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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 2:45 PM |
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theophilus037
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Just want some opinions, I've seen several guys on here (im sure some girls might have the same thing) that are religous and have choose to put basically that non virgins need not apply...something to the extent of "I am seeking a virgin , to me this is important , unless you have been forced. I have saved myself for the right woman , and if she hasnt saved herself for me than my wait becomes meaningless." I respect anyones desicion to remain a virgin till marriage and them seeking a girl/guy with the same ideals toward it. But what are your opinions on it?
Personally I've met alot of people that didn't become a christian till after highschool or whenever they choose to have sex. Some people just don't grow up in a church inspired enviorment and never find God untill later in life...And some of these people turn out to be some of the strongest led christians I know. Shouldn't a person love another despite what happened in there past? Its not just the internet where I have found guys like this, I am currently a resident of a bible belt town with 3 private christian colleges. It seems that it is impossible to find a good christian guy because so many are closeminded. Any thoughts?
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 6:49 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Sure, I have thoughts on this, and most everything else.
I think that if a guy(or girl) is demanding a virgin, then they should be one as well. I've seen too many guys that want to marry a virgin bride, but think it's just fine if THEY have screwed anything breathing before hand. If a guy(or girl) wants to screw, fine, but don't expect your partner not to.
As for the sex in high school stuff, everyone has a past. If your potential partner can't deal with it now, you really don't want to have a relationship with them, because everytime you argue, it's going to be thrown in your face. Sooner or later you will get tired of hearing about "what a slut you were" and it'll be over. So, my thought is that you need to find a man who wants you for yourself, the way you are now, AND that understands you have a past and is comfortable with it.
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 7:01 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I was with a guy who just couldn't stand the fact that I was rather "loose" in the past, which is the total and complete opposite of what I am now. He would tell me that I was a whore and that it bothered him...even though it had nothing to do with him and it all occurred before I even knew he existed.
I had to break it off with him because it just got so old.
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| Jan 21, 2007 @ 11:52 PM |
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willsmalto
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"I am seeking a virgin
in the states? I'm afraid your in the wrong place lol...catch the next flight to china right away...there's a whole lot of'em here 
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| Jan 22, 2007 @ 10:11 AM |
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tatiana329
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What makes you think someone will be a virgin just because they are a christain?
oh your going to have some problems with that mindset !!!!! and maybe some BIG surprises too !!!!
Lets give an example, lets say you are raped. Will that make you less of a christian ? will that make you not able to marry a good man?
There is too much judgement in religion and not enough relationship.
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| Jan 22, 2007 @ 2:25 PM |
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theophilus037
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What makes you think someone will be a virgin just because they are a christain?
I could be reading this wrong but I don't think what I ask is quite understood...I honestly don't care if a person I date is a virgin or not. And whether a person is or isn't a virgin, whether it is right or wrong, or makes them less of a christian ect. was not my topic and is not my judgement call anyway nor is it anyone elses....
Notice I used quotations in what i said in the main post....and I specifically said it came from several guys profiles that I saw on here...Its not my statement I was only wondering what other people thought about it....not making a personal judgement or implying that i was a virgin/wanting a virgin, ect.
In the second paragraph I was merely expressing exactly what you said in my own words...There is too much judgement in religion and not enough relationship. Sorry if you misread...
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| Jan 22, 2007 @ 2:34 PM |
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tatiana329
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theophil, my point is this.... if someone feels you are more of a christain because someone is a virgin... pass on them.
In post 1 you ask questions and I agree with you 100% !!!
Most very religious people are very close minded and judgemental !
Why do you doubt yourself in how you feel... about them ?
You do not have to pick someone from that group !!!! Just have faith there is someone out there for you... who is a perfect match and fit for you... you just have not met them yet !
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| Jan 22, 2007 @ 2:44 PM |
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GibsonGirl93
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I think that it's great that they know exactly what they want. Abstinence is a choice that someone makes. However, I don't think they should judge anyone because of it. And - who knows - they may even miss out on the love of their lives on because of it!!!! Just because a woman has had sex, doesn't make her a tramp........
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| Jan 22, 2007 @ 2:53 PM |
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theophilus037
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Thanks everyone for commenting!
And tat, I just wanted to clarify, I hope I wasn't offensive or anything...I just didn't want you or anyone else thinking that what I posted what my opinion because I do think its judgmental and ignorant, ect.
I know that I don't need to pick a person like that (christian at all/christian with those beliefs; yes i know not all christians think that way it just seems most do)
Topic came up between my mother and I...you know how they can be...and she wants and has always wanted me to pick a good christian guy...because thats how i was raised and it matches her beliefs of what I should have. I'm not a big christian were I go to church all the time, follow the ideal christian lifestyle ect. But I thought about what she said and attempted to meet some guys and they are all so closeminded (atleast in the town I am in now)...its was just a bit flustrating...so i wanted to know what everyone thought about it.
I agree with everything that everyong said, thanks for sharing!
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| Jan 23, 2007 @ 2:38 PM |
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tatiana329
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I took no offense, I'm not a hot head.
Just stay on your path, you will be ok... and grow to understand these things in time. I didnt know much about this either at your age.
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| Oct 3, 2007 @ 4:41 AM |
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TEA8
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What if a person dosen't feel the need to have sex, should others pass on them cause they feel that sex is just that important?
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| Oct 3, 2007 @ 5:18 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Tea, I think it would be impossible to have a relationship where one person wants sex and the other doesn't. It just wouldn't be compatible. You need to agree on this point, either both of you agree to no sex for whatever reason, or you both agree to be intimate. Of course sex doesn't have to be intercourse, it could be oral or anal, if for some reason you aren't able to have vaginal intercourse. But again, it's something that both you and your partner have to agree on if the relationship is going to continue.
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| Oct 3, 2007 @ 9:13 PM |
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spongebob777
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I've taken the training wheels off a couple but it's a lot easier when you can just hop on and pedal away.
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