| Nov 30, 2006 @ 2:25 AM |
What do you think when a person writes in their profile "I only will reply to a
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Recall848
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person with a picture posted"?
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| Nov 30, 2006 @ 12:36 PM |
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emperorguy
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I had a similar thread to this-- basically, I feel the same-- you can't be bothered to put up a pic, I won't waste time on your profile
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 6:11 PM |
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Brwneydgrl35
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I'll offer my two cents, for me if you dont a pic posted your either, afraid to let others see what you look like, have a wife or sig other and are on the prowl, or just not seriously looking to meet anyone for any reason.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 6:47 PM |
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Shebra
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Understandable. Kind've like a 'blind date' otherwise. I don't have a pic up yet because I don't have one I want anyone else to see. I want to put my best foot forward when I do. 
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 10:06 PM |
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cardamom
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I think that if that's what they want then that's what they should get.
I have several perfectly fine photos, but when I set up my profile the upload did not work, so I just let it go. Now I kind of like it.
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| Dec 12, 2006 @ 12:11 AM |
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null_geodesic
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Meh.
I had a similar thread to this-- basically, I feel the same-- you can't be bothered to put up a pic, I won't waste time on your profile.
Couldn't have said it better myself, so I'll re-use his words.
I'm not looking for dates anymore, but when I did, and if I ever do in the future, pictureless ads won't even be read, let alone considered.
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| Dec 12, 2006 @ 1:40 AM |
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SunBabe
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Then again, some of us don't have profiles that qualify as "ads" 
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| Dec 12, 2006 @ 8:18 AM |
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null_geodesic
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SunBabe... what happened???
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| Dec 12, 2006 @ 9:05 PM |
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eastham
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While I would not send an unsolicited email to someone without a picture, I do always send a thank you email to everyone who has sent me a wink or an email, and many of them follow-up with pictures.
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| Dec 12, 2006 @ 9:40 PM |
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DiamondRain
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If I were here to find women to date, I would care about their appearance. Appearance is an important factor for me in knowing whether or not I find a woman attractive.
Without a pic, I don't know what a woman looks like, and therefore cannot determine if I am attracted to her appearance.
There are so many profiles that DO have pics, and my time is not unlimited. It would make no sense for me to waste time with women who don't have pics, possibly later to find out that she is not physically attractive to me, when there are so many that do have pics that I can explore.
Another problem with profiles with no pics is that it can put you in a very awkward position. If you begin to correspond with someone with no pic, and later they provide their pic, and you find you are not physically attracted to them, you are faced with the dilemma of having to gracefully say goodbye without hurting their feelings. I hate being in that situation. It will be obvious that you found her picture unattractive and I don't want to tell any woman that I find her unattractive. ......Remember if you are here to find someone TO DATE and not just A FREIND, you may not want to waste time with someone (as nice as they may be) who you know is not a suitable candidate for dating. The person might make a nice friend, but you are not here to find friends.
Finally, if someone does not have a pic, it says to me that they are either hiding something or they are not comfortable with their own looks. Either one of those things is unattractive to me. (yes I know some people claim they are concerned about privacy so that's why they don't post their pics ... OK, maybe in some cases ... but unless they are employed by the CIA, then people who say that are probably too paranoid for me anyway.)
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| Dec 14, 2006 @ 9:18 AM |
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0oGirlie_Girlo0
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Finally, if someone does not have a pic, it says to me that they are either hiding something or they are not comfortable with their own looks. Either one of those things is unattractive to me. (yes I know some people claim they are concerned about privacy so that's why they don't post their pics ... OK, maybe in some cases ... but unless they are employed by the CIA, then people who say that are probably too paranoid for me anyway.)
What he said.
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| Dec 25, 2006 @ 12:50 AM |
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momma24
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LOL!!! I had a pic posted, and I got a bunch of mail from people from other countries who wanted to marry me so they could get over here. My mail box was flooded everytime I logged on. I got one woman who was obsessed with my chest size, and wouldn't leave me alone. I took my picture down not because I am ashamed or am hiding something, but because I want someone to like me for who I am, not what I look like. If you take the time to get to know me, yes, I will share my picture as it is only right. I will not however share a picture of my son. That simply will not happen. 
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| Dec 25, 2006 @ 7:56 PM |
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DiamondRain
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Just exactly how big IS your chest size?
(It's a joke)
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| Dec 26, 2006 @ 12:34 AM |
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null_geodesic
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But yet your profile says:
IF YOU DON'T HAVE A PICTURE, I WILL NOT RESPOND TO YOU. THAT SIMPLE. I WANT TO KNOW WHO I AM TALKING TO...ROFL.
Do you really expect a pic from someone when you yourself don't have one? Or is this sentence "old' and in need of updating?
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| Dec 26, 2006 @ 2:02 AM |
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momma24
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Well, it is old...but it does not say you must have that picture posted. It just says you need to have one. If I send an email to someone, I (now) make it clear that I do have pictures if things get to that (I do that in the first email so they know I have them).
I forgot to mention, that since I have taken my pics off my profile, I don't get mail anymore. If I get a reply in a post forum, it is usually a good note, and almost always by men older than myself (one who is 40) ...(single fathers mostly). Seems no male my age is looking for an outspoken mommy type...they just saw the picture. Speaks volumes, I tell ya. 
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| Dec 26, 2006 @ 2:22 AM |
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null_geodesic
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Every time I speak colloquially, I seem to get in trouble. :)
I figured as much, but wasn't sure if anybody but anal-me would split that particular hair. :) Having pics/not having pics is such a talked about issue here that I assumed "not having a pic" meant not having one as your avatar. But yeah, you're right, of course. It literally means exactly what you just said.
Be careful of making conclusions -- correlation is not the same thing as causality.
For one, pics make you stand out in a sea on anonymous faces. Half the battle on a large-ish site like MD is "air time" -- how much people take notice of you. A pic is a great way to stand out in the crowd.
Secondly, many people wouldn't give a avatarless person a second thought for a whole number of reasons. I wouldn't. I generally don't trust faceless people.
Just because your mail went way down doesn't necessarily speak volumes for the people here. You may have seen a correlation, but completely missed the mark on the causality.
What you might have just discovered is that many people, like me, don't trust someone they can't see.
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| Dec 26, 2006 @ 9:54 AM |
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DiamondRain
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To put it simply, everyone cares about looks. There will probably be an "I don't" or two in response to this statement, but I think everyone really does.
I have a theory as to why some people SAY they don't care about looks, but it is too brutally honest and will probably hurt some people's feelings, and therefore I can't post it. I don't post stuff like that anymore. I've become kinder and gentler in my old age.
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| Dec 26, 2006 @ 11:40 PM |
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momma24
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Momma24, I just had a checkup at a new doctor last week. You have a striking resemblance to her. She was hot. **Edited for personal privacy**
Null!
Null...you have seen my picture!!
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| Dec 27, 2006 @ 12:14 AM |
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null_geodesic
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Yeah, I knew. I never forget a pretty face. 
I was actually trying to find that thread when I sent you that email about 20 minutes ago. Couldn't remember which thread that was in, though.
And for the record, I have come to the conclusion that it sucks to be attracted to your doctor. 
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| Dec 27, 2006 @ 12:23 AM |
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momma24
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It was in the parents thread. If you were here...I'd help you out with that exam you never needed to have finished. 
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