| Sep 17, 2006 @ 9:56 PM |
Online dating is harder than I thought
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goofball100
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whew... I mean its easier to face rejection on here. But I think maybe its harder in the sense to connect with someone. I see some ladies on here who have like 50 guy friends on here and its a little intimidating when ur trying to make first contact. Ive been on here a month and I've yet to get a reply. How do I know when to not waste my time? Im really not experienced in this so any advice would be appreciated.
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| Sep 17, 2006 @ 10:55 PM |
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pecock100
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sup
i would say just suck up the intimidation and dive right straight into the pool, then chill back for the reply.
think about it, even out there, are you always able to tell how many guys the girl has been with, leave alone being hit on, yet if u like her u still close your damn eyes and give it a shot, right?
so some ol principles don't change, i would say they r applicable on here to.
good luck.
its me Papichulo!
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 11:14 AM |
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a_heinsohn
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It takes a while getting used to but it does get easier as you adjust.
I know what you mean about the friends list thing though. This is the only dating site that I've ever seen that does it. I've grown to assume that whomever I meet on these things is probly dating other people which is fine but I've never liked the idea of actually knowing about my competition and seeing their faces.
Still if the girl interests you and she responds to your email then she is obviously wanting to get to know you so just try and put those other guys out of your mind. Since this site seems to have a sense of community to it they might actually just be friends they talk to online.
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| Sep 18, 2006 @ 5:06 PM |
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lacyvsq
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The friends list on this site is perhaps mostly used for giving permission for posting comments to pictures and blogs and shout-outs without waiting for approval. There are also some who accumulate friends and some who add as friends anyone with whom they IM through this site -- there is an icon on the IM window for friends, but not for favorites.
If you look at my friends list, there are probably more women than men. I don't date any of the people on my friends list. I would advise asking what a woman's friends list means to her if it bothers you, or just ignoring it if you are really interested in finding out about a particular woman. Hopefully, if a person is seriously involved with someone on the list, s/he will indicate status as 'in a relationship'.
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| Sep 20, 2006 @ 12:43 AM |
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TRAVIS1946
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Pecock has it right.
What Lacy said about the friend list makes sense. I only have one on my list and that is a young woman to whom I paid a compliment. She then asked permission to put me on her friends list. As I recall, the compliment was something about if I were thirty years younger I would be actively seeking her company.
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| Sep 27, 2006 @ 10:08 AM |
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Phyllis
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Please don't let the friends' list intimidate you. The friends I have wouldn't even be considered as potential dates. We've posted or talked on the phone and just found we believe alike, have some sort of rapport-nothing at all romantic. I don't really think a man I liked has bothered with the friends' list - he usually just asks for my phone number and we go from there.
Have a great day!
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| Sep 28, 2006 @ 12:15 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Oh, heck yeah, friends list for me is JUST friends mostly. I have a friend on my list that I referred to MD. We would never be otherwise. If people are not responding, it could be your profile. You pretty much state your likes and don't care fors rather well. So if they don't think they fit, they may be ticked off at you for contacting them with your particular preferences. And unwilling to tell you of course.
Blog, to let people know who you are and make more posts. Maybe someone will contact you. You have to remember that you have a very short distance you are looking in as well. That really limits you. People that honor your profile will not email or wink at you. Many is the time I have been attracted to someone just to see that their profile say 50 miles from them. Oops, that invariably shuts me out. I respect their wishes.
Also, if someone emails or winks at me I look at their friends lists. If they have nothing but women and lots of hot looking names and sexy pix, I figure they are only looking for sexy ladies to turn them on and do not consider them further. Tastes do tell!
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