| Nov 3, 2006 @ 1:12 AM |
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Solitaryguitar
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I took a girl to a party for Haloween. We are in the same class, Astronomy of the Stars and Planets. Over the past 2 months, I thought we were getting closer. She'd hold my hand in the hallway, lean her head on mine during lunch, come visit me at work and be generally very affectionate. I kept wondering if maybe she really did like me or if there was some alterior for this gentle girl to want to be around me.
Well, I asked her to come to a party as my "date". She said yes and I didn't let myself get excited. I went to pick her up at her house and she was dressed in this really provocative outfit (Read: Slutty Cop). Again, I didn't jump to any conclusions.
At the party, I probably knew about 2 people: My Date and the Host. Well, my date ends up leaving me alone for about an hour. Turns out she spent that hour in a locked room with another guy at the party. She ended up leaving the party with him. I just kinda shrugged my shoulders at it.
But later at home, I was in tears. It hurt very much, almost akin to heartbreak. I was so ashamed and upset, I think I cried myself to sleep.
Well, the point of this post is to ask the members of this website for Safe Dating tips, so as not to have a repeat of this particular occurence. I'm wondering how to best safeguard my feelings, since I didn't do as good a job as I had thought.
Meh, thanks guys for reading this. 
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| Nov 3, 2006 @ 3:22 PM |
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zendivamom
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YIKES...I'm sorry that happened to you, Guitar man. I didn't think people actually did shit like that in real life. I thought that was saved for bad reality television. Sounds to me like you need to do whatever you need to do to put Slutty Cop out of your head and find yourself a nice Angel or Kitty Kat. LOL!
There is NO way to protect yourself from idiots like slutty cop girl...just don't let her indiscrection become your own personal ass-kicking. She obviously has self-esteem issues. Don't for one second feel bad about yourself because of what she did...consider yourself lucky that her true colors were shown to you before your heart REALLY got ripped in two. Consider it a learning experience that you'll never have to deal with again, hopefully.
Just be on the lookout for someone you feel comfortable and know where you stand with. Slutty cop girl was OBVIOUSLY not into being exclusive...so, take this time to find out what you really want in a sweetheart/future mate.
If you want...I could gather a gang of surly disgruntled PTA mom's and we'll kick her ass for you?
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| Nov 3, 2006 @ 7:07 PM |
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ceemored
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Now that really bugs me, how the hell do people treat someone like that??!! 
I'm sorry you had such a hurtful experience, Sol .... wish I had some wise words for you hon, but most I'd like to say is go with your gut feelings, usually they keep you safe. And please, be good to yourself.
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| Nov 3, 2006 @ 7:56 PM |
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Well, the point of this post is to ask the members of this website for Safe Dating tips, so as not to have a repeat of this particular occurence. I'm wondering how to best safeguard my feelings, since I didn't do as good a job as I had thought.
I'm not sure I'd go to a party where I only know 2 people. Especially if I knew one of them and kinda barely knew the second. But then again, I'm somewhat introverted anyhow (but since you're a "solitary" guitar, perhaps you are as well).
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| Nov 4, 2006 @ 12:28 PM |
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Oh brother, I feel for you. I had the unfortunate pleasure of having my would be "date" feel like she wanted to just hang with the other guys at this one bar we had gone to. I was upset and left. Things between us were never the same. But you know, looking back. It would have never worked out. She and I are too different. Same goes for you and your situation. That girl is unlike you. She's just playing the field, while you want something meaningful. Maybe. Just my opinion. Oh, and one more thing....SSSSLLLLAAAAAAAAAAAYYYEEEERRRR!!!!!!!...lol
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| Nov 5, 2006 @ 12:53 AM |
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Solitaryguitar
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I guess.
Thank you guys for taking the time to read and respond to this. I really don't know what I was trying to accomplish by sharing it.
Meh. Back to music for me for awhile.
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| Nov 8, 2006 @ 7:09 AM |
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Dont commit your feelings to one person so soon. If you cant help yourself, I would be careful of "sexy" and go for understated cute instead. If you cant resist the sexy type then make sure you take her to a place where you come off as "the man."
