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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 12:07 PM |
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zoomzoom511
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And her ass is... well... just not your style.
Do you...
A. Say "let's just have a quick drink... I've got to get to an appointment".
B. Say... "Hey... I know you were here early, but your ass is still arriving"
C. Say... "wow... real life adds 20lbs to you"
D. Say... "listen... I'm going to be honest. I'm just not into you. Your ass is a bit more than I can get excited about".
E. You shut up, smile, and enjoy the company... eat. pay the bill... then make a graceful and permanent exit.
F. Say... "it's not you, it's me."
G. OTHER
I'm in such a quandry. Suggestions or comments
(Oh, ok. They can even be about my shallow nature)
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 12:14 PM |
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Mischief484
Posts: 679
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I dunno, man... My goal is to always get laid on the first date.
If she's that far off the chart, she might be grateful for the attention and lemme at it.
So, I'll take G, Regis. Final answer.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 12:25 PM |
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Marney335
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Treat her as a fellow human being first......then you can inquire as to the difference in her appearance from her picture. Not everyone sees themselves as others do. They see beyond the physical aspect of a person into their hearts....souls.....proceed with respect.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 12:26 PM |
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Marney335
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interesting response...........judging on pictures.........yours in particular.......
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 12:32 PM |
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sciurusniger
Posts: 2,958
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Agree with Marney. A little respect goes a long way. If it possible to discuss online dating photos in such a way as to discover why the difference between her photo and reality, go for it. There might be a plausible explanation.
On the other hand, if the chemistry just isn't there, she'll likely know it too, so when it is time to leave simply and sincerely thank her for making the effort and taking the time to meet you, then say that while you don't feel the kind of chemistry you'd hoped might be there, you really hope she finds what she's looking for.
If she's oblivious, it might sting, but if you're kind and honest you won't find your lack of virtues posted all over the forums. 
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 12:33 PM |
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Mischief484
Posts: 679
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You liked it, huh?
interesting response...........judging on pictures.........yours in particular......
I used to have a topless one, but I had to remove it. Even the matchdoctor was hittin' on me.
[Edited on 12/30/2005 12:34 PM]
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 1:16 PM |
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Snappygoddess
Posts: 5,094
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My first experience meeting someone from online a few years back was just about as bad. I had seen him on cam.. pictures.. but never standing. He told me he was 6' tall, 180 lbs... sounds ok.
We met in a public place.. he drove to Georgia from Pa.... on his way to Florida.... I looked all over for 10 mins.. and then realized he was standing off to the side all the time...... he was no more then 5'4", prob around 225 lbs... ( I am 5'1") I walked over to him and we hugged... and I said..."How tall did you say you were".. he said 6'.. and I just looked at him and said.. there is no way you are 6'... he still insisted he was... so I said.. I am neither stupid or blind and I do not appreciate being lied to.. but since it was very late and he had driven a good distance(and I had known him for 4 months) I offered my sofa in my house(my teenagers were home)
My point is..... yes.. he misrepresented himself...but it was just not in me to be cruel and tell him to go away or go to a hotel in a strange town. I did tell him I would not see him again, and the lie about his appearance may not be a big thing to him.. but if he would lie about something so obvious, he would like about other things and I could never trust him.
You can get your point across to someone without being cruel.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 1:51 PM |
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Mischief484
Posts: 679
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If she's oblivious, it might sting, but if you're kind and honest you won't find your lack of virtues posted all over the forums.
I beg your pardon, woman! I have plenty of virtues.
Chastity just ain't one of'em!
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 2:07 PM |
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someone_me
Posts: 506
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Okay, so what's up with being nice to this person? It's obvious they deliberately lied to you, or are sincerely delusional about themselves, both of which are not acceptable in my book. It's not worth your time to waste it on someone like this. Be direct and honest...
"I'm sorry, but I've got way too many women to meet than to waste my time on someone who sets out to deceive me."
Did they consider your feelings when lying to you? I don't think so.
This is another reason to always invite someone to come along and join you with something you'd already be doing anyways. This way, if they pull something like this, you can still proceed with your plans and have a good time. I'd say dump the traditional date scenario. 
