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chicagohowell23
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Has anyone found that this site yields more friends than actual dates?? I'm at that point, and if i become any more specific in my profile, i'm going to off my self or send some people "hooked on phonics" and reading comprehension tests  . I'm getting more friends than dates, and i'm so sick of this whiny love soul mate bull-Shiite  that i am going to create another site called practicaldating.com. Hoy anyways enough bitching just curious??
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| Nov 25, 2008 @ 7:47 AM |
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null_geodesic
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Well, you've pretty much described MD to a T. That is the both the value, and curse, of this site.
On the other hand, your profile DOES say you are looking for "friends," which implies you're not looking for dates (otherwise, you'd be looking for "dating",) so I'm not sure what you'd expect differently...
On the topic of profile... I don't mean to be a jerk, but this kind of hits close to home:
NO atheist or agnostics, those people have no sense of themselves or the world.
I happen to be an atheist. You're certainly entitled to think that I have no sense of myself or the world (whatever that means) but in your profile, you also state:
i care about is that he is not racist or judgmental in anyway.
sic, of course (you mean "any way".) Perhaps all the men who are here for dating are actually looking for women who are not racist or judgmental in any way, e.g. ones who don't automatically assume that I have no sense of myself or the world (whatever that means.)
As I said, I don't mean to be a jerk, but I happen to be a consciously decided atheist. I've put a lot of contemplation and *ahem* "soul searching" into my decision. It's not a statement I make lightly, and my views on atheism and deism have been evolving for longer than you've been alive. And even though I don't understand what you mean by "no sense of myself or the world," I do recognize you're judging me, and it is not a favorable judgment.
Anyway. I think I'm going back to bed for half an hour. It's a beautiful rainy morning. I should be cuddling and snuggling instead of on MD... Stupid me.
Signed,
One of "those" people
ps- I love the way you put that: "those people". What would your future husband say if your future daughter came home with one of "those people". LOL!!!
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| Nov 25, 2008 @ 11:13 AM |
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chicagohowell23
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aww silly friends was changed from my original profile, in fact i've added and changed my profile. I'm done with regular dating and now would prefer friends that also are "beneficial" and not the drooling soul searching love sick wanker that tends to be on here.
SO i'm glad that you can try and pick apart my own profile based on that fact that i believe atheist don't have a sense of their soul or themselves, and your not the only atheist out there. That comment was based off people more agnostic than atheist, but claim to be atheist. And to claim we don't judge is a lie. It's what makes part of our decisions and those we chose to interact with.
Reading your own profile and some of your comments elsewhere tells me your a little angry with woman, but what ever your issue is, it wasn't my question on the thread was it?
ps. Future husband?? oh no no no never in my lifetime my little pagan ass will wait for the next life for that mistake.
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| Nov 25, 2008 @ 4:46 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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Was this ever a dating site might be a better question, if aimed at me. My answer would be no, but if the person lives near I am sure that hanging out and making friends is doable.
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| Nov 26, 2008 @ 10:20 AM |
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Cynbaby
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Friends/chat site for me
but from what I have seen I don't think much of anyone on here is dating 
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| Nov 26, 2008 @ 10:38 AM |
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| Nov 26, 2008 @ 6:31 PM |
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null_geodesic
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That's the great thing about MD. Threads really do take on a life of their own.
Naww. Wasn't trying to pick apart your profile. As I said, I wasn't trying to be a jerk. I was just wondering who you are so I took a gander at your profile and saw that you think atheists and agnostics have no sense of self or the world. Try to understand how you'd feel if you saw someone saying that "pagans are soulless heathens." You wouldn't feel any kind of "Hey, who the hell is that guy to make that claim about me?" You wouldn't feel even a TINY bit like that?
Sure we judge, but *what* we judge, and *how* we judge is a very relevant difference.
I'm a pretty liberal dude, and I try my hardest not to judge strangers at all. Even solitary worshipers.  (joke) I admit that sometimes ugly prejudice bubbles up. For example, when I see a woman walking around in a burka or tall black dude wearing all white garb, a head covering, and combat boots. But I recognize it for what it is and try to suppress it. I would be glad to discuss my failings with a friend in a private conversation, but I'd never advertise it because even though those thoughts sometimes exist, I don't want anyone to feel marginalized by them.
But getting back to the matter at hand, there are many reasons for agnosticism. Perhaps the person feels there are bigger and better things to worry about in this world than trying to fathom something that will probably never be known. Maybe it's simply not that important of an issue. Maybe they truly ponder the question and simply haven't come up with an answer. Is that akin to having no sense of self? Samuel Clemens and Ralph Waldo Emerson both have agnostic writings. Certainly they had a sense of self a mile high. Buddhism is rather indifferent to the notion of a God, which takes a definitive backseat to the all-important belief in self-contemplation. In fact, Gautama himself wrote that a belief in God leads one to inaction and lack of effort.
We're all entitled to associate with anyone we want to, but it's one thing if I wrote "Please no Muslims" and another if I wrote "Please no Muslims because I'd always have a nagging question about whether you're a sleeper agent for Bin Laden".
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| Nov 26, 2008 @ 7:15 PM |
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chicagohowell23
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It also depends on what you believe what a god is?? But i understand exactly what you are saying. I just prefer those who believe in a soul and reincarnation or accepts it. I think everyman i ever dated was athiest, and honestly just hard to agree on many points.
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| Nov 26, 2008 @ 7:28 PM |
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jentoblues101
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I gotta add my two cents here. I feel I know Null pretty well, having had long philosophical phone conversations with him (for years), and I gotta say:
1) He certainly has a very strong sense of self, is incredibly intelligent, non-judgmental and is a deep thinker.
2) This man really likes women; he's not angry, and knows how to be a friend without being sexual.
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| Nov 26, 2008 @ 8:20 PM |
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Cynbaby
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I'm frightened Null just ended his last post at "666" 
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| Nov 26, 2008 @ 10:11 PM |
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chicagohowell23
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you can be angry at a certain type of woman btw. But anyway omg ur right that is scary, if u believe in that lol
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| Nov 26, 2008 @ 10:30 PM |
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Cynbaby
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I'm actually NOT superstitious at all....I just pick up on stupid number things like that......ok, I should be out celebrating tonight, its the night before Thanksgiving......later 
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| Nov 27, 2008 @ 9:11 AM |
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null_geodesic
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Thanks for the kind words, Jen. We may not have ever gone on a "date," but I think in our case, MatchDoctor fulfilled its stated goal. *hug*
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