| Apr 1 @ 11:42 AM |
Ohlord what can I do about the ex...???
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Ang22
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Okay yesterday I just found out from my ex that he has a 27 yr old daughter and a granddaughter. We were together for 6yrs and have a 12month old daughter. He has cheated on me during my pregnancy and for the past 12months since my daughter has been born. So you can say our split wasn't all the friendly but we both agreed our daughter was the only thing important.
We don't argue in front of her, we still talk everyday. He's still seeing the woman he cheated on me with and I'm moving on with my life. Something he doesn't want me to do.
I told him yesterday I was online putting up personals and actually getting setup by my brothers. He doesn't approve, he told me he didn't want anyone around our daughter but I told him he would just have to get used to it since she lives with me, I'm her main supporter as is my family. Which he called meddlesome which they aren't. I told him since he was dating someone else that I would have to respect that she would be also in our daughter's life and he would have to give me the same respect in the matter.
But for some reason he's acting like we are still together even though he wants to see the other girl as well.
I don't know. I just know I'm over him and want to stay friendly towards him because of our daughter. Tomorrow I'm going to file for sole custody and child support because he hasn't helped me in anyway shape or form with our daughter.
What do you all think I should do? still be friendly towards him or just change my number and go from there.
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| Apr 7 @ 6:30 PM |
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xena99
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Hello i have the same problem ....being friendly doesnt work well when the x's behave this way.Heres an interesting article about getting along with the x that i found helpful.Good Luck God Only knows we all need it right.
Children
If you share children, the relationship needs to involve something resembling a business relationship. The children are the most important thing. Not you and your ex. Not your ex’s new girlfriend, boyfriend or spouse. Not your new girlfriend or boyfriend or spouse. THE CHILDREN are the most important thing. No one cares how you feel and no one should except your family and closest friends and they should not care about your feelings before the children’s feelings. Don’t manipulate each other with the children or use them as pawns. The children need TWO parents that put them above all else, including your new life, your new love, your ex’s new life and new love, the new love’s children, or the resentment you have toward each other.
The children need you to act civilly and like adults and show them unconditional love.
The more you treat your relationship with your ex like a business deal where the welfare and feelings of the children are front and center, you will have a better relationship with your ex. This DOES NOT mean you have no feelings or that interactions do not upend you, but outwardly you try to deal with it as a business relationship, keeping it very concrete and focused on the children. Reign in your feelings and “act as if” they are not there. DO NOT let your feelings about you and your ex and the breakup interfere with the dealings you need to get done about the children
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| Jun 6 @ 12:43 PM |
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PrInCeSsB
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been there done that, you have to stay friendly towards him because of your daughter, i have been married three times, the first husband i had one daughter with. he had costady of her until she was 14, she sure didn't have a good life with him, so make sure you get her, especially being a girl. what goes around comes around he got cancer when he was 47 and died six months after finding out, guess our creator judged him, no court. the second husband won't give up his gf either, and he got her pregant when we were married, but he is still her father he has a right to see her, and as long as they pay the child support they get to see them, don't let him sweet talk you to going back with him they are a x for a reason, move forward not back. things happen for a reason. with all my experances i have learned love is unconditial, you can love others in different ways and also love you too. you have to ask yourself if you should get back with him are you willing to share,
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| Jul 6 @ 11:43 PM |
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Ang22
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I'm definitely not letting him sweet talk me into anything. Right now it's just too tense I don't even want to be around him at all nor do I want our daughter around him. Right now he's just lucky I'm trying my best not to kick him in the nuts and call him a ucking b'stard.
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