| Aug 17, 2006 @ 8:48 AM |
What's up with the women here in Tx?
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Dyllonsdad
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Why is it? Women say they or on here to meet people to find what they are looking,but don't take the time to answer there email. Even if your not interested you could say that.If you don't take the time to get to know someone,you will never find what you are looking for.
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 12:05 PM |
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Tobo6570
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very true. i have come across quite a few that proclaim that they are tired of all the games, and end up playing games themselves. it's very frustrating, but all you can do is keep trudging forward and weed through the game players, fake profiles, and idiots to try to find the needle in the haystack.
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 5:46 PM |
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redbronze
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Smile why is it that both of you looked but did not write.. It does go both ways...
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 7:08 PM |
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MemIndigo
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lol you tell em! I always answer my mail..quess I am just too durn curious..and why pick on just Texas *grins* are ya keeping score..state by state...
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 9:36 PM |
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TRAVIS1946
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I often look but don't write because of things like, high financial requirements, or politics (life is too short to spend with someone 180 degrees away from you). One can get lots of hints from a profile about a person's real requirements and character.
Poor grammer, spelling, use of internet slang and instant messaging "shortcuts" such as u instead of you, lol, and other such are a serious turnoff. Also, many people (men and women) capitalize everything. This indicates anger and shouting.
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 10:40 PM |
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Dyllonsdad
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The reason I said Texas women is because I live in Texas and I'm not up for a 1000 mile relationship.So Texas is where I'm looking.It's not to say,all the women I write too,where born and raised here.
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| Aug 17, 2006 @ 11:23 PM |
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3BearMom
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I have to agree with Travis1946. I always look at the persons profile before I respond, most of the time I do respond just to be shut down for being true to who I am. I state clearly in my profile who I am and what I like and don't like and I have this in my blogs and forum responses also, which I might add most men don’t read.
What amazes me is that most men -- not all -- think that a little flattery and erotic talk and sexual suggestions in the first email is going to get them into my life and into my bed. -- To me that is an enormous turnoff and I usually block them after that.
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| Aug 18, 2006 @ 1:00 AM |
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redbronze
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Hummm I also look at the profile.. as there are too many Bible thumpers here in Texas well there are... Smile... I also look at the politics of someone because I really do not like to beat myself up with someone who is not in the ballpark with me.. Although I was married till death did us part to someone of an opposite political position than I was.. I figure in the long run I won Smile.. We canceled out many years of voting because I did one way and he the other.. We were on the same page as far as religion goes though so that is probably why it was a cool marriage in all is strange ways.. So yeah I think that one has to be compadable on some fronts but others do not matter...
As far as playing games, it happens on both sides.. I have let the man I dated (this was a long while back) know where I stood even before dating and was berated for not attending church.. Hummmm I stated clearly that I did not nor have I ever gone before the first date.. Needless to say that did not last and he married a teacher with a lot of property two weeks after he met her.. I guess she went to church.. Or was it that she was well landed... Hummmmmm... Needless to say I do not date much as it is difficult at best to find someone that is not into the head games I do not like to play...
By the by I did look at my profile and updated it to reflect my current employmnt status, did the spell check and only had two typos... No short cuts in language that I can see.. So hummmmmm.... Smile have a good one...
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| Aug 18, 2006 @ 2:39 PM |
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hellothere185
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I agree with 3BearMom...about men expecting women to respond to sexy emails.... and I'm a man!! Come on guys, you don't actually think that a woman is going to jump into bed with you just from a provacative email or picture???
Let me ask you ladies, how about meeting a good man, that is honest, lonely, and with no expectation for sex ?????????? If so, let's chat....
