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caffie1
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Do you think for your age that you look good?  Do you think that the life you have led has made a difference on your appearance? If so why did you let the life you led take a toll on your looks?  You have a choice on how you look and what your appearance is....we all do.....so why would you attempt to look for a man/woman that is beyond your grasps?  I think that being a looker is the only way a man/woman will even give you a glance..  ..it all starts there...the LOOK factor...if you got it then your in there....the rest of you should compliment the LOOKS... 
For years men always seem to fall for the nice looking girls and it is now vice versa.....us girls want a man that LOOKS good on our arm and compliments us..
So do you think you have the LOOK factor? Now remember you will be judged by me and all the ladies/men.... 
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| Mar 2 @ 3:31 PM |
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TTommy
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I do not think I am ugly for my age, but there are certain characteristics about myself that I do not like. I know I am showing my age, but I could look worse. I know that work has taken a toll on my body, also stress has a lot to do with it.
I think it just depends on how shallow a person is. I know myself, there are certain physical attractions that I love,but if I love one physical feature enough but not the others I am willing to be flexable. No one is perfect. Also people need to look at inner beauty & character. I do believe that there has to be some physical attraction though. But on the same note you do not want to be with someone who you love to look at but can not stand to be around because of their abrasive personality. You have to be willing to find a happy medium to be blissfull when looking for a potential mate...Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.& it is all according to how deep you want to look.
Tom
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| Mar 2 @ 10:19 PM |
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Injuneer
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Frankly, those that rely on the "look factor" expose themselves as the shallow persons that they are. There are more than a few good looking, rottten people out here and most are looking for just what is good for them. Give me an honest, sincere, ugly person anytime!
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| Mar 3 @ 1:22 AM |
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caffie1
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In....sorry ole timer...i am far from shallow........ 
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| Mar 3 @ 1:23 AM |
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caffie1
Posts: 82
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TT you look fine....
IN....if thats what your seeking and by your pics...thats just what you end up with.....good luck....
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| Mar 3 @ 11:08 AM |
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TTommy
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Thanks for the compliment Caffie, but you know it is just that you are standing there one day looking & feeling a certain way & then the next thing you know 10 yrs. has passed & you realize that a lot has changed & you wonder what happened. Bottom line is I want someone who loves me for who I am inside as well as what they have to look at everyday. Thanks again, needed to hear that from someone. T
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| Mar 3 @ 11:12 AM |
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caffie1
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Tommy your so welcome...i do like the jam session pic....you should be able to attract a good girl.....your profile is sweet.... 
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| Mar 3 @ 11:46 AM |
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buckeye1963
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I was going to say something close to what Injuneer said, but now I don't have to. I would hope that people would have moved beyond a person's looks, and care more about what the person is like on the inside and how smart that person is. I would much rather be with an intelligent girl than somebody that has no idea what I am talking about or even cares to know. It doesn't really matter what she looks like. She could even be a little on the heavy side, but not too much.
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| Mar 3 @ 12:54 PM |
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caffie1
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my oh my....this is what i am referring to.....cmon..look at men your age.(or women)...and say ...hmmm how do i size up...does my face look warn? body out of shape? can i afford to change a few things to appeal to the eye of a lady/man ....these are the things that are important.....looks are a factor in the initial contact..if you dont attract someone with your appearance..your going to be alone forever....so if you can control or fix the problems you have then do it ..or else quit thinking that your something to look at.....and go for a worn out female/male
i for one will not settle for anything less and if you do then you will never be happy, content, fulfilled, satisfied......
and you wonder why a person never replies to a contact.....hmmmm
grab a full length mirror.....
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| Mar 4 @ 5:38 AM |
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Elbereth529
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I have been blessed with my Mom's and her Mom's youthful looks. Everyone has always guessed me at 10 years younger than what I actually am. I believed it was because of my personality... I'm a Gemini & I was born to PLAY!!  And I have a wonderful sense of humor too... laughing is good for the soul.
I think I look pretty good for someone who is about to turn 49. No, wouldn't change a thing!
Theresa
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| Mar 4 @ 10:26 AM |
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caffie1
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El....yes you look awesome for 49..... I also would have guessed you at 39..  ..laughter is good for the soul and keeps us young.....along with watching our diet and taking care of ourselves in general.....
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| Mar 5 @ 6:52 PM |
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alivenwell351
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sorry ole timer.
Hey Cat...I resemble that remark!!
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| Mar 6 @ 12:19 AM |
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caffie1
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alive....omg...no you do not.. ...for your age.....woohoo..... you give the youngens a run .......plus i know your personality and that says alot.....so babe you have the whole package....
