| Mar 14, 2006 @ 1:59 AM |
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TinkerBell_24
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I don't seem to be having much luck on here. I'm not sure just what it is I am doing wrong.
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| Mar 14, 2006 @ 2:04 AM |
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Hank316
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love I see nothing wrong with your profile . maybe it's just the right guy hasn't seen you yet
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| Mar 14, 2006 @ 2:07 AM |
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TinkerBell_24
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I think that might be part of the problem, but I think another problem is no one actually takes the time to read my profile 'cause if they did I would not keep getting mail from a bunch of pervs
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| Mar 14, 2006 @ 2:24 AM |
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twins_alot
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Apparently no one reads mine either, cause all i keep getting is perves,women,and people frome africa and freakin transylvania. I may be a big lady and all, but i am not that hard up that i would fly across the world to be with someone.Maybe a couple states away.LOL Keep goin' girl,don't quit 'til you find the man of your dreams! Love Ya! 
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| Mar 14, 2006 @ 2:28 AM |
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TinkerBell_24
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Yea I keep getting mail from places I have never even heard of or from really old guys, when it says in my profile no one over 35
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| Mar 14, 2006 @ 2:42 AM |
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twins_alot
Posts: 27
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Maybe that's your problem,maybe you need to try it with an older man,they are very attentive and romantic,and if they are a good man they will treat you like a queen.Isn't that what you want?Or do you want someone who will treat you like crap?Everyone deserves a chance,just open your mind up to things you've never had before.You never know,your mr.right may be right in front of you,but you can't see him cause you are looking for someone under 35. 
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| Mar 14, 2006 @ 2:18 PM |
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Say_Yes
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Keep looking. Rome was not built in a day and finding true love is not that simple either. If it was, then we would all have found it long since.
BTW, don't lower your standards and just settle for anyone that will have you. There is no happiness in that. Search for your dream. It is better to be single and looking than married and miserable. You are young and there is much time to find the guy that is right for you.
If you don't want an old guy like me, there is nothing wrong with that. I don't blame you one bit. There are plenty of good, guys around in your age group. Yes, some guys are jerks and others are perverts, but not all of us. Stay true to your dream, otherwise it will never come true.
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| Mar 14, 2006 @ 3:26 PM |
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slickwillie78
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ok... this is my first forum post... i don't even know if it's gunna work... but anyway... good luck to y'all... i've heard about a lot of ppl getting e-mails from pervs... mostly women... if y'all hear from me, it won't be perverted i promise  .... i'm not looking for a relationship.. i just thought i'd say hello to my fellow tennessean's.. so hi..
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| Mar 14, 2006 @ 6:14 PM |
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sarina543
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I totally understand what is being said about pervs and much older men sending notes. I am 40, just turned a couple of weeks ago, that seemed to be a huge flag thrown up to every nut job and freak in this area, ah she is 40 now and probably desperate. NOT And can anyone explaine this cyber sex thing to me!!!! what is up with that??? I get more pics of penises(sp) then I care to let you know about. What makes a man send a woman he has never met, a pic of his wee willy winkie?? And what makes any one think that any woman with any self respect at all would want to look at that??
Back to the real reason why I started this reply to no luck, most of the dating sites are about the same. I have hit quite a few of them due to the fact that I am a single mom, and get very little time away from my kids. I had hoped that an internet site would be the answer, but so far, it has been a huge let down. Either I get men who are around the same age as my father, not gonna happen, or men who just want one night stands or cyber sex, once again not gonna happen. Then there was the guy who wanted to move in, after talking to me on the phone one time. haha not gonna happen.
See girls, you are not alone, and I take comfort in knowing that I am not alone. Like the man said rome wasn't built in a day, take your time, look around, and be patient. There is no reason to get yourself into a mess with some jerk that you hate to wake up to everyday.
