| Apr 24, 2007 @ 11:09 AM |
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FroggSplash71
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please list your reasons below maybe I will understand at some point
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| Apr 24, 2007 @ 5:10 PM |
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American_Woman
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Frogg, you got mail sweetie! *hugs* 
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| Apr 24, 2007 @ 6:51 PM |
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American_Woman
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I think I know what's goin on 
if ya read back thru the posts it's obvious or she would not have posted the question here
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| Apr 25, 2007 @ 2:23 PM |
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dcman27
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You know I am not sure there is an easy answer for that one. I can say that I have worked with inmates in jail and I can tell you that nothing surprises me whatsoever. Some of the friendliest people in the facility are child molesters. Why that is I cannot begin to explain.
What I would say is there are people out there that are good. Guess one thing that is really important is the fact that you are happy yourself. I mean it. If you are not there is a magnetism to attract people that you are not interested in. So you must be happy with yourself, who you are and where your going. If that is the case the magnetism will be there to attract good people.
I cannot say wether looking on the internet is the best place, but I will say that if you can join a local organization such church or something like that you improve the likelyhood of meeting nice people.
I can tell you to feel free to say hi. I am not in a position for a serious relationship but if you just want to chat with a nice person by all means say hi.
Dan
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| Apr 25, 2007 @ 3:28 PM |
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1RockinDude
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Why does anyone lie? It can go either way. Myself I think if you lie..it will always come back to you..and your caught!!
Not every guy lies//stero type..my opion
Ive been lied too..but isnt it better to know early , then later:) 
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| Apr 25, 2007 @ 6:17 PM |
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SpyderLady
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but isnt it better to know early , then later:
That is so true.
What if it isn't lies, but just not sharing information. Keeping things from you. Personal things that normal couples share. In my eyes, if you can't talk about things, someone is hiding something for a reason.
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| Apr 26, 2007 @ 3:59 PM |
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American_Woman
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I think that when a man, or woman for that matter, lies it shows their true character. Try not to waste your time, or emotions on someone clearly not worthy of you. I think that some people on here are so desperate to find someone that they string a few along "just in case".
referring to MD in general, ran into a few myself
[Edited on 4/26/2007 5:17 PM]
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| Apr 27, 2007 @ 2:25 AM |
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FroggSplash71
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i appreciate all of ya speakin out.... I agree... and I know Rockin that woman hurt men the same and they are frickin dogs for it as well as the men..... I was just really hurt when i wrote this and a few of my posts... that one day  it wasnt meant against any good person out there......
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| Apr 27, 2007 @ 4:36 AM |
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belladonnaberte
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Let's face it, lying is never good. And this isn't just because you're swimming in some very murky ethical waters and should be demanding higher standards from yourself. It's also because it's all too easy to get tangled in a web of decite from which it grows harder and harder to extricate yourself, as lies compound on more lies. Lying just doesn't work, and it's not the way any man or woman for that matter should conduct his or her affairs...(that is my opinion).
Then there is the "But" the "exception to the rule" as one of my friends would say... and that exception to the rule he would say would come with women. As he so clearly put it.. the females of the species, it's a completely different ballgame. The gulf between the sexes, the misunderstandings, miscommunications and misrepresentations clearly hasn't changed much over the years, despite the self-serving attempts of "feminisim", and I say the self serving attempts of"machoism".
Either way, neither sex is certainly not above telling "white lies," or even bald-faced ones, if it serves their purposes ("size doesn't matter," "we can still be friends," etc...), while at the same time the sex that is lying will be demanding in the same breath from the opposite sex total honesty from them.
But, just for arguements sake, here is why he said that for men, lying is the smart thing to do...
Basically he believes that a woman demands it, even if she doesnt' want to believe it. He says the trick is in knowing what she wants to hear, even if it means serious stretching the truth and of course this means that the man will always have to be on guard for a womans questions.
What kinds of questions? Loaded questions, questions guaranteed to doom a man if he answers them truthfully. Unfair questions. Make no mistake about it, these are tests, and the chances of getting some nookie or having a fairly decent evening he says depends entirely on how he performs.
He stated that men have to be leary and ready to lie when women ask the following questions:
How many women have you slept with?
Do you think she's pretty? (About another woman.)
Do you think I've gained weight/need to start working out/look fat in this dress?