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| Aug 18, 2006 @ 4:15 PM |
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Tobo6570
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I think that you would have to agree that there is a reasonable expectation for sex when looking towards a relationship. By that I don't mean hopping under the covers with everyone you come across, or sending sexually related messages inappropriately. But the last time I checked most people on here are looking for someone else to have a relationship with, and at some point in every romantic relationship, the issue of sex has to be addressed. Having said that, I do agree with the posts that were shocked by the expectance of a reply to a sexual email. I am assuming that was done as an initial email, which is ridiculous. Just more game players in action. It is actually too bad for them, cause they probably missed out on learning more about a good person.
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| Aug 18, 2006 @ 6:05 PM |
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lacyvsq
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Well, I can't speak for all TX women, but I will speak for one. In deciding how to or whether to answer an email, I consider these things:
1. Did he take the time to look at my profile? If he has tracking turned off, he there is plenty in my profile to reference to indicate he has at least taken the time to look over who I am besides just a pretty picture. If a man has not taken the time to look, I needn't take the time to answer.
2. Is he sending me a form email? If the email sounds like it could be sent to 50 other women, without an edit, I assume it has been sent to that many and unless there is something particularly appealing in the profile, I am likely to send back one of MD's canned email responses.
3. Is this a person I might like to have in my life in some way. I am attracted to people with a positive outlook; people who are careful about how they word their desires; people who spell and punctuate and communicate well; people who like people and places and activities; people who see in my profile something they really think they might like.
That's what's up with this TX woman.  Oh -- and I would probably look for an expectation of sex if a long-term relationship were in the future -- make that a definite.
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| Aug 18, 2006 @ 11:10 PM |
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riverly99
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It's not that....It's that.I don't feel good about hearing that someone isn't interested in me...so I figure that it's nicer just to not answer at all.
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| Aug 19, 2006 @ 8:49 AM |
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crazie_momma40
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TRUTHFULLY!, The real question should be.....What's up with TEXAS MEN???????? Why are they ALL Cheaters?????????
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| Aug 19, 2006 @ 6:51 PM |
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TRAVIS1946
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It is obvious crazie_momma (sic) has never met REAL Texas men. I spent fifteen years in a hideous marraige and never cheated, but the ex did. By the time she started sleeping with her boy friend, she had destroyed any love I had for her so I did not give a damn.
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| Aug 19, 2006 @ 7:33 PM |
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redbronze
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In looking at another blog I will post a good response that I think is revelant to everyone.. it is from a man in new mexico... the title of the post was Why is it so hard to meet good men/women
Michael states:
I'd start with defining what we mean by a "good" woman or man. I've never met a "bad" woman. I just meet women who aren't right for me. I'm sure those same women are right for someone else.
I believe that there are only 4 reasons we don't meet the women (or men) we want:
1. We're focused on wanting what isn't right for us. For example, if I'm obsessed with meeting a supermodel, I'll probably be waiting forever. I've known lots of women who are focused on meeting a rich man. That may not be what's right for them.
2. At the deepest levels within, we don't expect to meet them. And we tend to get what we expect most deeply. If we expect not to find them, we won't do what it takes to find them ... or else we won't notice them when they're there.
3. We aren't ready for them. In my case, for example, I'm still letting go of my last partner, and no matter what I say, I'm not really ready for my next partner. I've observed as a counselor and coach that a lot of people consciously think they're ready, but when we explore it some, they really aren't. As soon as we're truly ready, it will be much easier to find them.
4. We're working out some spiritual purpose that requires us to be single. As soon as that's completed, we may find them with no difficulty.
Anyway, that's my opinion.
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| Aug 19, 2006 @ 8:45 PM |
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TRAVIS1946
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Michael is a wise man.