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 3:27 AM |
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Hank316
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I've heard the same from other ladies about the pervs on line not just here but all over the net . I've been called and consider myself a southern gentleman . There are a few of us still out there that treat all women like ladies , and that honor and respect ladies so don't give up the right one will come along . like finding a needle in a hay stack yes but it'll happen
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 1:15 PM |
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twins_alot
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So, i don't think that this lady should just settle for whatever or whoever,she isn't desperate and i know that.I also know that the men that she has been dating have only been using her for their needs,and treating her very badly,i know this because she is related to me,and we are very close.I would just like her to find someone who will treat her better,and i thought maybe a older man may do that,it doesn't mean go out and find a real a-hole,just because he has money,or just because he is an older man.I just meant maybe she should open her horizons.And i don't know what this say yes person has against me,but that is a few times now that he has referred to desperate.I am not desperate,i am on here to meet new people and make new friends,not go out with every tom,dick and harry! I am not the one who has the name that is begging for someone to say yes to me.I don't know what it is,but this person just brings out the worst in me and i am always a nice person.I need to change the way i am taking the things that he is saying differently,i guess.You know be the BIGGER person,and let it just slide by without a reply!! LOL
So good luck tinkerbel and don't give up on what you want,if you don't want to change the qualities that you want in a person,that is wonderful,stick to your guns! I wouldn't want you to go out and find someone like *you know who* on these posts. 
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 3:44 PM |
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Say_Yes
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Funny, I think if you go look at previous posts, you will see just who has been attacked and by whom. In fact, I never referred to anyone else on this board in my post. I tried to give the OP the best advice that I could, including that she not date someone like me.
Back on topic though, Tink, you have a lot to offer. Just take your time and a good guy will come along. Don't let the haters make you bitter or to just settle for someone other than what you know is right for you.
Keep in mind that women typically live longer than men. If you hook up with a guy 15 years older than you, then odds are that you will be a widow by the time you are 55 to 60. I realize that at 24, your mid 50's seem to be an eternity away, but it will happen sooner than you believe possible. BTW, if you think it is hard to find a good partner at 24, ask a woman in her mid to late 50's about just how difficult it is for her at that age.
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 11:01 PM |
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twins_alot
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 Hello, my little tinkerbell! It's time for a big change in both of our lives!! We need to take control and stop letting everyone else tell us what is best for us.We know our bodies,souls,hearts and minds better than anyone else.We need to move far,far away from the bad influences in our lives!! My birthday was a complete shambles because of someone else.I have never had a worse day in my life,b-day or not.
Back to the subject at hand,the only way that we are ever going to meet the one and only man in our lives is to get out there and look for him instead of waiting for him to come to us.I am falling for a guy who lives on the other side of the world,what will ever come of that i ask?More than likely,nothing,but i still can't help how i feel.If i am going to have good luck in finding a good man,i will have to stop listening to you know who,because she is nothing but a downer,and a jealous person.So is the SHE in your life,you know who i mean.Let's start from this day and stand up for ourselves and let them know that we are single,white and over 21,we don't need a boss telling us what to do in every aspect of our lives!Do you agree?Let's take control now or it will never end until the day they die.
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| Mar 15, 2006 @ 11:03 PM |
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twins_alot
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Hello, my little tinkerbell! It's time for a big change in both of our lives!! We need to take control and stop letting everyone else tell us what is best for us.We know our bodies,souls,hearts and minds better than anyone else.We need to move far,far away from the bad influences in our lives!! My birthday was a complete shambles because of someone else.I have never had a worse day in my life,b-day or not.
Back to the subject at hand,the only way that we are ever going to meet the one and only man in our lives is to get out there and look for him instead of waiting for him to come to us.I am falling for a guy who lives on the other side of the world,what will ever come of that i ask?More than likely,nothing,but i still can't help how i feel.If i am going to have good luck in finding a good man,i will have to stop listening to you know who,because she is nothing but a downer,and a jealous person.So is the SHE in your life,you know who i mean.Let's start from this day and stand up for ourselves and let them know that we are single,white and over 21,we don't need a boss telling us what to do in every aspect of our lives!Do you agree?Let's take control now or it will never end until the day they die.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 2:11 AM |
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TinkerBell_24
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I agree with you completely. It is time for us to take control of this situation. So we are in agreement. Maybe we should shake on it. 