What do you think of my looks?
How do you feel about me/where is our relationship going?
What are you thinking about?
He says the whole point in answering this question is that there's always a huge gulf between what a woman is asking and what she really wants to hear. So if the woman is quizzing him about her weight or about another woman's looks, then let's be honest, she knows she's pack on a few pounds and she's not anywhere near as gorgeous as that 23-year old piece of arm candy with the perfect 36-Ds and bare, flat midriff and legs that never end. So at this point he says that men have a few options, which are:
You can say nothing and hope it all goes away. This is not a good move, because if you keep your mouth shut, the woman will know exactly what you're thinking (that she is fat and that you'd really rather have sex with the 23 yr old).
-OR- the man can wuss out and stammer some gush compliments about how pretty she is that sound insincere even to his own ears. This isn't a good idea either, because he's just handing over all his male power and letting the woman control the relationship. Then again, there is the option that the man can tell her the brutal truth (drop 20 pounds and the only way the woman will ever look that good is via reincarnation). This really isn't a good idea, unless he enjoys about a week of the ice cold silent treatment, sleeping alone, and problably no sex ever again. Then again, he could LIE. Bingo! Just take her hands he says, look deep into her eyes with all the male confidence he can muster and tell her she's the most desirable, beautiful woman he's ever seen. He must be sure to never even respond directly to her questions. Sure, my friend says, its a scam, and every woman knows it's a scam, but the man is coming from a position of strength, not weakness. He sincerely believes that a woman wants a man to lie, and the woman expect men to lie. That it's all part of the mental games the women forces her man to play. In the end, he can make her feel like a million bucks, guess what? the more the woman is going to want to have sex with him, so for him, if he lies, mission accomplished...lie for the better is a man motto. Personally, I told him while I took his hand and, looked deep into his eyes with all the female confidence I could muster and told him that he is the most handsome and desirable, man I've ever known. And then I winked....let's face it, Over all, lying is a bad thing to do. Telling the truth may be harder, or just changing the subject or softening the blow of the truth by not saying anything . So, from what I gathered from my friend, The truth is, telling a few lies can be one of the best ways to keep his relationship healthy. And the number 1 rule is to tell the woman exactly what she wants to hear.
I will close with this thought: A man is only as good as his word! Most women who have been with a man for a while can tell when he is lying just by observing his body positioning and eye movements when he answers a question. We also know the truth a lot of times before we ask, but due to the fact men develop habits of lying, we will ask just to see what kind of lie they can come up with and then judge it on a scale of 1-10 for creativness. Face it, all men lie. It's a sad fact, bu
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| Apr 27, 2007 @ 10:56 AM |
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slickwillie78
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Holy shit!!!!
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| Apr 27, 2007 @ 11:32 AM |
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American_Woman
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LMFAO!!!!! Slick 
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| Apr 28, 2007 @ 5:10 PM |
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justchris
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Damn,That Belladonna wrote a freakin book.
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| Apr 28, 2007 @ 11:43 PM |
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dilynmor
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omg
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| Apr 29, 2007 @ 12:59 AM |
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justchris
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why do women lie and hurt men?
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| May 1, 2007 @ 6:12 PM |
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belladonnaberte
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Sorry about the book everyone, it was late and there were 2 others beside myself that contributed to the post. Didn't relize how long it was until after it was posted.  Will do my best to keep it short from now on.
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| May 1, 2007 @ 6:16 PM |
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slickwillie78
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no worries..  We all know how it goes when you get a couple women together..........  lol
especially if they're talkin about guys. 
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| May 3, 2007 @ 11:53 AM |
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belladonnaberte
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Actually, the evening consisted of two friends of mine (husband & wife in their 80's) and myself, and the General was talking over us on this subject. Mostly I just typed and added my two bits along with his wife. It seems the why's and wherefores haven't changed over the years between the sexes. He says, she says. She does, he does. And it is always wrapped up in the question of "Why's".
Go figure.
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| May 3, 2007 @ 12:16 PM |
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slickwillie78
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lol... yeah, i'm lost.....
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| May 3, 2007 @ 2:16 PM |
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dt3d2001
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dont be hard on yourself Slick,,, its a "MENSA" thing
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| May 3, 2007 @ 2:23 PM |
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slickwillie78
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lol... thanks for clearing that up for me dt...
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