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| Aug 20, 2006 @ 11:55 AM |
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lovingyoualways
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I just read the comments about women or people in Texas. As i was reading i was shaking my head rather profusely. Some of the posts i agree with some i did not agree with. There are as many people, if not more, who lie and cheat in other states as well as Texas. Most of what is said in these forums are very true. All the opinions and experiences shed new light on different intimate subjects. I don't know what men or women really are looking for, nor am i here to judge. But since when do we really know what we want. I guess that's were all the life experiences come into play. I realize, as well as understand, that i'm young. I do have more of a journey that i have to travel that a few individuals have already traveled. However, there are many experiences that i've had to endure already into my young life. Things that many 30 year olds haven't yet to experience. People do tend to be fake in places like this. I mean, what do you really expect?? Most individuals come to these sites because their own lives are so dysfuntional, that they try to be something not to in a pathetic attempt to feel good about something. Like Tobo said, trying to weed through all the morons and people that are here just to make trouble can be really tiresome. Travis was right when he said that you can find out a lot about a person by his or her profile. Once you get through all the slang and internet jargon, you are like what?? Mostly, it's the young ones that do that. All the mature individuals use punctuation as well as correct grammar. Once one get the blood to stop from the ears from all the screaming, you're left dazed and confused. It can be rather difficult to read not to mention understand. Although, one thing one does not know is if it's a lie or not. ??? Finally, about the sexy replies.....three words; disrespect, disrespect, disrespect. That shows nothing but disrespect. I can't stand when women are disrespected. With having said that, there are some pictures of women on here that are rather provocative. What i mean by that is pictures showing women in little or no clothes, and/or in subjective positions. They are on here. I have seen them with my own two eyes. I seen women bending over or sitting in front of the camera with their legs spread open. And don't forget about the ones with "intimate encounters" on their profile. Come on, if you want others to respect you; first you must respect yourself. We all know that. As for the others that were getting those replies, it's just plain disrespect along with immaturity. It's the kids on this site that really do such things. Or the immature adults with no respect for themselves and others. I think sex should be the last thing to ever come up. What ever happened to the old days. When a man would "court" (guess that's how you spell it; if not please forgive me) a woman. I guess i'm from the old school. I am a firm believer in it's important to be friends first, then let the relationship blossom if you will. I really don't know about reply even if your not interested. Yes, it's good manners. However, just don't be cude about it. I wrote a young lady on here, a reply, and said if would be interested in chatting. She wrote me back and stated that why did i sent her a reply. She doesn't even know me. And to top it all off, she said, and i quote " you are not my type anyway." Well, i didn't know that you have know anybody on here to be able to write them. So, i wrote back that she wasn't what i thought and she wasn't my type either. I made a mistake and believe me, it will not happen again. Then, she wrote me back and said thank you for the insults!!!! What just happened here??? I was thinking to myself. She started it!!  To make a long story short, just be nice if you write back and you are not interested. I agree with Travis once again. Crazie Momma really needs to get out more. Good job Michael.
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| Aug 23, 2006 @ 10:39 AM |
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letsliveitup
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I'm in agreement with a few of you,the real question is what is up with both genders? Not sure how most of our generation was raised? I believe that you need to look beyond what is on just the outside! Yes I know that it helps to want to talk to someone that your physcially attracted to but that is only surface. It's a well know fact that most of our population is over weight or have a extra padding. Love is not just superfacial. So I believe that we do have to kiss alot of frogs to get our prince or princesses. Like most of you said that looking at the whole profile helps and also just jump in and send a message, at the worst you get the reply "thanks for emailing me, you sound nice but do not think we have anything in common" Not a devestateing answer, crap looke at it like well did not have to dress up, get worked up on meeting that person, no nervious butterflys, no money spent to find out that you were not for each other. Like the sayings goes nothing ventured nothing gained! Who know you may end up as good friends helping fixing each other up!
Main thing is if you have morels and your here looking for someone to date, don't take it so personal, remember the frogs they all need love toooooo.
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| Aug 23, 2006 @ 7:54 PM |
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TRAVIS1946
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Many of the frogs are OK but the toads can be really nasty! 
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| Aug 25, 2006 @ 5:58 PM |
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EggSmasher50
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I here ya regarding too many bible thumpers!!!
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