[Edited on 12/30/2005 2:09 PM]
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 2:10 PM |
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Snappygoddess
Posts: 5,094
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Touche, someone
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 2:41 PM |
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chinabull2000
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Well, if they are MASSIVELY different to the way they portayed themselves then they really have no right for your politeness, and I would tell them so to their face. After all, relationships are based on honesty, and it's a terrible waste of time and effort to lie to someone about your appearance, so I'd be honest and get shot of them.
However, people can look very different in person than they do in photos or on cam, and if I am simply not attracted to them, then I'll try and divert the "date" towards just a couple of mates out having a drink and a chat. In fact, I have done this twice over the past few months, and one of the ladies in question has become one of my closest friends.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 2:55 PM |
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Pete73052
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E. and then chalk it up to experience. Anything else would be ungentlemanly. Just because she's a liar doesn't mean you have to be an asshole. Buy her dinner - avoid the expensive wine - and move on.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 3:41 PM |
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sciurusniger
Posts: 2,958
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I beg your pardon, woman! I have plenty of virtues.
[gets out magnifying glass, peers intently]
Hmmmm, humbleness ain't one of 'em. I wasn't even talking to you.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 5:27 PM |
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Mischief484
Posts: 679
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Hmmmm, humbleness ain't one of 'em. I wasn't even talking to you.
Oops.
Is humility a virtue, too? [googles]
Seems that it is... Ok.
Can we talk about vices? Those, I can keep up with. I'm all about that balance thing I read about in Zen and the Art of __________ .
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 8:26 PM |
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swingpup
Posts: 4,105
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E all the way. Her ass may not be the style of ass that I'm interested in but she could be interesting as well as a very stimulating conversationalist. In any event a relaxing enjoyable glass of ice tea and a friendly hand shake would be the night cap of that evening.
If there is no sexual attraction what so ever, there won't be a "relationship" or a second round....hell, not even a first. 
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 9:31 PM |
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Always_Striving
Posts: 8,794
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I was going to create a thread called "The Imposter" but no need for it now because I can put my thoughts here.
The Blind Date Syndrome.
I was wondering how men and women feel or deal with a person that they finally decide to meet from online corespondence or snail mail (maybe to a foreign country), discovering the person they imagined to be waaaaaaay off base in looks, personality and financial status and behaviour. In the earlier stages of trying to date online I found many liars. Some do actually represent themselves truthfully though. I suppose in home web-camming sessions would be a good start to give you more of an accurate picture of that person in their natural habitat.
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 9:59 PM |
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beachnutRU
Posts: 3,228
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Snappy I am curious....after you got the fella off your couch the next day ....have you heard from him since or has he made an attempt to get in touch with you?
I say take the high road shades of Scott Peck .........the road less travelled.
Still the humor is there don't ask the hostess for a table for two with three chairs.........that's just wrong......  .
These forums are entertaining though.
Bnut
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 11:00 PM |
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Silvertongue62
Posts: 6,932
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G - Other
which are you concerned with quality or quantity?
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| Dec 30, 2005 @ 11:20 PM |
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DragonsDream
Posts: 220
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Would love to give some input, but still sitting here stupified  trying to figure out why in the world someone would be so stupid as to lie and decieve about their appearance...when they have to know that the other is going to notice those lies... 
I say...tread lightly, because they seem to have seriouse issues..
Although I say respect is a two way street...she should have shown the same truthfulness, then it would not be an issue. We grow up and/or teach our young ones that lying is wrong and punishable, so why should it be so different in this scenario?
Oopsie, guess I did have something to say on it after all.... 
[Edited on 12/30/2005 11:21 PM]
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| Dec 31, 2005 @ 7:34 AM |
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soulless_spirit
Posts: 444
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E. You be politly honest, smile, and enjoy the company... eat. pay the bill... then make a graceful and permanent exit.
Because nothing can happen as long as you honest and up front ... and hey nothing can happen but maybe a good friend in the long run ... simple ... never go in with high hopes or expectation that way your not dissapointed ...
Thats why i clearly state to any and all my situation that a photo wont reveal ... no one can cry foul then
soulless
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