| Aug 31, 2006 @ 10:22 AM |
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crazyuncle1975
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people are judgmental no budy is t perfect they have to understand that
eveyone is looking mr or miss perfect good luck no one is perfect
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| Aug 31, 2006 @ 1:00 PM |
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charzie82
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don't know that people are looking for "perfect", but "right for me" or something. plus, online, you never know if someone is really what they say they are, so it can make people a bit gun-shy.
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| Sep 3, 2006 @ 12:27 AM |
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gringer24
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theres good people here just got to find em
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| Sep 6, 2006 @ 6:24 PM |
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jaelibutterfly
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Yeah ti is hard - we all are judgemental and we don't relaize it. But too many people look at the body (size) mostly and think ohh tooo fat or too skinny. As if size (not in my case anyway) has anything to do with love or how you love....
Jae
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| Sep 6, 2006 @ 10:49 PM |
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28Male
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It may seem shallow or rude but the truth is people are looking fior the perfect person and it is that individuals choice to do so.
For me I would like to find a single female who is loyal, kind and caring but I would be lying to myself if I didn't say that looks didn't matter.... I work two jobs yet still find 2 hrs a day to go to the gym and work out and I am looking for a female who heads to the gym and takes care of her bodie as well....
It is rude and unkind to just dismiss a friend if they are over weight and short or tall I agree with that, but I think deep down we all know what we are looking for in an ideal soulmate and like I said it is shallow and rude but one main thing is looks along with the loyal, honest hardworking parts....
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| Sep 9, 2006 @ 8:30 PM |
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jaelibutterfly
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Looks DO matter - like having TEETH - clean ones at that and NOT being smelly - but size ought to not! I mean yeah I don't wanna date a guy that is like 1000 pounds or someone smaller than a stick who is totally unhealthy. I know I am a big girl - and there IS beauty in that!
Jae
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| Sep 10, 2006 @ 7:14 AM |
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smarm
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it is funny you say teeth and smell should matter weight shouldn't.. they all fit in the same category...
Weight should matter but not to the opposite sex to the individual.. I would think if they do not have any health problems or issues one would want to be in tip top shape go to the gym after work, work out watch what they eat.. I am sympathitic to those who have health issues or problems which causes them to gain lots of weight, but to those who say weight shouldn't matter that they are a bit heavy and are healthy they should watch what they eat and join a gym.
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| Sep 10, 2006 @ 6:59 PM |
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KimOriginal
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I find it very strange that someone can talk about how important it is for a person to be in tip top shape...but does not post their own picture.
Sorry but first thing that comes to me mind is you dont want your picture to be seen.
I could be wrong, but if you are in such good shape, post a picture......a shirt is optional 
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| Sep 10, 2006 @ 7:23 PM |
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lindistar2000
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hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm 28 male...I don't think you are so perfect...what the heck is fior and bodie....I think you need to read your typed words before hitting the enter key...I guess you aren't so perfect after all are you????????????? So you can see we can be judgemental of you just by what you type...doesn't feel so good does it?
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| Sep 10, 2006 @ 8:01 PM |
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jaelibutterfly
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Watching what one eats and going to the gym does NOT solve everything as though it appears that way to you....And yeah so perfect one - where is YOUR pic 
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| Sep 10, 2006 @ 8:46 PM |
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smarm
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You are judging 28male and myself, you are being judgemental, it is ok to disagree, but I feel attacked when it is unwarrented... If one complains about how one looks all I am saying is one should take it upon themselves to fix the problem if it is not a medical problem, I understand those can't be fixed.
As far as a pic goes, I find that on this site all people really do is read one's blog and look at a persons pic but yet never writes or winks at a person so whats the point.
I value everyones input I may disagree but I value it freedom of speech. I am just sick of people saying that why do people judge them when in fact if it bothers them and you can do something about it do it.... Life is to short to complain.
I do welcome input and it being good or bad, because you can always learn from another person's views right or wrong. But get of the picture part that isn't the topic here.
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 3:56 PM |
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lindistar2000
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smarm....we are not taking away your right to think however you want to think...what I am saying is that I bet even you have some sort of imperfection...if God made us all alike the world would be totally boring and it would take away yours and others like you the ablity find to find imperfections in others because we would be like you...I wonder if you don't have crossed eyes or maybe a big nose or something that you are afraid we will be able to critize and judge...we will never know...at least I took a chance and put my pic up...I want people to know that I am not insecure with myself and if you don't like what you see...well you are missing out on a lot...like my honesty, love for life and my deep caring of others and their feelings...and as for you not liking what you see when you look at my pictures, all i have to say is whatever lol....there are others that have sent me winks and and emails...I truely hope you find that perfect 10 you are so breathlessly waiting for...I do know cpr by the way lol.
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 4:26 PM |
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28Male
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Its funny to me that this room or blog is called judgemental and Smarm who has every right to voice his opinion is being attacked...
Lindistar2000 where did Smarm bring up your name or attack you? I don't even think he mentioned you but was just stating a fact that many see on the news and already know about that if one is insecure about themselfs they should do something about it.
It is funny to me that the title of this blog is why is everyone so judgmental when you all attack Smarm for no reason, so you don't agree with him the Republican dont agree with the Democrats have facts and reasons for your arguments but stop trashing the dude it is uncalled for.....
