| Oct 28, 2006 @ 11:49 AM |
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dream416
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Hey I was just wondering if there was anyone out there that isn't shallow and judges a person by how they look?? Espically if you're a big girl...every guy I seem to talk to wants a skinny skinny person...or a model. I'm neither of those. So are there any guys out there that want a big girl????
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| Oct 28, 2006 @ 9:28 PM |
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Trek1701a
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I'm a heavy guy, 6'2" 290lbs and most of it is not muscle.  So my opinion will probably be different from someone of a slimmer figure
I certainly wouldn't talk about other people, but for myself but a woman's size, in and of itself, is irrelevent. I care more about her being in proportion for height/weight, as well as how she carries the weight (as some people, this applies to men as well, just can be heavier and look thinner). So in summary, to me, short and heavy can be just as bad tall and thin.
I can really understand where you are coming from though. On both sides, it all seems that everywhere people are looking for their ideal vision and it doesn't include us who have as decent amount of jiggle, even if we could be the best thing for them.
I know this all gets frustrating, but hang in there. They say there is someone out there for everyone, my luck my girl is on some remote island that has no way of getting off, but hey she's there. Who knows he may be her brother... 
William
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| Oct 28, 2006 @ 10:39 PM |
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moodymama
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I'm pretty shallow.. I hate that I am, It's not like I don't need to lose 20 lbs. My insecurity keeps me from meeting men because I think I have to be "perfect".. and I am far from it.....And still, I would like to have a hottie....I can say that personality does go a long way with me. Thats why I try to focus on no expectation friendships.
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| Oct 28, 2006 @ 11:43 PM |
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FakeAppendix
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Unfortunately most people I have come across are very shallow, and they wont admit it either. I would like to think that these people don't understand the damage unending rejection does to someone, but I think it's more likely they just don't care.
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| Oct 31, 2006 @ 3:45 PM |
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edthepoet
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People are not swallow if they have likes and dislikes, whether it be smokers, drinkers, overweight, non humorous, boring as shit people. Of course most people are going to be attracted to a well built person male or female that human nature, but it doesn't mean you shouldn't be loved. Actually the number one things that rocks both gender is a person who is confidence. My ex was and is overweight and she never had a problem getting dates, because she is very confidence about herself.
Remember if you spend most of your time thinking about your weight why shouldn't others.
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| Oct 31, 2006 @ 4:20 PM |
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zzspecialj
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very well said ed.
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| Nov 7, 2006 @ 7:47 PM |
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plasticono
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I agree with you 100%. I have always been a very confident woman. Other women always ask me why I attract so many men, and that's why! I was just at my nephew's wedding, and my niece said, "Aunt Flo, you are a man magnet!" I answered, "No, I'm not! I'm sociable and outgoing" "That's how you meet people; not just necessarily men!"
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| Nov 9, 2006 @ 2:48 PM |
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nealius000
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Moody,
I checked you out. There is nothing wrong with you at all. Actually I think you are a cutie..
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| Nov 9, 2006 @ 2:50 PM |
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nealius000
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just looked at the rest of your pics.. I was wrong, you arent a cutie. You are a damn Hottie..
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| Nov 10, 2006 @ 12:02 PM |
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csn190
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Hi Dream, I do not and never will judge a person by what they look like. I judge people by what is in their heart. If you are interested in talking let me know. Love Al[QUOTE]
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| Nov 12, 2006 @ 1:08 PM |
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heathiebear1985
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Yeah, well I'm a big girl... and I completely can sympathize... Some guys only want a girl that looks like a super model... and I can't give that to them..
:)
Oh well, there is a nice guy out there somewhere... we just have to keep looking! :)
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| Nov 17, 2006 @ 7:33 AM |
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Microchip
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Are you implying that just because people don't want a big girl, that they're shallow?
Different people have different types. A big girl doesn't turn me on physically. That doesn't make me shallow.
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| Nov 19, 2006 @ 7:59 AM |
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Ang22
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I think people have different likes and dislikes it doesn't mean they're shallow. They just prefer their specific type. There are men out there who prefer big women you just have to look and find them instead. There are also some men out there who do look below the skin and go for personality as well.
Anyway have fun on matchdoctor and don't let the ones you think are shallow bug you. Just searching and have fun doing so.
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| Nov 20, 2006 @ 6:32 PM |
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dream416
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Maybe its just me but I don't judge a person by how they look...A person could be big, small, tall, short, purple with green spots and I'd go out with them if I liked who they were inside. So I guess I just shouldn't be bothered by people with "preferences".