Better a dive where you are king than a hot spot where you are ignored when with a girl that wants attention.
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| Nov 8, 2006 @ 10:52 PM |
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wow man,i feel your pain..that really sucks..fortunately,you learned Now,instead of Later,when your feelings would have been hurt even worse..
dont ask me how i know:(
Dont ever give up Hope,it is the glue of our hearts,its what seals the cracks in our hearts..(kinda corny,but hey,just my .02)
anyways,keep on trucking,sooner or later you will find someone whos not only right for you,but deserves you as well
g/l and best wishes to you..
Stay Strong!
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| Nov 9, 2006 @ 12:18 PM |
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null_geodesic
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Everrett, excellent advice.
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| Nov 9, 2006 @ 2:00 PM |
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emperorguy
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Oy. Gotta get laid, get over it.
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| Nov 9, 2006 @ 5:45 PM |
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null_geodesic
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Emp, excellent advice.
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 9:53 PM |
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Solitaryguitar
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Meh, getting Laid is overrated.
And I'm usually don't attract sexy types. I'm usually after the girls who are watching Horror Flicks, Listening to Slayer, playing Magic: The Gathering or working on some piece of Sculpture. Very very very VERY rarely do the Ridiculously sexy women ever hunt for me.
But whatever, I know what sort of Spirit I carry with me. I shouldn't let that one bad experience sour my Compassion and Curiosity when it comes to the opposite gender or when it comes to my own person.
Time to let this thread die me thinks 
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 10:10 PM |
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null_geodesic
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Meh, getting Laid is overrated.
If you stop with the Eeyore impression, you might find yourself luckier with the women.
Time to let this thread die me thinks
Never!!! Muh Ha ha ha ha ha!!!!
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 10:50 PM |
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We are in the same class, Astronomy of the Stars and Planets
as opposed to astronomy of the Galactic Overlord?
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 11:09 PM |
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null_geodesic
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Long Live Xenu!!!
Long Live the Thetans!!!
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| Nov 11, 2006 @ 11:37 AM |
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Sounds like she was just a tease and the type to think that the world revolves around her cuz she's cute. I think women like this give us other women a bad name, but that's saved for another post.
In any case, move on, dude. You can't protect yourself against everyone and there will always be that one person that catches you off-guard. You don't want to become so guarded that eventually you can't share your feelings and you don't want bubble-heads like this to change you and dictate how to live your life.
Just move on and shrug it off. It happens to the best of us!
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| Nov 20, 2006 @ 4:47 PM |
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Hey...I'd like to think that us freaky weirdo chic's can be viewed as ridiculously sexy, too. I'm pretty dang hot...from a considerable distance. It just depends on what color my hair is and how terribly I'm retaining water that day.
Guitar man...it's not all about getting laid. Trust me...I'm coming from a good 10 years of dating experience here. LOL! You just hang in there and your perfect "Lucritia" will find you! Thing is...freaky weirdo emo gals are too busy being creative, saving the environment (or raising our kids, in my case) or a local alternative book store to bother with all that other crap considered feminine.
Personally, I've more important things to do that learn to walk in Stilleto Heels. Besides...my feet are too big. I'm sure "Solaris's" feet prefer her black and white skull covered Chuck Taylor's. (those are Converse for anyone that doesn't understand.) I know mine do!
What was my point again? Oh, yeah...this thread isn't ready to die yet. 
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| Nov 20, 2006 @ 4:58 PM |
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What the heck is wrong with Eeyore, anyway, Null? He's a very lovable character...despite the depression. Nothing a little therapy couldn't help. Who else do you know who has a detachable tail with a big pink bow?
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| Nov 20, 2006 @ 9:34 PM |
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LOL! Nothing's wrong with Eeyore. I like him. It's just that women tend not to like Eeyore like homo sapiens. Donkeys? Yes. Boyfriend material? No. 
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| Nov 21, 2006 @ 6:57 AM |
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Solitaryguitar
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So lets say I cut my hair.
Yeah.
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