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 4:21 AM |
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hangingout
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I agree with you all the way. Another thing is, they all want pics of a person, well I don't have a scanner nor webcam, etc. and don't plan on getting any either. I figure if a person can't appreciate the person I am, and great conversation with me, then forget it as there are so many shallow guys out there and anyways some of them just want to get their jollies. There is more to a person than that. Good luck to you, as I have the same luck as you do. But somewhere, someplace there has to be some decent good guys. If they want a cheap thrill, then they ought to invest in a blow-up doll. There was someone who responded to my profile and went right into the pervert stuff first thing, I blocked him, he makes me ill.
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| Mar 16, 2006 @ 4:32 AM |
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hangingout
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One thing for sure, on many of the dating sites there are alot of dirtbags on them young and old, just be careful. You seem to be a nice person and well stay that way. It is better to be alone and lonely than with bad news and still lonely.
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| Mar 17, 2006 @ 10:29 AM |
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summerplace2003
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I have had no luck either. You are right about women in there fifties. I am 59 and I am not going to just settle. It is very hard to find someone at my age. The men have already been burned and they don't want to commit anymore. I want a longterm relationship and the men don't seem to want that. So you people in your 20's, 30's and 40's should have better luck than me. Thanks
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| Mar 21, 2006 @ 11:49 PM |
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Wufnu
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I haven't had any luck either, and I've been at it for awhile. I guess there are no perv/psycho women out there wanting to get me to move to a kidnapping country or sending me pictures of body parts, which is probably for the best. ...Although... I never learned the social/courting game, I'm far too blunt and honest for it, and (aside from my ugly mug) that probably is the root of my problems.
You, on the other hand, should not be having this bad luck. Your profile is good, if a little short: attractive, photos, descriptive, and you tell what you are looking for. I dunno, I would add a bit more to the profile to explain who you are a little better. I would also remove the section that lets people know you have kids. I know that sounds shady, but here is why: when someone is looking on a website, particularly at our young ages, I imagine a guy could feel that if he gets into a serious relationship with you then he also has to accept responsibility for your children. I say that with confidence because *I* have felt that way. "What if we end up falling in love with each other? Do I want kids tomorrow?" Click. I've grown up since then, but since I have done it I'm sure the other guys feel the same way. It's unfair, we all know it, but it's also the truth and must be accepted and dealt with.
I don't know if it's the same everywhere, but where I was raised it's accepted that once someone has kids their wants really don't matter anymore as the children come first. That is alot for someone to accept. The problem is that when this imaginary person is thinking, he's thinking about what he would have to give up because he doesn't know what he would gain. The thing is, it is very easy for him to hit the back button on the browser and "nip it in the bud" without giving you a chance! On the other hand, if he meets the children when he picks you up for a date and you have a great time and really like each other? Well, he would at least seriously consider it. I believe in honesty, to the upmost degree, that is why he should know you have kids on the first date. Or maybe first three or four dates. That way, you at least have a fair chance. It's for his own good ;)
Life, it is cruel. It's unfair for the single mothers, the fat people (like me!), the uneducated, the introverts (me again!), the homely, and the list goes on. I say, be who you are but be sure you give yourself a fair shot. Do what's right for you.
Of course, there is also the very real probability that your personality is best in person. For example, I've been on these types of websites for years and have only had one person genuinely interested in me, and she was halfway across the country. On the other hand, I practically ooze personality in person (isn't it odd how those of us either ugly or large develop charming personalities?) and I think the odds of someone not passing me by without giving me a shot are better face to face. What can I say, I have people skills. On the internet, for some reason, I always come off as colorful as a brick wall. I think it's my grammar... Just something to think about. I don't know what options there are, but is there a possibility of taking classes at a local community college or university? I find that there are alot of open people on campus, alot of opportunities there to meet people. Maybe your job would help you with this? As a single mother, I'm sure your time is precious, possibly work your job into school where you can meet people.
I wish you the best of luck!
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| Mar 23, 2006 @ 1:38 AM |
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ratking
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meeeeeeeee either lol,,,,if u figure it out tell me!!!please!!and you are beautiful by the way,huggys kissys handshakes gropes what ever u need lol,,kidding princess,u r precious though!!! e
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