| Dec 19, 2005 @ 3:34 PM |
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catalyst157
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I've been on and off Matchdoctor a few times for various reasons. Recently I've taken a part time job and really don't have the time it takes to search for a mate. So..mostly these days, I remain invisible, choosing instead, to use this as just another e-mail to keep in touch with a few friends that I've made along the way. Not that they don't have a private e-mail.. but it's sort of like running into people you know at the store or the library.
However...... the other day, I did see someone new and because he was a local guy and had mentioned a few places that were familiar to me in his profile, I wrote. I wrote with the intent to tell him about another place he might enjoy. There was no alterior motive.. no hi sweetie honey lamb...no smart aleck remark. Just a plain note to say hi.. and hey.. did ya ever check out so and so?
Ok.. maybe he didn't like my profile... Is it too much to expect a "hi", a "no I haven't", or just a "thank you" ? What is the matter with people?
Here's my theory for what it's worth...the closer in miles we are to each other.. the less likey we are to write, let alone meet. Many miles apart, seems to infer safety. Too close for comfort seems to be the order and attitude of the day.
We have a million people.. all looking for someone. How come very few are hooking up?
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| Jan 3, 2006 @ 9:01 PM |
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beachnutRU
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yes it is too much to expect a courtesy hi and thanks......haha
I have written just soooo many forays out there even if they were 30,000 miles away just to tell them that I could relate to what they say.......no response. I dismiss it when I write it these days. I put it out to the universe nad the universe responds or doesn't...........no biggie.
Hang in there.
Keep posting you will get to know people in their posts.
Bnut
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| Feb 15, 2006 @ 4:08 PM |
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tsnod44
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What gets my goat is they wink at you and you send an email saying hello, then never hear from them again! There was some reason they winked at you! Maybe they hit the wrong button on the puter! 
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| Apr 4, 2006 @ 8:32 PM |
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school2
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I wink at guys all the time,and once they see that I am six feet tall they immediately think I am a transgendered man. I am not,but each has there own ideas. I was married like, forever and then got divorced and moved to a new area to start life new. It had not gone well so far. Not many proposales or anything close,but I am ok with that.
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 8:39 AM |
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jim92451
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I don't care if you are 6 feet tall. You are beautifuland the guys in AZ must be stupid.
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| Apr 20, 2006 @ 7:33 PM |
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school2
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Courtesy, What's that! Most guys have no clue when being coutsious is expected and then again I don't like to show them when that is. For example.::: I attended a Christmas party pot -luck. Ater much talking, we settled down to eat at tables that had been set up with centerpieces. Ther was a rather odd combination of items on the menu ,so my date and I tried a little of each. He proceeded to make a pile of bones and cast off food on the side of his plate which overflowed onto the tables cloth. While I was in a converstion the people I wAS TALKING TO KEPT LOOKING AT HIS PILE OF JUNK AND i PROCEEDED TO PUT IT BACK ON my dates PLATE WITHOUT MISSING A BEAT.! The whole situation made me look bad and this guy was a bank manager.
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| May 21, 2006 @ 2:26 PM |
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afflebek
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Just to get back to the original topic, for some reason you're right. I get more responses from people in other states than I do 20 miles away.
Ladies, chivalry isn't dead and neither is courtesy.
What happened to the days of actually meeting for a date to find out if the other person was worth seeing again?
Also, another simple matter of courtesy...a simple yes or no I'm not interested goes a long way.
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| May 21, 2006 @ 10:06 PM |
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greatgirl96
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All i can say is: "give someone a chance." You might find your true love, or a friend for life, but why shrug them away cause you dont like their profile, or their pic they put on here?
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| May 23, 2006 @ 3:47 PM |
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iam15323
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wow!! wish you were closer! you being 6 ft. wouldnt bother me!! 
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| Aug 9, 2006 @ 7:13 AM |
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outdoorzylady
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I try to respond to all winks I at least say thank you and send a  but some times guys take it as a come on I am just tring to be courteous.If I don't respond it is because I have not been on here in awhile I don't get on every day.But I have to say that most of the winks are from not only out of town but out of state and out of the country.I don't have a problen writing back but like I said I don't get on here every day I chose to take on a second job to take up the free time I have since this thing is not working out.I have to say have met a lot of nice people on here.Juat not the one that trips my trigger so to speak. 
Noreen
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| Aug 9, 2006 @ 10:27 AM |
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sable57
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i agree with you 100%. it seems like the men in my area are the same.
seem to get a lot of e-mails from the very young in their 40's.i always send back a e-maile saying thank you-- but no thanks. sorry i do not want to date some one the same age as my kids.most have said age doesnt matter-- to me it does.but just a note saying thank you is the way to go. then you have the others that send you notes and want to play games. not into that either.
do you ever wonder if they have some thing to hide if they dont want some one close to home????
thank you for listening.
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| Aug 10, 2006 @ 12:34 PM |
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etowngirl
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Can I ask anyone this...........Why do man or woman think when you wink at them or they mail that you have to wink or mail them back?.....
Then thay get piss and call you names at you when you don't do anything?....
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| Aug 10, 2006 @ 4:11 PM |
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outdoorzylady
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Well I think maybe you should think about what you just said and think about the fact that you are one dating service.  like some one else said if you were in a public place and some one said hi would you just walk the other way and ingors the hello no your responce would be to say hello back well maybe you wouldn't  (Etowngirl)
Noreen
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| Aug 10, 2006 @ 5:18 PM |
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etowngirl
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Yes I would say hello, hi,ect...............But not to someone that is married or dating someone!!!!! Would you???........Because you know that shouldn't be on this site if they are married or dating someone.....
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 2:03 AM |
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Moogie25
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I don't know about this site, but I know of at least one other one that sends winks to try to get something going. I have responded to thank them for the wink, and they say they never winked.
I usually don't reply to winks from men far away. They just want erotic chat and are not interested in meeting me. Sometimes I reply to email, but I am not interested in a long distance romance. I get lots of email from kids--the under 40 group. Why would a 20 year old boy want to be with a 61 year old woman? I tell them they are too young and they keep emailing me. I just don't respond. I don't bother with anyone younger than my oldest kid, who is almost 37. I prefer them over 50.
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 4:01 PM |
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outdoorzylady
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50 is good 
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| Aug 11, 2006 @ 5:21 PM |
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sable57
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yes 50 is good.,,lol
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| Aug 12, 2006 @ 12:46 AM |
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BOSS1955
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Yep!.. Whats up with that?
Maybe some are keeping a score card for themselves 
Only reason I can think lol
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| Aug 12, 2006 @ 7:28 AM |
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sable57
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no score card-- just age.we were talking about younger men.no one younger then 50.
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| Aug 12, 2006 @ 3:04 PM |
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outdoorzylady
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