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| Mar 6 @ 9:32 PM |
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Childfree1568
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In my experience, the only people who say they don't care about looks and call those who do "shallow", are the people who do not have the Look Factor themselves. Everyone cares about looks. If they didn't, a whole lot more people who don't bother to post a picture of themselves would be getting dates! I know personally, I don't look at profiles that do not have pictures. What is there in that profile to distinguish that person from the thousands of others on this site if they don't have a picture? Pretty much nothing because we're all the same and we're all looking for the same things. Attraction and chemistry are all that's left. It is what it is.
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| Mar 7 @ 12:58 PM |
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caffie1
Posts: 82
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childfree.... 
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| Mar 7 @ 2:52 PM |
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Sweetheart83446
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In any relationship, there has to be a mutual physical attraction. How many times have you seen a man introducing his wife like this…”Hello, Paul, this is my wife Charlene, yea, she is ugly, but, I still love her.” Never.
That’s because there is a physical attraction there. Its human and it is normal.
If a woman who cares about her looks is so shallow in so many people’s eyes, then don’t bitch and complain when you start seeing her sporting hairy armpits and spiky legs. Don’t complain when she decides not to wash her hair and brush it. What clean underwear? Clean clothes? Brushed teeth? If caring what I look like makes me Shallow, then title me lilmissshallow.
P.S caffes son is hot…and I have only seen his picture. How shallow am I? 
There is nothing wrong with having expectations with what your partner should physically present them selves as. As long as your expectations aren’t unrealistic. After all, in a dream world, you are going to have to live with them forever.
No, I am not saying base the relationship soley off looks alone, but, they take a part in the begining of it. It is what attracts us to the person in the first place, you do see the person before you speak to them, besides if you are blind, bless your heart. 
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| Mar 7 @ 8:56 PM |
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caffie1
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sweet.... and my son thinks your a sweetheart....he is a lil upset your pics arent on your profile anymore he said she is the hottest girl on md......he comes here to visit and sees if your pic is back....lol i find that cute.....
your comment is so so true....thanks good to see a different age range seeing that it is that LOOK that gets you interested to know more.....thanks sweet
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| Mar 15 @ 11:08 PM |
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Blueschic
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Hi there,
This is my first post and I wanted to put my "two cents" in. In my opinion I think I look good for my age. I'm 52 and will be 53 in August. I believe that one looks as old as one feels...literally. I don not feel 52 nor do I act like I'm 52. My pic was taken in July 07. I can still wear a bikini and I do. I went to college for economic reasons as I was divorcing after 24 years of marriage. I was 48 and I will graduate with a BS in Medical Laboratory Science in May. It was required that I take physical education with all the 20 somethings in college. Last fall I took self defense and aerobic kickboxing. I was quite proud of myself as I flipped 20 yr old guys over my back. I believe it all starts with an inner confidence in oneself. Mind over matter. If one wants something bad enough....they'll achieve it. You get out what you put into it.
For me I never smoked cigarettes, drank alcohol occassionally, was very physically active remodeling our house (I can still climb scaffolding), was involved in my boys activities and never was a couch potato.
As far as looks I am told that I am attractive sometimes beautiful. I look at beauty just as I look at intelligence. Both are gifts from above. I did nothing to earn them. It was the luck of the draw. So to be full of myself seems entirely inappropriate. Now what I do with the intelligence is a whole different matter. I am certainly proud of the effort I put in and what I've accomplished through hard work.
But...with that said I am human. I am attracted to good looking, physically fit males, preferably with facial hair and longer hairstyles. Does that make me shallow? Not at all. It's my preference. If I take care of myself then I expect no less from my mate. If fat were attractive so many people wouldn't be on diets. If fat were healthy so many people wouldn't be diabetics or getting cancers associated with being obese. Diet and exercise can reverse diabetes before you become insulin dependent. Someone on one of these sites once told me the rule of two applies. Wherever you fall on the scale of 1-10 you may choose someone anywhere below you but you may only choose someone who is no more than two above you. If you're a 4 you shouldn't expect to be matched with a 10. It isn't going to happen. In thinking that maybe I had been conceited I tried dating someone who was a nice person but who wasn't as attractive as I would have liked. It didn't work. I'll not do that again. Give me the good looking hunk and let me decide if he's got the internal beauty to match!!!
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| Mar 16 @ 12:16 AM |
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Pssst
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I guess I'll move to a cave somewhere...
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| Mar 16 @ 1:05 AM |
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caffie1
Posts: 82
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blues....  awesome i loved your comment.....
and it is hard to believe your 52...woohoo you can tell when a woman/man has taken care of themselves.....living proof.....it shows in the looks....
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