I believe there is one guy out there that actually wants a person for who they are and not what's on the outside!
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| Nov 20, 2006 @ 11:38 PM |
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justagirl2005
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you know you are right, these guys on here appparently are looking for the barbie doll with the personality to match. sorry about their luck but it doesnt exist...seems like when you do meet someone in person you sure as heck better not have even one hair out of place or they will be right back on here searching thinking the grass is greener but you know the old saying......its only greener over the septic tank!! 
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| Dec 1, 2006 @ 11:27 AM |
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WykedChick
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Over confidence seems to turn some men off too. I've heard that I'm unapproachable several times in my life. I don't want to come off as that. When I ask men why I'm unapproachable, I get a lot of different answers from:
because your tall and pretty.
Because you seem to not need a man due to the fact that you have your own motorcycle and house, etc.
I find these reasons BS. I worked hard to get what I have. I am not rich by a long shot but have found that I cannot wait around for someone to take care of me. I can take care of myself. I want a man because I want the companionship and a best friend. I'm not looking for a man to take care of me, probably because I don't trust most men enough to allow that. I'm hoping that changes some day. I'd love to meet someone to enhance my life though, not to change it.
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| Dec 2, 2006 @ 8:02 AM |
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alwaysbnme1
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ok I need to put my five cents in (inflation) my oppinion is that you may go for the hottie but five times out of ten he or she is shallow and self centered. And that won't change but the looks will so if you fall for a hottie just for the looks down the road the looks change you are stuck with a old shallow man.I have gone out with some very good looking guys and some very rich guys but it did not take long to find out that they are shallow and that to me is a big turn off.  so all you shallow people who have the need to have a gorgeous shallow person by your side tell me how it is when the looks fade and now you have a ugly and not so shallow person because the looks fades and he or she is now insecure I have watched this happen.Mother nature can be vey crewel to the human body when it comes to our looks we don't stay youg forever.You see I like to look at the big picture it is called my future.So I am not shallow I don't care if he is over weigth,bald( wich I think is sexy) short ot tall black or white or spanish.If he treats me like the lady I am and nice smile he has a shot with me.Till the shallowness shows or predigest I won't tolerate either one.
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| Dec 3, 2006 @ 10:22 AM |
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Microchip
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I'm afraid the topic of your post is a little offensive. It is a personal affront.
Hey I was just wondering if there was anyone out there that isn't shallow and judges a person by how they look?? Espically if you're a big girl...every guy I seem to talk to wants a skinny skinny person...or a model. I'm neither of those. So are there any guys out there that want a big girl????
Just because you THINK "every guy you talk to wants a skinny person" doesn't mean they are shallow. Maybe they are not ATTRACTED to a big girl.
I am not shallow. I have many friends who are large. There just is no chemistry, that's all. I work hard on keeping my weight down. I don't sit on the couch all day eating potato chips. I have a healthy and active lifestyle. I see no reason to expect different from someone that I wish to date.
This sounds to me like a little bit of a self-pity post. Unless there is a medical resaon that you CAN'T lose the weight, then I suggest you try, because as long as you don't, you will always be jealous of those "skinny girls".
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| Dec 4, 2006 @ 1:24 PM |
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WykedChick
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Sometimes if your over confident and independant, that will scare a man away. I'm always told that I am unapproachable (out in public) and intimidating. I don't know why men think that. I am independant but I've been forced to be that. Survival and life makes us who and what we are. I admit, I am a bit shallow when it comes to dating. Probably why I don't date very often at all. I need to have a physical attraction to a man but I also need an intellectual one as well. If there is beauty on the outside and nothing on the inside (or they can't carry a conversation) I don't care how hot they are, I will loose interest.
All I can tell you is, I used to be quite heavy and used to get alot more dates when I was. Try and figure out human nature....I can't. Now that I have lost alot of weight, men hardly ever approach me or ask me out. So, don't be put off due to your weight. Everyone is right, it's your confidence that's the key and how you feel about yourself.
Hang in there. I'm trying to do the same. I guess when it's right, and we all stop looking, the person we have been seeking will find us......eventually.
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| Dec 4, 2006 @ 4:57 PM |
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dream416
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First of all I NEVER said I was jealous of anyone. I just don't think someone should be judged for how they look. That skinny person you find now may gain weight in the future and what are you gonna do break up with her cause she isn't "skinny" anymore??? And not everyone cause just lose weight...but I'm guessing you don't know what thats like. And my post was a simple question, I have no clue as to why you took it personally Microchip. Anywho have a nice life.
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