22, 2007 @ 6:23 PM |
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GotQualityTime
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I agree with microchip on one thing. Everyone has a right to their own preference. So, like I said...there's guys out there who do prefer a woman like you. Good luck
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| Jun 26, 2007 @ 12:16 AM |
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jellybean635
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If you like the person, you will not see the disable or the bbw, you will like that person for who that person is.. I have been with some of the sexiest men and they were a holes, just because someone is overweight or anything else does not mean that they are uncapable of love... and just because the person on your arm is the best thing since sliced bread and could be a model does not mean that they have the personality that god gave a fence post..
Like someone stated about what they like..
I personally do not date blonde headed men, nothing against them but just do not like men with blonde hair..
I dont like men that drink or smoke so much that your car will smell like a bar... but that is my choice.. and what I prefer
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