| May 18, 2006 @ 11:29 AM |
Why are African American women not on the "who I like to meet" list
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ktownbuddy
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I have been on this site for almost a week and I have read through a lot of profiles. I see a disturbing trend in many of the profiles of the men. They say they want to meet a women with a variety personalities and builds; but when it comes to race they tend to be very specific in that they do not want to meet African-American women. As an African American woman who enjoys a wide range of activities and intersts, I seem to be excluded. I am well educated, self-motivated, outgoing, great sense of humor, independent, no children and love to meet new people and have a great time. All these qualities that I pocess have nothing to do with my race, but still men don't want to make friends with black woman. I don't know; it disturbs me. Especially since race is not a guarentee for anything. A person is who they are, regardless of the color of skin they have.
I just wanted to get some feedback and see if I am wrong about the men on this site. I hope I am. I hope that people have enough sense to know that if you want to meet great people, then you have to put away your preconceived perceptions. No one says that you have to be shackled to the people you meet on this site, but you may be missing out on some intersting connections by limiting your scope.
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| May 18, 2006 @ 11:46 AM |
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Morelover
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I agree that is a disturbing trend. I believe that a woman who is wonderful is wonderful no matter what her skin color, hair color or eye color are. It's how she loooks at life, what kind of vitality she has, and whether she is comfortable in her own skin that makes her attractive. I sure hope this is how most people feel...I know it's how I am.
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| Aug 7, 2006 @ 11:57 AM |
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Wufnu
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I don't look at guys profiles, but I didn't notice that trend on the female profiles I've seen. In fact, I've found a few that were exactly the opposite (of all colors). Do they specify this alot?
Personally, well, ok I had a small crush on an african classmate in my C++ class. We were project partners and worked well enough together we did all our projects together. Never asked her out though (she had a boyfriend). Another in high school... anyways, those people ain't me!  Inversely, how do most African American women feel about white men? On the other sites I've been on they are usually specific about wanting African American. It's interesting that most profiles on MD do not specify one way or the other, which means that if it does say they want specific colors then they had to go out of the way to put it there. Just more for us, eh?
Another thought: if they're the time to say *some race* only, are they really the type of person you want to associate with? Not me :(
You know, the same thing goes for fat folks o.O Just another part of life I'll have to deal with.
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| Aug 8, 2006 @ 11:25 AM |
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handymantn
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I am a 50yr. old white male, born and raised in the south. I think that color has nothing to do with relationships. Black women have certain trates that make them very attactive. I would be very happy to meet a A/A woman and would be proud to be seen with her.
But on the other hand, I have writen to about 10 or so black women and have had most of my letters deleted without being read. The only reply that I have had was from a very pretty and sweet 22yr. old who said that I was to old for her.
So if your not geting any response from white men then maybe your are looking at the wrong age group. Drop me a line and I will be happy to write back. 
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| Aug 8, 2006 @ 5:58 PM |
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Ensaged
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As a white man that has dated women of many races, let me say that everyone has their preferences.
Isn't it better for them to list what they really want, rather than what may be "PC"?
What if you date someone that just isn't attracted to you and is attracted to some other physical type, they try to be nice, but eventually misunderstanding arise and things go really wrong.
The idea of listing our preferences is to cut down on misunderstandings and not to oppress anyone.
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| Sep 2, 2006 @ 3:36 AM |
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radiant
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I agree with you.
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| Sep 6, 2006 @ 8:48 AM |
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donotmissout
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Hi: Are you from Memphis, TN?
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| Nov 27, 2006 @ 10:21 PM |
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Injuneer
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That is indeed an extraordinary question and even more interresting observation. I know, as a boy, I was raised in a home where race was very specificly taught as "the" dividing line between people. Very strange because, where we lived in Buchel KY, a young man named Casus Clay would run by our farm every morning; sometimes stopping to talk and to remind us to study hard.
I honestly and sincerely believed that until I went into the service, where I learned quickly that every man was an equal, a protector, truly a brother in arms; and it caused me to see the world much different. I became facinated with Plato's theory of the cave and how it pertains to all of us.
Now I have learned the difference between two people is indeed governed by the content of their character rather than the color of their skin. The African American woman that I would most like to meet is long since dead. Her name was Babe and she was the very large, black woman that tended to us on the farm after my folks divorced and my dad worked all day. Babe taught me to smile through a scrapped knee, now to take care of my new puppy, why cornbread made on top of the stove is the best, and mostly, the quiet dignity that every human being has, no matter their social standing, color, or anything else.
I do hope to meet Babe again some day. Lord be willing and the creek don't rise ...
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| Nov 28, 2006 @ 4:35 PM |
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futurepoolpro82
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i love african american women i think they are among the most beautiful women on this planet ....
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| Jul 17, 2007 @ 8:33 AM |
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Sweetheart83446
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Its called prefereces, everyone has a right to their own. Why dont I see mexicans on the who I would like ot meet list, or any single moms there. How about local hereos? 
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| Jul 22, 2007 @ 12:26 AM |
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justchris
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good point sweet.
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| Jul 22, 2007 @ 12:37 AM |
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dt3d2001
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I dont know I like all women
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| Jul 22, 2007 @ 2:54 PM |
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1RockinDude
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I dont see any that say looking for 1RockinDude either  ..lol
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| Jul 28, 2007 @ 5:48 AM |
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American_Woman
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Just not into women 
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| Nov 4, 2008 @ 8:20 PM |
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greeneyes5638
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I am colored blind to me the most important thing is what is inside a person not what is on the outside 
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| Nov 4, 2008 @ 8:35 PM |
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SpicySapphire
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Ok, I will admit it..a nice set of buns helps. Great shoulders and a smile just for me...
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| Nov 5, 2008 @ 4:15 AM |
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WebMonster
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With all due respect, I don't think it should really be disturbing..
It's just preferences, and all people have them, be it hair color or height and weight, or professional interests and hobbies.
It doesn't necessarily imply anything any more sinister than that.
Someone mentioned being 'PC' before. Yet, if you aren't drawn to redheads for instance, it would be less than sincere to suggest you are, just to make it sound good, and to try to avoid offending anyone.
Preferences means just that. And that covers a lot of territory.
-WM 
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| Nov 5, 2008 @ 11:19 AM |
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fromscratch
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Does it really matter in what person i prefer, does it affect anyone else but me 
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