I have read his blogs and posts and he has not once singled out anyone so let him speak his mind like he wants you to do as well.......
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 7:07 PM |
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lindistar2000
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to 28 male ...I have the right to say what I want to say it wasn't a direct attack on him..he just got in the way and used him as a general for all guys like him...he may be a nice person just like you may be....so you go do your thing and I also hope you find what you are looking for too...my God bless you...only he can judge.
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| Sep 11, 2006 @ 11:33 PM |
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crissa575
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not on anyones side lol but i will tellya i dont have teeth and im 27(well i do but they can be taken out at random lol)i had cancer after having my kids and managed to lose my teeth and not my hair but during the process of having 3 major surgeries i was down for the past 2 years however now that im ok again i cant seem to get the weight off no matter what i do wether it be going to a gym starving my self or taking diet pills so i guess i just wont have luck here on this site cas i have 2 strikes but me personally i am happy to be alive and i am greatful everyday to be here and i know that i am a great person and do my best to make people smile:) 
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| Sep 14, 2006 @ 7:10 PM |
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ToCool
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I am so sorry you battled with cancer, I run every year for race for the cure to help fight that nasty diease......
I am not taking one side over another because I am not God and I cannot judge someone or someones who I do not know personally.
I do feel that maybe what Smarm and 28 male were saying was that if one is not happy with oneself maybe they should do something about it. I do not believe either were trying to pin point or trash another on this site because it seems that they were just trying to voice their opinion whether one agrees or not....
I believe that the females in the room took this as an insult and went after both 28male and smarm... Do they have the right to be angry, sure under the first amendement and one can not change how another feels..
I do ask that as grown ups, whether we agree or disagree lets not attack anyone, lets use some facts, some solid information and lets prove our points..
I think the problem with society as a whole is that we do not listen to one and other, and we take things to personally...... We need to put ourselfs in each other shoes, and then maybe we will get a better idea how each and everyone of us feels......
Thanks I wish everyone well
God Bless
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| Oct 11, 2006 @ 8:26 PM |
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MissDawna
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I don't think that anyone should be judged for their opinion. If size matters to people than so be it. Let's put it this way. I used to weigh 236lbs. I was not asked out much (when I was, it was by either toothless men, men who were overly heavy themselves or men old enough to be my father....in one case, my grandfather!!). I can COMPLETELY understand why a lot of men don't particularly want a heavy woman. Know why? Because, even though I was a heavy woman myself, I was not attracted to heavy men! I cannot be physically attracted to a heavyset man! So I decided that it was hypocritical of me to expect someone to want me in that state but I wasn't willing to want a man in that state. Beyond the fact that I want to live a long life, prevent heart disease and diabetes and feel good about myself, the fact that I was a hypocrite is one of the reasons why I lost the weight!!
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| Oct 15, 2006 @ 11:14 PM |
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Love2LaughAlot
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I dont care who you are everyone on this site is somewhat judgemental and to say your not you should reevaluate yourself. As for the men who talked about overweight ppl thank you for your honesty. I am myself overweight does it bother me not to a point i done something about it. I am completely happy with me and if a man doesnt find me attractive for what ever reason his lost on not getting to know me I dont date men who are shorter than me or real thin does that make me judgemental sure it does, but why waste his time and or mine if it isnt going to be there the sad part is that i probably miss out on alot of good friendships that way but that is totally my choice. Just like its a mans choice if he doesnt want to go out with me because i have extra pounds on or that i have red hair or blue eyes or that im taller than average. whatever the reason is we are all judgemental in some way. I have dated men that society would think was a 10 and i have dated men that were probably a 1 or a 2 the attraction is there if we can laugh and have a good time and have something in common and he doesnt kick my cat. Thanks guys for being honest its about time some ppl were. BTW i have belonged to a gym before and i do love it just havent had the time but i will go back for me not to get a man.
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| Oct 20, 2006 @ 12:43 AM |
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NewToOhio
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Well, just my random babbling opinion(take it for what its worth, very little) but it seems to me that the vast majority of human artistic accomplishment stems from our imperfections. I don't think we love others despite their imperfections so much as because of them.
for instance:
"Okay, sure she's gorgeous and a doctor, but without me she couldnt fold a map or leave the right tip."
I think we grasp onto certain people's imperfections and see a place we can fill.
As for the fat/thin nonsense. Everyone is attracted do different shapes/sizes. I prefer a nice tail. However there are guys out there chasing breasts, necks, legs, elbows, feet, knees, pink hair, nose rings, ear lobes, it goes on and on....
I think the big thing is how you feel about yourself. If your what docs call "overweight" and you feel good about your looks and your health isnt endangered then have at it. There is no reason to resent people who arent attracted to your shape, whatever it may be.
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| Oct 25, 2006 @ 12:09 AM |
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Love2LaughAlot
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NewToOhio--you know women who have tails?  j/k i agreed with what you said everyone has something they like or dislike about others. Is it being judgemental to say im not attracted to short ppl or is it being honest. I would think its being honest unless i replied me go out with you shorty now that is judgemental and rude.
BTW that was not to insult anyone that isnt tall that was just an example i could have easily said skinny fat tall short blue eyes smart dumb well you get the idea. lol
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